You did the right thing. Don't make a move in her direction.
You were suffering from "nice guy" syndrome. You know the saying "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?". That's what was happening here. She was getting all this emotional support (which women lust after like men lust after sex) from you but didn't have to make any kind of commitment to you.
Again, you did the right thing. Good job.
2006-10-21 17:21:41
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answered by Anonymous
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You absolutely did the right thing. Whenever a lady tells you she just thinks of you as a friend, you can safely assume, you lost in love. Staying there as her friend would have ended badly. You would have had such a constant hurt in your heart that you would have either died inside or done something stupid to try to force her to make the decision you did by telling her to stop calling.
Women do not understand that emotional intimacy with the opposite sex is sexual for a guy. Appropriate boundaries were not respected by either of you until you recognized the harm it was doing you.
Now, move on. Yeah it hurts, but you won't die, and eventually you will love again. Until then, enjoy your real friends. Learn from the experience, even take some counseling on emotional boundaries. Good luck.
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2006-10-21 17:30:15
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answered by Anonymous
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Did you really tell her how you feel, and how much she means to you. First off apologize. Then after that you tell her why you did it. Respect the fact that she is just going through a breakup/divorce. She needs time. Tell her taht you understand that, if you do, and that for the moment that friendship is fine with you. Don't press the issue. tell her once, and now the ball is in her court. Continue to be a good listener, and you'll know when the time is right to move forward.
2006-10-21 17:26:37
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answered by Anonymous
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So what's your question? You already told her how you feel, if she acts on it then be cool. There is nothing worst than catching a young lady on the rebound so soon after a divorce. These types of romances never work out. Are you sure it's not just lust? Wanting something you can not have? Get over it and look for a woman who wants you for you not for solving all sorts of problems.
2006-10-21 17:23:04
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answered by Anonymous
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She likes to share with you because you are good listener and may be more caring. She had been hurt by the person she loved (Ex boyfriend). She at this moment was looking in you a good friend who care her. Try to talk her and do not expect any thing more than friendship. You need to wait till comes towards you. She may come and she may not.
2006-10-21 17:32:46
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answered by aksolankius 2
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You have to decide if you can just be friends with her or stay away from her. She is not interested (at this point) in a bf/gf relationship with you, unless you can settle on just being friends, your going to continue to hurt. In the future, she may decide she wants more from you. I hope you can figure this out and be happy again.
2006-10-21 17:22:04
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answered by ? 6
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I think your name "lost in love" is very appropriate here. lol
Actually, you should not have told her that. Maybe that was a wrong decision. Call her back if you still have feelings for her, which you say you do have. I think the best course of action is to suggest to her that you want to further the relationship, but don't blurt it out directly. Best of luck!
2006-10-21 17:19:22
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answered by Gyan Asamoah 1
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Love sometimes means self-sacrifice. Give her plenty of space; her plate is really full right now. What she needs is friendship and that is all she has to offer. Since its not enough for you, let it be. She is honoring your request.
2006-10-21 17:22:26
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answered by Rita T 2
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She's just looking for a shoulder to cry on. If all she can talk about is her ex, she's not ready for a new relationship.
2006-10-21 17:24:43
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answered by nursesr4evr 7
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its hard to mess with love between them two if there is any left...i'd let them try to work things out 1st. and if nothing is fixed between them. then give her space. dont let her take you on a rebound...let her find herself. trust me. this JUST happened to me...and now i want to die...
2006-10-21 17:20:43
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answered by ... 1
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