I admit that when I found out, I booted his butt. Then I cried and wailed for three years and God was merciful. I was devastated because I thought the tough love would shape him up. He filed for divorce at the behest of his lover. Both of them really put me and my kids through hell. He has filed for divorce but hasn' gone through with it. They are kaput and he makes overtures to be back together andthen says things like I ruined his life. It would take a miracle for us to be a couple together. I think it's time for me to do the filing for divorce and may be that's that. I have to move on, and if he is saved and born again(I pray for him) God will put us back together. But, I am thinking may be the man needs to have a definate line in the sand and a serious boundary of divorce is what he needs. Also, does God really want me to be with someone who thinks that if he comes back to me, he would be settling? What about the example to my kids?
2006-10-21 17:09:46 · 6 answers · asked by lover 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Divorce may or may not be the answer. Perhaps you should seek advice from your clergy and/or marital counseling for you and your husband (it will help you regardless whether or not he goes). Hopefully, divorce will be your last resort. Try your best to make it work, and if it doesn't and you can honestly say to yourself that you have done your very best, cut your losses and begin anew. Hopefully your children will be spared the nastiness that can be a result of divorce. Good luck and best wishes.
2006-10-22 03:30:08 · answer #1 · answered by Witchy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is the key you are looking for. Do you love him? If you truly love him then you can forgive him and have a good life together. You would have to set down ground rules like family and church but those things can be worked out. You need to know he loves you also before getting back together. God has given the best example in both ways he has stated that it is OK to divorce in your case but he him self has stated that his bride who went whoring after other gods he will at the end take back so that is up to you and your heart. Both ways can be good examples for the children if done care.
2006-10-21 17:31:36 · answer #2 · answered by saintrose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I to had an unfaithful husband and it took me three long years of seperation to see that he was never coming back to me so I filed for divorce and have never been happier. I am still on my own and I like it that way. I have my kids to keep me going when things get hard. In the long run it is worth it then you can use the negative energy in somehting positive instead of on him and what he is doing. Let him ruin his own life and get on with yours. You deserve much happiness but you must connect to yourself again and get rid of that negative energy first. So divorce him as soon as possible. You will not regret it.
2006-10-21 18:11:47 · answer #3 · answered by stasha_duricic2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should file for divorce, and get on with your life. Find someone new if you choose, or not. It should be your choice.
2006-10-21 17:18:45 · answer #4 · answered by quietwater 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave God out of it. You two created all your problems on your own, accept it and take full responsibility. No one was suprised by any of this, why are you?
2006-10-21 17:21:27 · answer #5 · answered by briank622 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God joined in on the affair & they made it a threesome. Oh, wait...I just remembered....your god is impotent. Couldn't even stick it in a virgin.
2006-10-21 17:25:46 · answer #6 · answered by Edwardo Corrochio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋