An Alcoholic for a neighbor and its a shame !!?

Question

He's going to die because of this. but he chooses to drink the poison..If you are a drinker, please ! No comments on defending a drinker that you maybe yourself. He has a belly like he is having twins. He goes in the hospital only for them to drain him of stomach fluids ( 5-7 liters) but comes home and starts right back with the beer. Now its at the point that the hospital is through with draining him. ( cause of insurance reasons) They are going to give him pills to take. I like this neighbor, he is really a good person, and only 38 yrs old. You can't talk to him about this disease. If any Doctors are on board here, what do you think as far as time does he have him on his health? Positve answers only please. Thank You...

Answer 1

I am an alcoholic and I have been sober for a while happily. And day my family member talked to some AA meeting members and thay did what is called a 12 steep call on me I end up going to a meeting and seen how much I was like tha others and how they recovered from the problem. It would probably be a good Idea if you tried to call some active members of your local AA chapter and ask them to help. It would be a good Idea if they called on him after he was on a bender. There are only a few ends for an active drinker and that is Jails instutions and death. You could help him and he can get sober and have a good life. I see that you care about this person and Im concerned myself from your description of the situation. ....You may be the only one who will have the chance to save his life,..... My name is Marty and I drank for 20 years but I now live a clean and sober life,.. it is posable him to do so also. Email me and Ill help any way I can. God Bless
Marty T

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Answer 2

some times there is not much you can do for people who do drink,, like that,, yes you can talk to them but it does not always work,, at most maybe just being their friend is all you can do,, i haveaa brother who drink, like that and the whole family worries about him but we have talked to him over and over,, so sometimes all you can do,, is to be there for them,,, a drinker like will not stop unless he wants to,, realy i have seen this a lot in my father and in my brother,, there is nothing you do or say to change the way these people choose to live,, it has to be up to them,, but you are a very good person for being there for him,, maybe the pills will help,, I don't know,, I am sure he knows how you care about him right,, maybe take him to church so he can find God and maybe God will help him,, I have seen this happen also,, sometimes it takes someone much higher than us to help people we care about with stuff like this,, hope this helps

Answer 3

I am not a doctor but I sponsor recovering alcoholics and addicts. He will not change until he wants to. No one can talk him into it. It is a pity to die from alcoholism but it happens everyday! Here is a letter we use in the program...

To my family,
I am an alcoholic. I need your help.
Don’t blame or scold me. You wouldn’t be angry at me for having Diabetes or Cancer. My Alcoholism is a sickness too.
Don’t pour out my liquor. It’s just a waste because I can always find more.
Don’t let me provoke your anger. If you attack me verbally or physically, you will confirm my bad opinion of myself. I hate myself enough already.
Don’t feel sorry for me. I live in a world of self pity and self centeredness. Your pity for me will only make my selfishness grow stronger.
Don’t let your loving anxiety for me lead you into doing what I ought to do for myself. If you assume my responsibilities, you make my failure to assume them permanent. My sense of guilt will be increased and you will feel resentful.
Don’t accept my promises. I’ll promise anything to get off the hook. The nature of my illness prevents me from keeping my promises even though I mean them at the time.
Don’t make threats. Once you have made a decision, stick to it.
Don’t believe everything I tell you; it may be a lie. Denial of reality is a symptom of my illness. Moreover I’m likely to lose respect for those I can fool easily.
Don’t let me take advantage of you or exploit you in any way. Love cannot exist for long without dimension of justice.
Don’t cover up for me or try in any way to spare me the consequences of my drinking.
Don’t lie for me, pay my bills or work to meet my household obligations. It may reduce or avert the very crisis that would prompt me to seek help. I can continue to deny that I have a drinking problem as long as you provide an automatic escape from the consequences of my drinking.
Above all, do learn all you can about alcoholism and your role in relation to me. Go to AA meetings regularly, read the literature and keep in touch with Al-Anon members. They’re the people who can help you see the whole situation clearly.


I love you,

Your Alcoholic

Answer 4

I had a neighbor that was a professional drinker.
I asked a lot of doctors why he dranked.
They said he dranked to hide from reality.
When drunk, life is good.
When sober, you have to face the problems of life.

Some people like to be free of problems. So they drink.
Good health is not on their mind. ONLY escape from life and problems of life.

If he chooses to do this, nothing you can do will help him.

Answer 5

Someone like this has emotional problems and looks to drugs or alcohol to numb themselves from having to deal with their emotions.

So he is really powerless to stop srinking until his other issues are resolved.

Answer 6

Nothing more sad,try to get someone from AA to talk to him!

Answer 7

he's lucky to have a neighbor who cares. he's addicted to alchohol. bring him to an alchohol clinic to help him quit.

Answer 8

alcoholism is a disease
only he can stop if he wants
be kind

Answer 9

i suggest talking to him