My boyfriend and i have been going out for a long time but he cheated on me once and it hurt so bad cuz i love him so much. he was the first guy that i have ever felt like that with. i don't want to lose him but i just to afriad that he will hurt me agian wat do i do?
2006-10-21 16:52:57 · 18 answers · asked by ~Lost Gurl~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You said "I don't want to lose him...". That's your problem right there. If you let your fear of losing him control you, he will not respect you and will just cheat over and over.
I'm not going to ask why would you love someone like that because that's not really a fair question is it? But let me ask you this : do you love yourself? Is this being fair to you?
No guy is worth the trouble that you are going through. There are so many guys out there that you would like that would love to be with you. That would never cheat on you. Why would they? They already have the best girl in the world. :)
What do you do? Let him go and get someone else. That's not an easy answer but it's the right one. It's what you deserve.
2006-10-21 16:59:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has said to you that he is sorry and is willing to put in the effort to rebuild the trust in your relationship, then you have to find a way to let the past go and move forward If you are constantly bringing it up then you will push him away. Don't say a word just be watchful. Don't anticipate that he will do it either because you will be sending the wrong kind of energy out and that is exactly what will happen.
Remember, he has to be willing to make some changes and you have to be willing to let go of the past, if you don't you will lose him. Let this be his last chance.
2006-10-22 00:14:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said he broke your heart more then once!
See, he comes back to you realizing the other one does not have what you have.
And you too tolerated him more then once, so the bond is there and he is just window shopping, if I could say so.
I think with the time and the set backs that he gets for others and the care that he gets from you, he will be yours.
2006-10-22 00:02:38 · answer #3 · answered by ~Raju~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry lost girl once a cheater always a cheater . even if he swears" I wont do it again I promise" whatever he will and you are goign to be living in hell because of the plain fact you dont trust him and you never will so get the hell out there is always always some one else and the saying time will heal is true it will
2006-10-22 01:00:01 · answer #4 · answered by fairy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its called "breathing"
A healthy relationship "breathes"
Since he decided to move away from the mutual respect that you have at the center of your relationship you need not follow him but rather move in the opposite direction.
That is distance yourself from him for a while. Imagine a line at the middle as he moved away from the line in one direction you move away in the opposite. If he loves you he will come back to this line of love, if he doesn't he didn't deserve you.
If you try to pull him in you are only moving in his direction and ultimately you are saying anything you do is fine with me. Doesn't matter how much you hurt me I will follow you and it doesn't matter if you love me.
Remember breathe. Healthy relationships breathe
Unhealthy relationships suffocate
No relationship equals not breathing
2006-10-22 00:03:14 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet n Sour 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dont try to think about it that much it may hurt but dont think if i was you just dump him once a cheater always a cheater thats what i say the first time that he cheated on me its over thats what i been done
2006-10-21 23:56:37 · answer #6 · answered by LUIS ROSA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU CANT REALLY TRUST SOMEONE THAT HAS HURT YOU.
IT WILL ALL BE THERE THAT TRUST FACTOR. THE QUESTION THAT YOU WILL NEED TO ASK YOUR SELF
IF HE CHEATED ONCE CAN I BELIEVE THAT HE WONT
DO IT AGAIN. AND HOW WILL I FEEL. IF IT HURT NOW
THEN HOW WILL IT FEEL WHEN AND IF IT HAPPEN AGAIN.
IF YOU DONT HAVE TRUST YOU REALLY DONT HAVE MUCH
OF ANY THING ANY WAY.
2006-10-21 23:59:20 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see where the more than once part is coming in. But I can tell you, if he hurts you once shame on him. If he hurts you twice shame on you.
2006-10-21 23:57:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is based on trust.. and becoz he cheated on u once the trust has been broken..
and if there is no right bases.. then there is no relation!
2006-10-21 23:57:35 · answer #9 · answered by heba! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why on God's Green earth would you even be with someone who has cheated on you??!?
MOVE ON!!
Trust is hard to earn but easy to break!
2006-10-21 23:58:30 · answer #10 · answered by f4fanactic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋