My niece is 13 and I'm worried because she does NOTHING wrong. She is great and unlike my other nieces she is fun to be around and doesn't seem to have that teenage attitude. She is like a perfect angel:
-She has straight A+ in all of her honors classes. She works on homework every night and is always the leader and does most of the work when she's in a group
-She is the most independent child I know. She gets herself up and ready and on the bus, comes home, does homework and take a little nap, cooks herself dinner, takes a shower, watch some tv and goes to bed. She spends her weekends doing homework
-She loves to volunteer and collect for charity
-She assures us she won't have sex until she's at least out of college (She doesn't want a boyfriend because schools more important)
-She cleans up for everyone with no complaints
-She acts like a mother to her cousins and does it with a smile
-She enjoys intellectual conversations
Should I be worried? can any real teen act this way?
2006-10-21 16:41:23 · 20 answers · asked by Karen G 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
She does have friends and she does go out sometimes but she mostly likes to stay home or she watches her little cousins alot. Their mother is always gone and she has stepped in to help out (she wanted to).Her parents work full time and they come home around 8 but ever since she could walk she has been independent. I've tried getting her to go on a date but she refuses every time.
Her parents are one of the Americans who go through the mcdonalds drive thru for dinner every night but she's a vegetarian and cooks herself dinner.
We have taken her to a therapist and they said she is absolutely opposite of possibly being depressed.
She thinks family comes first and she doesn't try to be perfect
I try to give her a reward or try taking her places but she hasn't been to the mall in years (she likes vintage and thrift shops) and she just has me give the money i would spend on clothes or hair to charity(she throws her hair up in a ponytail w/ no makeup) and takes her cousins to the zoo
2006-10-21 17:29:39 · update #1
It sounds like she is either incredibly mature for her age. I wish I had such problems with my 11 year old son! You and your family should consider yourselves blessed to have such a wonderful child. Maybe treat her for her wonderful behavior, maturity, good attitude and awesome grades...You could take her to the mall and let her pick out a new outfit, a day at the salon with you getting hair and nails done, a special picnic lunch, museum, ice skating with you....etc. I am sure she would love all of it and because she is so sweet she wouldn't expect it!
2006-10-21 16:48:03 · answer #1 · answered by **KELLEY** 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should not be worried. She sounds really mature and thank God for that. Plenty of other girls her age and busy having sex and she is focusing on the right things. Now at 13 she is too young to be dating, but she should definitely get out of the house and have fun. Now of course at 13 she can promise not to have sex until after college.Lets hope she keeps that frame of mind.I can see that you may be worried that she may want to have kids at a young age because she is already playing mother.
I had a cousin like that who was always left at home to care for her young brother and she ended up getting pregnant in high school because her parents were not paying any attention to her.
But your niece sounds like a very smart young lady. There are still some good kids in the world today that don't give their parents problems. And when I was growing up I was one of those kids, so I know they exist.
2006-10-22 14:58:37 · answer #2 · answered by DymeTyme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be pleased if I had a teenage daughter like that!
However...
I would encourage her to enjoy her teenage years, and not be SO mature all the time. It really is alright to have a little bit of immature fun sometimes. Encourage her to hang out with her friends, go out to eat together, go shopping, and be a teen! I'd only worry because I'd hate to have her grow up too fast and miss some of the best years of her life because she was so mature at such a young age!
2006-10-22 00:31:31 · answer #3 · answered by Stevie C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be thankful, nurture her and dont let her slip between the cracks, take her places that will stimulate her mind...
some kids never fall into those traps, Ive had some friends in my time that were way too good for me.
She must have had good family influences and strong moral standards to grow up and stay so level headed. Once she starts highschool though, some of those things might change so keep her headed in the right direction. And reward her for jobs well done.
2006-10-21 23:50:32 · answer #4 · answered by Candy C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hahah i'm 15.. that reminds me of me! i act like a perfect little angel and i do my homework and assignments etc... but i go out with guys and stuff behind my parents backs.. ive had a few boyfriends and my parents never even realised :] i do actually care about my school work though
2006-10-22 00:15:21 · answer #5 · answered by nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,maybe you can take her somewhere on the weekends to get her out of doing homework.Other than that she sounds like a pretty good kid.But,hey,what do I know,I'm only 9 years old.
2006-10-24 17:58:08 · answer #6 · answered by johnsonfootball45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Count your blessings and enjoy every minute of it.She might be what it is called an "Indigo" kids , which are one step ahead in the evolutionary plan compared to the rest of humanity.
2006-10-21 23:54:39 · answer #7 · answered by danshalom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is completely fine. For all the kids with attitude and problem there are some who are the nice ones!! Believe it or not.
Take it easy. Enjoy it while it lasts!
2006-10-21 23:45:42 · answer #8 · answered by vironeal 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I.m sorry but something doesnt seem right here. she sounds like a perfect little zombie. why is she so desparate to be perfect? how strict are her parents? (who dont make dinner???)
Does she have any friends or fun?
2006-10-22 00:11:42 · answer #9 · answered by richard w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get down on your knees and thank God. She is a blessing to her family.
My daughter was like that. Never gave us a single problem.
2006-10-21 23:53:19 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋