Would you stay with your bf/gf if they had a drug addiction?

Question

But has the merit to change.

Answer 1

I'd tell her/him of all their good points as individuals and that drugs are not the answer to what ever problems they are facing...and that you would help them and stick by them while they go through the hardest time they are going to face to overcome their addiction to drugs.. That is what friends are for, and can become a lifetime experience for all parties concerned and eventually develope into a long and meaningful relationship and grow old together... Best of Luck helping your friend...and It takes alot of love to...

Answer 2

If they are actively using then no, I'd run like hell. However, if they are addicted and admit it and are willing to get help and counseling for it then I'd stick around for a while. Of course that's just me. I am not a quitter but I'll be damn if I'll ever be an enabler again. Yes, my ex-boyfriend is an addict and he got busted selling OTC sinus medication to an undercover FBI agent and he is now serving time in prison. I had already broken it off with him when he did this but I sit back and remember him telling me I'd never amount to **** and yet he's the one behind bars and I'm the one happily married and in college.

Answer 3

I would look at the relationship, what will the relationship offer you, set a time frame to where your partner has to get help. A relationship that is all one sided, is not a relationship. Think of yourself first, find a support system for you. Read a book called, "Co-Dependent No More". it gives excellent advise. Seek out a group from Narcotics Anonymous, and then hope that they can help themselves. I walked away from a 20 year relationship. It was hurting me more than helping my partner.

Answer 4

No. Because if they need you there to check up on them.. then they're not strong enough to do it on their own. Also they might not change. They might continuously have the merit to do so... but not actually ever bother doing so. It would be better to be with someone you don't need to help fix.

Answer 5

If he was willing to change YES but if he was lying and telling you that he was going to change and still on the stuff then you need to drop him Be strict with him and tell him if he wants YOU then no drugs But if he wants the drugs then no YOU He has to have the will and want to quit and it won't be easy GOOD LUCK

Answer 6

I would if they were trying to change because that's the last thing they need is some one giving up on them. Just explain to them how much more life is worth than surrendering to drugs. I would deffinately stick by them and try to help them change their life for the better.

Answer 7

He would have never became my boyfriend in the first place...

I have been on dates with guys who do drugs... and once I find out... I don't go out with them again...

but... hypothetically.... if I was already with the guy... he got involved in drugs behind my back... and then I found out... I would try to get him help. If he didn't stop, then I would not be able to be with him.

Answer 8

If it's smoking or tobbaco then whatever. If it's the other drugs like alcohol, marijuana, etc, then I probably would because you never know what my happen. The drug maybe giving emotions that could be dangerous.

Answer 9

no,you will have no fun and no life with them,they will only end up using you to help get what they need and the worst part is you can get into a lot of trouble if they ever got caught and had some on them and you were with them,because a judge has heard everything every excuse, when you tell him I don't do it.I didn't know they had it on them.

Answer 10

Sure if they were trying to get clean, why leave someone when they are in their greatest time of need? You have to be supportive of the people you love and leaving would only make them worse.