I need a little advise about a situation that I'm in, There is a man that is sweet and caring and loves being with me, but unfortuately I have stronger feelings for another man who I'm very much interested in. He also enjoys my company. but is scared to take it further.
2006-10-21 16:27:13 · 11 answers · asked by kay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
True love cannot exist unless the other person loves you too. If this other man is not willing to take a risk for you, he does not truly love you. (If love is too strong a word, replace it with like or strong feelings). Love is no fear and taking risks and living for the other person...as well as vice versa. If there is a sweet, caring man who loves you, why not give it a shot? Perhaps the feelings will develop? Maybe the reason you have stronger feelings for the other man is because you can't 'have him'?....But then again you can't force feelings that aren't there. If I were you, I would look deeper into the people. Can you see yourself with them forever or a long time? Children? Etc? If one of the men were to leave your life, would you be content with just the other one?
2006-10-21 16:35:13 · answer #1 · answered by answersforyou! 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience, I can tell you why you are more deeply feeling the other guy more than the sweet and caring one. Its just the simple fact that you cant have him, that he is not wanting to step up to the plate and in doing so its keeping you on your toes. And that's always fun knowing the other person has feelings for you but just doesn't wanna commit. Yes, Commit. Lets be real here for a second.
There is no SCARED OF TAKING IT FURTHER. That's straight BS! And I think you deserve someone better than that. If he was truly that interested and truly enjoyed spending time with you, he wouldn't waste one second on the "scared" aspect. But I digress.
You already have a guy that likes you for you. Loves spending time with you and is sweet and caring and wants to be there for you, but you keep denying him because he isn't what you think want. Is that really fair? Just because you don't see that those feelings are there doesn't mean they aren't. And you haven't even allowed deeper feelings to evolve with this guy because you have already made up your mind that you don't wanna be with him in that matter. Trust me once the other guy is out the picture and you take a break from both of them, You will see who you truly should be with or at least give a chance to. What do you know you might find something extra special with the first guy.
2006-10-21 16:53:01 · answer #2 · answered by babygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...one guy gives you the emotional support you want and the other guy fulfills your deepest desires. Lucky you.
You are confused and should take a break from both of them. Your confusion is going to end up hurting everyone.
This doesn't really answer your question but you know what? You need to think about how other people feel.
The trash heap has spoken. Nyaaaah!
2006-10-21 16:33:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me you need to decide which of these men you are more attracted to and have more in common with. You are going to have to make a decision. I would say the one your very interested in that wont go further it looks like you will need to make the first move with him.
2006-10-21 16:32:07 · answer #4 · answered by adamk911 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a relationship is still there - even if its just friends - make the most out of it - after time he may come around. the nice guy allways gets the bum wrap.. that sux cause hes probably better for you in the long run but if the feelings not there you have to tell him
2006-10-21 16:31:50 · answer #5 · answered by beachnut222000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you like someone more than the other you shouldn't lead the other one to believe you care about him more because if the guy you like more decides to take it further then you'll have to hurt one of them and that's not a good idea because they are probably really sweet or you probably wouldn't like them this much
2006-10-21 16:32:51 · answer #6 · answered by Cheer4Life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow ..if u really loved the one who cares for you ...you proably wouldnt have fallen or be interested in the new one...I dont know ...maybe u should wait slow things down best you can with the one who cares...but ask the one you are very interested in to do a New Years Eve date with you (a very commited date)..I feel...see if he wants to move it further..if he does ..then decide to make your final decision.,,,make sure the one whom you r interested in isnt just playing you..
2006-10-21 16:46:35 · answer #7 · answered by dreamy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go with the one that makes more money.
2006-10-21 16:30:36 · answer #8 · answered by Judy the Wench 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
date both until you find out who you are compatible with be honest and true to yourself
2006-10-21 16:30:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why choose? keep em both.
2006-10-21 16:31:17 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Pizza Man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋