My ex says hes still in love with me, that im like a dream girl, im all he ever wanted in life, with the most beautiful eyes..... he says when hes with me everythings perfect, like hes died and gone to heaven, like hes in a world of only me and him.....he says im the one for him, he knows it, he says hes sure of it..... he says, if he cant have me, then hes going to kill himself, i dont think hes the one, im not worth him killing himself over.... what do i do, i dont love him like that, sure i kinda love him... but not like that at all... what do i do.... plz serious answers only, if ur jus gonna say somthin stupid dont say anything at all.... i really dunno what to do.... plz if u can help, and thank you,but if you cant help, dont say anything to me, and go to the next person......
2006-10-21 16:11:25 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There's no magic cure to this situation. It's gonna' be rough. I understand that you 'care' about him, but just don't have those kinds of feelings for him. So I understand that you're concerned about what happens and how he feels, but you'd be doing him and yourself a great injustice to get back with him if you don't want to be with him. It's a shame he believes you are his sole source of happiness. That's not your fault though. Sometimes things just don't work out, whether they're someone's fault or no one's fault. As far as him killing himself, just all part of this being a bad situation. He may suggest that he wants to die without you, but there's not much you can do about that. If he straight up says he's going to kill himself, then you need to do something about it. Not get back together with him though. You need to make his friends and family aware of what's going on. Or authorities.
2006-10-21 16:15:43 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This kid really has some big issues. He isn' in love he is obcessed and insecure. He is so insecure that he THINKS his life hinges on you being in his life. Gosh.....who wants someone that you have to beg to be with. This guy is'nt mature enough for any girl. I do hope him saing he would kill himself is just an expression and not a real threat. If you believe it is a real threat be sure and tell an adult. put something in writting so if something happens you can know you did all you could.
He hopes that you are insecure enough and needy enough to think that what he says will attract you to him. You are smart enough and mature enough to know a relationship like this isn't healthy. Even if you did love him with all your heart you shouldn't ever put up with someone who says they would kill themself without you. This guy sounds like he is full of drama and even if you care deeply for him, it woudn't be a good connection. Love doesn't mean two people need to be together.
Let him know that his attention to you is way too intense and it makes you very uncomfortable and you feel it best if he moves on.
You desearve a guy who has a healthy idea of what a boy/girl relationship.
This guy is wrong to put so much power on you. He will continue his drama if you don't put an end to it. He will eventually get bored and find another girl to obcess on. Please don't let his attention feel like something good for your ego. It is pure unhealthy manilupation on his part.
2006-10-21 23:29:21 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
whoa.. this guy has some serious issues.. e kinda reminds me of the guy that doesnt take no for an answer.. like one of those guys at school that asks you out and you say no nicely, next thing you know, hes standing outside your window at 3 in the morning calling you and waving in the darkness.. or you're on vacaton with your family, and he just "happens" to be in the same place at the same time.. and no matter how nicely you say you're not interested, he just wont leave you alone.. then you end up being murdered and your body is found in the dumpster!!!
Let this guy know how you really feel, and dont believe that he'll kill himself if you're not with him.. (thats considered abuse) hes just saying that, and if he really does kill himself, then at least you know it was his time to go, and it wasnt your fault.
2006-10-21 23:18:46 · answer #3 · answered by Stacy K 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They tend to say all those things after screwing up with someone else and then come crawling back after hiding something which they hope you wouldn't find out about...and then threaten you that they are going to kill themseves...that is the oldest trick in the book HONEY!, hand him a knife otherwise seek help towards the Mental Ward....maybe a few months in a nut house will open his eyes and get a life, and you can continue in your own endeavors and find that special prince you seek and who will give you all the happiness you seek...Best of Luck Girl....It will evenually come true....Watch....
2006-10-21 23:24:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
anyone who threatens to kill himself is immature and playing emotional blackmail, not the sort of person you want to be with in a serious relationship. don't try to be polite with him, just lay everything on the line and tell the truth about how you feel about him. he can't force you to be with him. tell him that he's strong enough to move on and he'll find other women. watch out with this guy, he could easily turn into a stalker.
2006-10-21 23:15:33 · answer #5 · answered by ♪ ♫ ☮ NYbron ☮ ♪ ♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who really want to kill thenselves do not tell other people that. Dont worry, he is using this as a blackmail card. Good that you got rif of him. He is a insecure guy, and you need to find someone stable. Good Luck
2006-10-21 23:24:42 · answer #6 · answered by heidi H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex needs help.
No one is worth suicide.
If you can help him to get some counseling that would be great. He may even need to go on medication because it sounds like he is depressed.
He is saying these things to manipulate you.
Ever heard the saying "if you love some one, set them free"?
He is trying to trap you. That is not true love.
2006-10-21 23:16:36 · answer #7 · answered by annamce 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, It's nice to feel wanted by another as you state in your post of how much your ex loves you, wants you etc. My advice is this:
It's dangerous to base our happiness (him towards you) on another person. He should learn to be happy with himself. You need to be completely honest with him, and tell him you understand how he feels about you, but the truth is you don't feel that way about him. Also, it is unfair of him to say "he will kill himself". That is very selfish on his part and a way to manipulate you. Please be kind to yourself. Be honest. I hope this helps.
2006-10-21 23:17:02 · answer #8 · answered by pronoun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes playing games and your falling for it. If he wanted to kill himself hed do it.Ppl who want to kill themselves just do it. If your that concerened common sense tell his parents or the police and if you dont then you like the attention and the games too. Be smart
2006-10-21 23:16:34 · answer #9 · answered by Alyssa C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously your ex for a reason...so just move on.Him saying stuff like he wants to kill himself is obviously a way to get your attention.He needs time to get over you and you know what they say:Out of sight...out of mind.
2006-10-21 23:13:41 · answer #10 · answered by Kitty? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋