We've only known each other for a month and he already seems a little too attatched. He seems naive and very sensitive. I'm the first girl he's ever gone out with and he considers me his "girlfriend" when I'm really not. He seemed very happy when we were going out and his friends/coworkers all say that he's very happy because of me. He's very nice, but as I got to know him, I realized that he isn't my type. One of the things I don't like about him is that he's a bit too clingy. He's 20 years old, but seems to have the mind of a 15 year old. Our maturity level, personality and interests are very different, therefore, I don't even want to be friends with him. How can I break up with someone who's so sensitive and who seems so happy because I'm the first "girlfriend" he ever had?
2006-10-21 15:32:06 · 18 answers · asked by pureessence 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, if youre breaking up, hes gona get hurt no matter what.
just do it in a nice way. make sure you tell him why thats makes sense to him so it wont sting him as bad.
an example can be:
"after a month of dating you, your an awesome guy but we seem more suited to being friends than dating each other."
"i know you like me but feelings arent he same but
thats how i see you, we have differences.i just dont see you in the romatic way, sorry".
2006-10-21 16:01:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him right off the bat..."Hit the road jack cuz u ain't gonna hit a home run tonight or any other night"
I'm just kidding w/ u though...Quite frankly, be honest w/ ur feeling and honest w/ his feeling by telling him dat ur not ready to be in a relationship w/ him at dis time. And if he's dat repulsive like u said u don't even wanna be friend w/ him, then try to avoid him and his calls. Yes, his feeling might be crushed but only time will heal his wound and u don't have to feel any pressure or guilt to be straight up w/ him cuz if u keep leading him on, u will hurt his feeling even more later on.
Good luck!!
2006-10-21 22:46:44 · answer #2 · answered by Infinite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing is to be honest. Pour out what you have just told us. He deserves the truth, but do it gently. Don't be shallow and go through his friends. You seem very mature and confident in relationships, use this to your advantage. He seems sensitive so try and think about that when you break it up.
Good luck...breaking up is difficult, but if you dont think he's worth your time, dont lead him on anymore.
2006-10-21 22:36:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure there really is a way to do it easily. Sit him down, talk to him. Give him the reason, the truth. You don't have to be cold about it, just make sure you get your point across. If he's so happy, and clingy, he'll probably promise to change, he wont. Make sure your stern enough to let him know its really over...and then break off communication with him because that will just make it harder.
2006-10-21 22:35:32 · answer #4 · answered by Lizzie D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There must be something about him that you like. Otherwise, you wouldn't be going out with him in the first place. Tell him what you like about him, then explain the problem, you're different interests. That way, you aren't criticizing him. You're just pointing out that the two of you aren't that compatible.
Whatever you do, don't try to be his therapist. He'll likely just use that to hold onto you. Make it clear that it's over, and stick to it.
2006-10-21 22:45:04 · answer #5 · answered by Allen Montgomery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that with this one you just say it. It will make him sad but i know that he will understand. If hes really attatched to you then he might need a little bit of time to get over you, but he will be fine... he wont die.. and you shouldnt worry about it nor feel bad.
2006-10-21 22:36:20 · answer #6 · answered by Yhpargotohp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ug! Dont you hate that?? Just hold his hand, and tell him the truth.......gently. Or lie: tell him he's fabulous, and you are going through some mental health issues that your psychologists says you need to deal with alone!!
Blessings girl!!
2006-10-21 22:35:29 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say it like you told us but different :D..
Say "Look, i don't know if this is going to work out. You are very nice and i hate to have to do this, but we are just too different." and its okay to lie a little. and just take it from there good luck
2006-10-21 22:34:45 · answer #8 · answered by Woah_Baby x3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gently? honey, dont worry about his immature feelings cauze no matter what you say he will act like a baby. just be firm and honest and to the point. and if you think he'll freak, do it over the phone.
2006-10-21 22:34:42 · answer #9 · answered by Skorpian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to be polite. Say you still want to be friends, and then go do something as friends
2006-10-21 22:35:26 · answer #10 · answered by Michael L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋