Recently an ex and I have been spending time together. The past three weekends have been spent together. Each weekend he is very loving, telling me he cares, telling me I am beautiful, even asking me to run away with him and marry him. A couple of weekends ago he told an old friend of his that I am still the ONE. However, then he gets distant with me. We live an hour away so during the week he is distant and then during the weekend he is great. I don't understand. He has mentioned to me that he doesn't think he is good enough for me. Is this just an excuse or is that what is holding him back? I am confused by his actions. Oh and just to answer any unasked questions, no we are not having sex. So that isn't a factor.
I will add this piece of information. He and I are both dating other people and he brings up my dates quite often. Is he reacting out of jealousy and that's it? Or does he really care.
2006-10-21 15:24:58 · 15 answers · asked by Meg 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He and I are just dating other people. We are neither one in exclusive relationships. I have told him that I would move for him, I have told him that he is good enough for him, and of course he knows I love him. But it is like he changes once he leaves my place. I don't understand.
2006-10-21 15:46:08 · update #1
Don't worry about him seeming distant during the week. People live very busy lives. He spends the weekends with you. That should tell you more than his distance during the week should. The weekends are his free time and he spends it with you. He mentioned he "wasn't good enough for you". He wants to hear you say that he IS good enough for you. There would be no other point in him telling you this than to hear your response. In response to him bringing up your dates: That's a sign that he likes you a lot. When guys like a girl, they'll tease them about the guys they are dating or the guys that they like. It's not necessarily jealousy. In answer to your overall question: He does care. He cares a lot. It sounds to me like he wants to hear that you care. So if the feelings are returned, when he says "I'm not good enough for you." Explain to him that he IS good enough for you. Little things like that leave a good and lasting impression. My best of luck to you!
2006-10-21 15:34:48 · answer #1 · answered by Zach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he a hopeless romantic? Maybe he hasn't really gotten over you, and i guess that brings up a ton of issues, especially considering both of you are dating others. Not to be a downer, but as a possibility, he may just be seeing you as a comfort. Not sure how long u two were together, but if he 'loves you' and wants to run away with you, why is he dating other people? I just hope you're not a 'back-up' or something in case he finds that there isn't anything better out there for him.
There's no reason why a guy should say "ur too good for me" especially as a reason for him being distant. If you truly are too good for him, then he should step up his game and be at his best to be that 'prince charming.'
2006-10-21 22:32:07 · answer #2 · answered by mark p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears to be the GEE If she's got someone else...type of deal...you seem to be a "WEEKEND Play toy" ~ If you're dating someone else..do YOU see it going anywhere..I mean to keep dating your ex ~ behind the new persons back?! He's playing a game with you...because you are security for him..HE knows with you he can be anyway he wants...doesn't have put on any show...and then to act distant...tell him he's right..he's not good enough for you...you are in fact EX'S FOR A REASON!!! Let him go...and try to make it with someone who will always be the way you deserve...
2006-10-21 22:29:29 · answer #3 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he is jealous or he just cares about you and dosen't want you to get hurt by another guy. Or maybe he he really loves you and wants you back. You never know how about you sit down and talk to him about it it might help. I hope it works out!
2006-10-21 22:37:10 · answer #4 · answered by Tasha Y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that he still cares and loves you and doesnt want to let you go. he might love the other person, but maybe not as much as you? he might think that you 2 have had a great history together and wants to relive that, but doesnt want to hurt his girlfriend. also, the distant during the week, maybe he's really busy?? idk but i hope this helps at least a little bit =]
2006-10-21 22:28:48 · answer #5 · answered by sexxi_baby06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he cares but the distance is what's holding him back. If you lived in the same city, you and him would be together.
2006-10-21 22:28:07 · answer #6 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems interested, but that isn't enough information to give you a response so give me more details like what does he ask about your dates, what does he say about his, You know stuff like that.
2006-10-21 22:31:16 · answer #7 · answered by zkull_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-21 22:30:44 · answer #8 · answered by ♥OUR LOV3 WiiLL FiiND A WAY♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me it seems like he;s really into.And he may think he's not doing enough for you.If you really care for him you need to tell him.l
2006-10-21 22:31:50 · answer #9 · answered by **snowflake** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ASK YOURSELF:" WHY DID WE SPLIT UP IN THE FIRST PLACE, AND CAN I AFFORD TO GO THROUGH THAT AGAIN??" ALSO, THINK ABOUT THIS: IS IT POSSIBLE THAT HE DIDN'T REALIZE A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WHEN HE HAD IT?? MAYBE HE'S WOKEN UP AND SMELT THE COFFEE.
2006-10-21 22:31:10 · answer #10 · answered by thundergnome 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋