Look, I am almost 30 yrs. old. I live alone, have 2 kids; (which are my sisters kids that I raise); my niece and nephew. Parents are gone, so they are raised by me. You can look at my pic on my 360 page. What my question is, is that am I the type of a man that some women out there would want.... or is it the fact that I am young with 2 kids, and that scares people off? what? what is your opinion?
2006-10-21 15:15:12 · 15 answers · asked by Joe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you are really sweet ..raising your sister's kids ..wow u r rare..not al men do that ..it seems you have a big heart ..
But it's true women avoid the guy with kids generally ..You need a woman who understands you..and who has a big heart like yours and who loves kids ... Good Luck .. ;)
2006-10-21 15:27:47 · answer #1 · answered by ^^ANGEL^^ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you're being pretty hard on yourself, aren't you? Why? The fact that you're raising your sister's kids signals that you're responsible and caring - why wouldn't women appreciate that? Most women I know, and me as well, would see that as something positive. Also, as far as I can tell from your fairly small photo, you seem to keep yourself in good shape and you certainly don't look unattractive.
Look, as long as you are confident that you genuinely have plenty to offer a woman, that's what's going to come across. It sounds as if the only thing that's lacking might be a bit more self-esteem. That can be a turn-off, so my guess is that if you're having trouble getting dates, this could be a primary reason. If you're relaxed and comfortable with who you are, the circumstances of your life and what you have to offer, then women will be, too.
Good luck!!
2006-10-21 22:26:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anna S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Joe, we really dont know enough about you, therefore we cannot judge. The fact that you have 2 kids says that you have a lot of responsibilities, and could mean that you dont have alot of alone time to date, or just time to spend with a girlfriend. I know that fact is true, because I have dated single guys, and I am dating someone with a child, what a world of difference. If I knew then what I know now, I would not have dated someone with a child. See, when kids are in the picture, the adults have to sacrifice alot, as far as activities or alone time. You might have to look for someone who has kids too, because they are in a similar situation as you and can understand. Good luck to you !
2006-10-21 22:22:11 · answer #3 · answered by Mx2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, any woman who is "scared off" by the fact that you're raising kids, is probably someone you wouldn't want anyway. Don't worry about being "good enough." The right woman will appreciate you for who you are!
2006-10-21 22:18:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seem like a great person, that's wonderful that you are raising your niece and nephew. Be patient, the right woman will see your heart and share hers back with you. Good luck.
2006-10-21 22:21:59 · answer #5 · answered by T'S PAGE FOR NOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK YOU ARE TOTALLY HOTT!!! I ALSO THINK IT IS VERY ADMIRABLE THAT YOU ARE DOING THE RIGHT THING AND RAISING THOSE WONDERFUL CHILDREN. WISH I LIVED IN FLORIDA!!!!!!!! AND TO TRULY ANSWER YOUR WUAESTION , I AM 37 AND FOR SEVEN YEARS I RAISED MY THREE CHILDREN NOW 13, 14, 16 ALL BY MYSELF. I THINK PEOPLE ARE SCARED TO GET INVOLVED WITH PEOPLE WHO HAVE CHILDREN THAT LIVE WITH THEM. I KNOW I HAD A HARD TIME UNTIL TWO YEARS AGO I MET MY HUSBAND. HOWEVER, NOW WE ARE DEALING WITH PROBLEMS WITH HIS 16 YR OLD DAUGHTER WHO TOTALLY HATES ME AND HER MOTHER HAS BRAINWASHED HER AGAINST ME. GIVING HER DAD ULTIMATUMS TO GET RID OF THET B***** OR I AM NEVER COMING HOME. SO I KNOW I HAVE HAD ALOT OF BATTLES BUT I AM NOT GOING TO LET THEM WIN THE WAR. I CONTINUE FIGHTING. THERE IS SOMEONE OUT THERE FOR YOU AND WHO EVER THAT PERSON IS WILL BE A VERY LUCKY LADY. KEEP YOUR GUARD UP ALL OF THE TIME OR YOU WILL GET SCREWED. CK OUT MY PAGE ON 360 I WOULD LIKE TO TALK MORE AS A FRIEND.
2006-10-21 22:23:26 · answer #6 · answered by donnies_sugarbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is much more difficult to find a partner when you have children at home. Try some dating websites like yahoo personals or match.com. I think a woman with kids would not mind that you have kids. Mostly I think you need to find someone who you are compatible with and that is more important than the fact that you have kids.
The person who said you are unattractive is a big time loser!!!! She probably has Zachary's Disease (you know, her face looks zachary like her *** : )
2006-10-21 22:20:34 · answer #7 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion you are the guy that every girl looks for. It is hard enough to find a man that wants to take care of his own kids but to find one that wants to take care of ones that are not his that is a miracle and a rare thing to find. You will find a women someday.
2006-10-21 22:23:58 · answer #8 · answered by cheerbabe104 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you find that one woman, you will know you are good enough. Because she and you will be good for each other. That lady will welcome you all into her life. She will be the one who makes you laugh when life tries to kick you in the teeth, warm your heart, and nurish your soul. She's out there hon, trust me. Just be sensible. Those kids are important to you, so...watch how she treats them when nobody is watching. Make them your first priority always and ...the right woman will come along.
2006-10-21 22:21:06 · answer #9 · answered by the witch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're ok... Maybe you're looking in the wrong places. Since when were a burden? I don't have kids but I adore children. I think they are God's greatest gift to mankind
2006-10-21 22:22:03 · answer #10 · answered by brown_sugah064 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋