Why do women like being treated like dirt by an A**hole, when a nice guy will treat them like a queen?
2006-10-21 15:08:21 · 20 answers · asked by Rick G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Women want a bad boy but a real good man. Women who choose *** holes instead of gentlemen are not ready for a serious relationship. Hang in there and you will find a princess who will treat you like a king.
2006-10-21 15:21:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my experience I often went for the bad boy over the nice guy because I didn't believe I was worthy of the nice guy. I think also women like the idea of the bad boy because they feel it is exciting at first but in time they can change him into a nice guy. I guess neither one is necessarily better than the other, with both you are bound to either win the girl or lose the girl.
2006-10-21 22:13:15 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly the bad boys aren't bad in the beginning, otherwise we wouldn't start dating them. Funny thing is after they get comfortable with you and you are into them, then the real beast comes out and women have this thing where they think they can change the guy and the way he treats you. Usually trying to change someone never works but after we invest our heart and our time in someone we spend a lot of time waiting for a miracle. Usually bad guys destroy our self esteem and then the next relationship is straited by not feeling good about ourselves and we allow a guy to start treating us badly because we think that's how we should be treated. Nice guys finish last because it takes a woman many bad relationships to finally realize we deserve better and start looking for nice guys. Finally.
2006-10-21 22:20:11 · answer #3 · answered by l'il mama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hear my guys always talking about nice guys finishing last all the time. However, some nice guys do have a problem with some areas that bad guys excel in. (Mind you there is no excuse for abuse)
Some attractive qualities in not-so-nice guys that nice guys need to learn: (some)
1. Confidence-They are not afraid to approach a woman where I have seen many nice guys looking at a woman from afar or not knowing what to say after hello.They act like they are the catch. Women are used to being complimented and do not know whether it is always genuine. However when a man acts like he is 'ALL THAT" (not cocky) It's exciting.
2. They do not act like they are afraid of rejection. I will step in a club and women have to dance with themselves. Not because men aren't there but because men are afraid to ask.
3. Nice guys will be ok with being the "friend" -be a "sex symbol."
Sometimes nice guys fall into boring ritualistic routines....add some spice!
NOW FOR THE WOMEN THAT LET BAD BOYS TREAT THEM LIKE DOO-DOO: they are insane.
I personally like a nice guy who knows when to be bad.
2006-10-21 22:19:57 · answer #4 · answered by exhaling2day 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
typically that only happens when girls are younger. Once they grow up and mature a little bit, most realize that nice is better. Not all women likes being treated like dirt. There are some that like to br treated like a queen, but don't overdue it.
2006-10-21 22:13:32 · answer #5 · answered by bugoff26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i'm a guy, but from what i've seen (my own sister included), most woman say they want a nice guy, but then will date the bad boys thinking that they will change the guy...
this just shows that the 'bad boy's are little more then children, and that the woman don't know what they realy want. if they say they want a good guy, but date the bad boy, they aren't realy looking for a good guy, they are looking for a project. I've seen it when a woman was dating a bad guy, was mean to her and everything... after about a year he started getting better, so she dumped him.
i think many woman that do this, need to sit themselves down, and look at what their actions say about them selves...
Now, saying this, i'm not saying this is all, most, or even many woman in the world... i've seen this a few times when i was looking into it...
my sister is 30 years old, and is dating some one right now that was mean to begin with, and is very sweet now... and i can already see my sister starting to push him away, yet she alwas says she just wants a nice guy to be with...
2006-10-21 22:17:13 · answer #6 · answered by Junior1544 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, let me tell you why. not all women like the bad boys but some of us do. when they are like that, the relationship is a lot more interesting. i had a boyfriend who was very sweet, in fact too sweet. that got me bored very soon. i know that they are dangerous, but i would not go out with a dumbass who will treat me bad. the only thing i ask is that he is not boring. like you said nice guys finish last because they are too nice and people just take advantage of them.
2006-10-21 22:16:33 · answer #7 · answered by metalchik 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dude was a bad boy. we have been together for 10 years now. (since i was 16 now I'm 26) For the past 9 years he has been a nice sensitive man,HE treats me like a QUEEN, but only I and our children know that. HE stopped being friends with most of his homeboys because he became a family man.
2006-10-21 22:17:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many times, girls will be attracted to the "bad boys" as a form of rebellion against their parents, or because they are not ready to settle down and they know that either the bad boy will leave on his own, or they won't feel bad about leaving him later. Either way, if you're a nice guy, don't feel bad that a lot of girls are going after the bad boys-these girls have issues that you probably don't want to deal with anyway.
2006-10-21 22:14:56 · answer #9 · answered by La La M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some girls never know what they want. I thought i had a good guy but now i just found out he cheated on me. The weird part is i'll still take him back. So i think the answer is, the girl thinks she can change the boy to be everything she wants because she thinks she is in love.
2006-10-21 22:20:54 · answer #10 · answered by O'dette 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋