Am I just being stupid?

Question

OK- so it is kind of a long story. I have a friend who has a lot of issues. He is sometimes very immature, and often times seemed to try to push our other friend and me away. I thought he had detachment issues, because he has moved around a lot in his life, and has never had a very stable life. I thought that he was just keeping us at arm’s length to avoid getting hurt again if he moved, but what I finally figured out is that he was testing us to see at what point we would leave because he was being all insecure. Well, it usually is an impassable, never ending test, but somehow I passed. He called me one night and said to me that he was a major pr!ck, and that this was usually when people abandoned the relationship, and that I was the nicest person he had ever met.
Well, it is great that he acknowledges that and all, but he still has other issues, such as he doesn’t enjoy life and tries to slowly starve himself to death while disguising it as “eating health,” but the point is he doesn’t eat enough. He just has a lot of issues, and is selfish and immature. But, he has become better recently, and especially after the long discussion we had, he has realized this and has made somewhat of an effort to change. I know I cannot change him, but by sticking around and being a constant in his life he is changing himself. The difficulty with this is that at timed he drives me absolutely insane, and sometimes it has a negative impact on MY life. So the question is this, am I doing anyone a favor by sticking around, am I being nice and helping him, or am I stupid to be putting myself in that situation?

Answer 1

You're not stupid, just blind. There are many people in relationships who feel "obliged" to help the other person, no matter the toll it takes on them. This guy sounds like all he wants is attention...i.e. "testing" you, the eating nonsense. He wants a mom, not a girlfriend.

Answer 2

Im srry but I dident folow!! srry I cant help