He has been given only a few months to live. I want to send him a card. Obviously I can't send a "Get Well Soon" card because we have to come to terms with the fact that he's not going to get well. What can I say to him to comfort him and show him that I love him without pitying him or making him depressed?
Also, how I can I prepapre myself emotionally for his death?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
2006-10-21 14:45:11 · 16 answers · asked by hhhh 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
send him and say everything to him... from personal experince after a while he wont even remember anything send anything while you can... spend all the time you can with him and say goodbye properly or you will feel regret. To prepare for his passing i would just let you emotions show and not keep them inside of you or it wil hurt worse.
Comfort him in any way possible... and try to get sleep it helps.
Seth
2006-10-21 15:00:05 · answer #1 · answered by seth 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 00:38:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can visit him or call him as much as you can you will be doing both of you a favor, It isn't what you say that will make the difference but what you do - so show him you care about him, let him know you love him - remains.....it's all good for both of you. If he cries,and you want to too, than do.
I honestly believe there is no such thing as preparing for death it is always to soon, but you might want to talk to a grief counselor.They are better at it then most and can help where most of us fumble. I wish you well and hope that your uncle has as many of his loved ones close for as long as possible.
2006-10-21 20:03:54 · answer #3 · answered by Liz H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He would want to be treated as he has always been treated. Write him a card and tell him that you love him, that you are
thinking of him and you will visit him soon. Make sure you visit!!
I hope he doesn't suffer, and he will be prepared for death when the time comes, and you should go with it. He will always be around to guide you. Good luck to both of you.
2006-10-21 15:03:49 · answer #4 · answered by jammer 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, only God has the final answer to when your uncle death will be. Doctors can only say what they think from their point of view medically, but God has the last say so. If you believe in prayer, pray for your uncle that God will heal him. There is nothing impossible or to hard for God to handle. If you want to say something encouraging to your uncle tell him to have faith and believe in God. I am a living witness that God can deliver and heal his people from all manner of sickness and diseases. I have been diagnosed twice in my lifetime with serious illnesses, but the good Lord healed my body completely on both occasions. The key to it is to have faith and believe God will do it. I pray this advice will help you.
2006-10-21 14:57:02 · answer #5 · answered by Wendy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through this with a friend about 8 months ago. Speak from the heart. Empathize with his situation, feel his sadness, tell him you love him and will miss him. Let him know you wish it were not happening but you don't want to see him suffer. Offer hope and tell him you will see eachother again. Tell him to put in a good word for you when he gets there. As sad as it all is it is still important to smile. You can prepare yourself by being involved in his final days....I feel I gained alot by learning to accept my friends death and being able to say good bye. Sorry.
2006-10-21 14:53:27 · answer #6 · answered by L.lion 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Seth... although I have never had a personal experience, my friends have had experiences like these and I've watched from afar. Try to talk to him as much as you can, and spend time with him doing things that you know he likes, even if it's boring you to death. Listen to all his stories, and try to look at it all through his perspective. If you can't think of anything to say, then hug him and don't say anything at all. Sometimes actions speak louder and more clearly than words.
2006-10-21 15:13:16 · answer #7 · answered by stratocaster lover 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can write him a card that basically tells him and reasures him that no matter what you will always love him and that he will always hold a special place in you heart. whether he's with you today and gone tomorrow that space that you have for him in your heart can never be replaced with someone else. and that your going to be with him through all the pain and suffering, and when your not there your going to be praying for him. praying is basically all that is left to do. hope that when he does pass on he will be someone better and he will watch over you and guide you through your rough times.
2006-10-21 14:49:31 · answer #8 · answered by xtropicaldreamz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send him a "thinking of you" card and tell him you are praying for him. Be with him as much as you can. It will hurt when he dies but you will cherish the time you spent with him.
2006-10-21 14:47:57 · answer #9 · answered by Robin N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing you can do it tell him you love him and do as much with him as you can don't pity him because that will piss him off .time is all you have left with him ,spend that time making pleasant memories for both of you
2006-10-21 14:55:39 · answer #10 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋