Okay, so I met a guy online. We started talking and he's really really nice! Then I found out that he's 35. I'm only 19. He doesn't think that it's a very big age difference... but I'm not so sure. What do you guys think?
2006-10-21 14:35:41 · 14 answers · asked by deepwaters05 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is interested in sex. Sorry, but you have nothing in common with someone almost twice your age, other than sex. And truthfully, it's kinda gross. Seriously, if he was a successful, mature adult, what would he want with a teenager? Think about it. The oldest person you should date would be maybe a 25 year old. Think about it sweetie, if he is 35, and successful, why is he looking online for dates? He is a LOSER!!!!!
2006-10-21 15:25:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't I already answer this question? talk about dejavous!
Ok well this is what I would say:
Yes, it is a pretty big age difference. Some people would try to compare age like looks-shouldn't judge. There are a few issues with age though. That is 16 years more experiance in life (i think I added right) that he has and you don't. He'll be more savvy on some issues, etc. Also, he is at the point where he will be settling down for marriage. Are you REALLY ready for that? It seems nice but you might regret not having more dating. He might even be ready for kids...are you ready for that at 19??? If this is not the case, then he just wants a younger booty call.
You might want to ask yourself...why is he interested in someone this young too..Can't he get someone his age? What turns off people his age about him.
Another important issue is how is he going to feel about you? A good test is if he hangs out with you with his friends or just goes everywhere alone or only with YOUR friends. You shouldn't have to be with someone who's embarassed by you, should you? Of course his friends are going to call him a cradle robber and stuff.
So in the end, it's up to you to decide. What are his feelings and intentions with me?
2006-10-21 14:49:20 · answer #2 · answered by b-rad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a huge age gap. As you met him online, I would be extremely careful (you can tell how trusting I am). However, you are 19 and more than capable of making a decision for yourself on this issue. Keep in mind just how much older that is though. Is he ready to settle down? Do you love going out? You both at two very different points in life.
2006-10-21 14:42:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he wants to get it on with a young hottie like yourself, that's why he says age doesn't matter. In your case, it does. You are at a different stage in your life than he is. When I was your age I wasn't interested in any man over 25yrs old. I had more things in common with men 25yrs old and younger.
I'm 36 and I would NEVER date a 19 yr old guy, then again, I am not a perverted old man like he is. When I was 19 I thought 35 was OLD!!!!!!! LOL!
2006-10-21 14:42:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter married someone 14 years older than her. They have been married now for 10 years. I think they have couple of problems due to this but nothing that has caused turmoil.
1. He is older....energy level is not what hers is.
2. He is now 42 years old and has a 1 year old baby. He will be in his 60's when she is grown.
But the good side....
1. He was settled and owned a house.
2. They don't have the financial worries my kid husband and I had.
3. He adores his wife and treats her like a queen.
So...you have to live with him. Make a wise choice.
2006-10-21 14:41:18 · answer #5 · answered by ◄♥L♦I♦S♦A♥► 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have dated many younger women and I'm in my late forties. I have never had a problem with the relationships. It's important for a man to go into this sort of thing with his eyes wide open because there is no telling when a younger guy will catch your girls eye. The possibility for heart break is there but the journey is fun and exciting.
I know this doesn't really address your problem but I thought you'd like an older man's perspective.
D
2006-10-21 14:49:55 · answer #6 · answered by Bugsy Groucho 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
19 and 35 can be tough depending on what you both like to do and where you like to go (not sure where you are or what the legal drinking age is). I dated a girl that was 20 when I was 40 (she told me she was 25).
It all depends on the 2 people involved.
BTW - FreakyFriday......care to chat sometime?....LOL
2006-10-21 14:46:16 · answer #7 · answered by Tyrone S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 26 and married to a guy who is 37. It feels like we're from two different worlds. Even 11 years difference is too much.
2006-10-21 14:41:19 · answer #8 · answered by missie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to cease contact with this man. You cannot trust people you meet online. Especially in a relationship sense. Even moreso you cannot TRUST a man that is that much older than you who was not upfront about his age.
Please for your safety - end this communication.
2006-10-21 14:45:54 · answer #9 · answered by skevans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats ok.jus go on a dubble date wen u meet him.hopefuly it works 4 u
2006-10-21 14:49:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋