I'm 18 ,Me and my boyfriend have been together for a while. I gave my virginity up to him about 2 weeks ago. During the first time we had sex he went real slow because he knew I was a virgin and he didnt want to hurt me. While we had sex last week he totally flipped the script he was going inside of me so hard and fast. It hurted so bad!! But he called me later on that night and apologized for doing so hard. He told me my stuff was too good and he couldnt stop!!!!!!!
2006-10-21 14:29:11 · 9 answers · asked by lady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Depends. At times, slow is better. At other times, I want to go fast and deep. At times, I don't care about you as long as I c-u-m. At times, I want to satisfy you. In other words, sex is never the same - depends how you both feel and where you are, etc.
2006-10-21 14:34:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay.Okay.First off, I dont care how good your stuff was, He should have shown more consideration to you as to see if he was hurting you.It is never ok for someone to think that what they are doing may be hurting someone and then do it anyway.It shows that this guy cares more about "getting off" then your comfort or your personal pleasure.Sex is not a one way street.pleasure should be given from both sides and as a rule, both should walk away satisfied and unhurt.
Now, im sorry if i was a little abrasive about your guy.I wam just concerned for you and want you to know it should not hurt.And seeing as how your new to this.This guy should have taken his time and been gentle with you until your ready to get "wild" and try something new.The rule of thumb is.. if you wanted to have jack rabbit sex, you would have been born a jack rabbit.Im not saying sex should always be slow and easy.But in your case it should be until you adjust to it.And even when your ready to venture out and try something new with your guy.Tell him to leave the jack hammer at home.And go easier on you.Remember its not ok for him to hurt you and if he cannot respect that tell him to hit the road.
There are several reasons why it may have hurt you hun.One could be there was not enough lubrication, which is understandable because pain is not arousing and when you loose arousal you loose the natural lubrication your body makes .Another could be cysts and lesions that surface around the vaginal canal most times they are benign but hget it checked always.If that is the case and sex is still painful.Please do not hesitate to go to the doctor.Planned parenthood offers a low cost or no cost pap exam.
2006-10-21 21:48:55 · answer #2 · answered by serena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're dealing with a horndog who is riding you like a new 10 speed..I hope you're getting some enjoyment out of the experience...okay, with time ...you will see that there are times that you love a person and you want to physically express that to the person...we adults call that...making love...it's gentle and compassioniate...what you described as your second time was...screwing or the f-word that I can't say here at this time...basically, you're trying to have a orgasm as quickly and as intensely as possible with no regard to the other person usually the female party....young boys make the mistake of trying to tear it up but the truth is you only make the female sore and irritated...plus the vagina stretches and adapts eventually....you will even learn to control the muscles better....but that poor boy...his attentativeness and sensitivity is related to his performance...he sounds like a minute man to me.
2006-10-21 21:40:00 · answer #3 · answered by D.E.O.N. Sphinxxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love hard sex, It turns me on to know that we are both putting are all into it, and getting al hot and sweaty makes it even better. I think if you recently lost your virginity rough sex is something that may take some time to enjoy.
2006-10-21 21:35:39 · answer #4 · answered by *Amanda* 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
both ways feel great , sometimes slow will feel bettter ,sometimes hard will b better , sometimes a combo of the 2 . it just depends on the situation
2006-10-21 21:51:34 · answer #5 · answered by dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on whether your reaching your climax or not. my husband can do both and it feels great. your boyfriend needs to take the time to please you before he goes off like a jackrabbit. especially if your not aroused, he could really tear you up since you are new at having sex.
2006-10-21 21:36:35 · answer #6 · answered by haikuhi2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what the deal is at the time.
i vote for slow, myself
2006-10-21 21:31:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on who you're with.
2006-10-21 21:31:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
fast an harder
2006-10-21 21:50:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋