Asking Sister to pay our Mom the money she owes her?

Question

Ok so quite a few weeks ago I, my mom, older sister and 13 and 3 yr old nephews went to an apple orchard. My sister’s keys got locked in her truck with her wallet. She claims it was her 3 yr old son. Which it might have been, considering she is an alcoholic and virtually drunk all the time. I think it was her, but that is beside the point.
Well our mom borrowed her 60 dollars seen as she had no money with her wallet locked in the truck. My sister even said she was paying for dinner and when it came down to it. My sister said "thanks mom for dinner". As she ordered her food and beers. Well my sister claimed she mailed a check to my mom, but she didn't at all. My mom has asked her a few times and she hasn't paid her. My sister is always claiming how she works too much, but yet she won't pay her the money she owes? It stresses my mom out; I mean hey 60 dollars IS 60 dollars and trust me that is a small portion of what my sister owes her. I'm considering telling her she

really needs to pay her the money, now. I mean my sister isn't lacking in money so what is her deal? My mom works two jobs to make ends meet, why would she do this to her? Normally I would never consider getting involved on this and it is so stupid that she doesn't just pay her. But like I said it is really stressing my mom out when well every dollar counts.

I'm not sure if she keeps forgetting because of the drinking (another issue!) or if she is just that selfish. What can I do to help my mom get this resolved......?

I know I should probably stay out, but honestly from the past there are several things she has NEVER paid our mom for and feel if I don't just step in and try to help her get her money, she WILL never get it and that just isn't right. Your own mom?

Suggestions please.....I really want to help her resolve this!

Answer 1

first of all your mom should have learned from your sisters past of not paying her back. she needs to stop giving her money. and for the most part i would be telling you to stay out of it, but i can see that's not what your going to do. so, when you talk to your sister make sure she has not had to much to drink, because you cant talk to a drunk. but come right out and tell here that your mom is going threw some hard times right now and she really needs to have that money, and also tell her that you feel that it is a shame that you had to come to her and ask her for it. that she should be an adult and pay her debts. don't be surprised if she tells you where to go. f*** off. i hope that if you do get this money that you tell your mom to stop giving her money and even if you don't get the money your mom should have learned a lesson by now.

Answer 2

Your Mom needs to quit ever letting your sister borrow money period. Your Mom needs to face the fact that her daughter is only using her and getting money from her to get her alcohol. Plus your sister will do anything to get the extra money for alcohol and maybe even drugs. She locked the keys and wallet in the trunk herself on purpose probably. Your Mom needs to wake up and quit letting her borrow any money ever again. Get your sister some help no matter what it takes.

Answer 3

I know what you are going through I had a similar situation only it was my sister that had lent money from my grandma and the only thing that i could do to help my gran was to give her the money back only cause she is my gran and told my gran to never ever lend my sister money again I'm not saying you pay your mum back but tell your mum to never ever lend her$ again and if the sister try's to use the child just tell your mum to buy the child what it needs DO NT give it to the sister cause it wont go on the child.Good Luck

Answer 4

This is your sister, your mother's daughter. Is your mom asking for your assistance? If not, back off it's between them. It's admirable you want to protect your mom's finances, but really it may go beyond finances between them. Sometimes we are not privy to even our closets relatives relationships and what they have going on....Sounds like you're stressing over the $60. If it really bothers you to see your mom without the $60 then step up and give her the $60 and let her know you're always there to help. You need to let her know, though, you're not willing to cover your sister's debts in the future, just that you realize the injustice of her actions and how sad (not mad) it makes you feel. Good luck with this one!

Answer 5

your sister is a drunken dead beat and your mom shouldnt let her borrow any more money ever i dont give a **** if she needs it for food and for your sister to be drinking all the time and probally when she is driving and her kid is probally with her she needs help because she is going to kill some are herself are her son .