my lil sis is haveing unprotected sex with her bf and even though she is on birth control and he had nothing like aids or stda cuz he takes a test 1s a months and my sis douse to i still think is wrong 4 her to do that with him ..i dont want her haveing sex enyways ....she is 15 and im 19 and i want to help her out ..she is too fast she ditches skoo she been to juve like me and i dont want her to gangbang since all of my family is bloods she is too but i dont want her to be because i see what it brought me in my life . and i cant get out ..so i dont want her to get involved ....she is too wild our perents died to gangbanging and she is under my house but i cant control her since she saw me do the same things she is doing right know and worse because i still gangbang i cant get out but seh could she it young and i been in it ever since i was 12 ...diffrent times and i got arrested 5 times already i was in and outa juve den jail and know im on my 3rd sticke . i dont want d same 4 her
2006-10-21 13:53:32 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Being on birth control is protected sex. But tell if she doesn't shape up, your throwing her *** out!
2006-10-21 14:01:41 · answer #1 · answered by retrodragonfly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, first I have to say that I am crazy impressed that you are reaching out to get advice about this. Especially since you are so heavy into this lifestyle yourself. One day you lil sis will thank you for making changes to get her a better life. You seem more concerned about her than yourself. What better motivation to get your own life in order than for your love for you family to have a better way of life.
I agree that you have to move. Get out, far from the neighborhood. If you are worried that people will follow you or the consequences of leaving the gang, then you can tell no one. That will be hard since I am sure you have a "friend" that you think you can trust. I hate to say it but you can truely trust no one. Plus, dont put people you love in the situation of keeping your secrets. I say all this not knowing how heavy you are involved. I have family tho that had bad things happen to them & their family members cause they wanted to leave the gang.
Check with your counties public aid office. Keep it to yourself. If you can not get an appointment, or they give you a hard time, tell them it is a matter of life & death & you need help for you and your lil sis. That will at least open the door. They can tell you the best places to go to get you on track.
BUT, no one is going to lay a yellow brick road out for you. No one is going to take you by the hand and put you & your sis up in an apartment (if they do - watch your back). IT WILL BE HARD. But, YOU CAN DO IT. You already proved that having the sense to reach out for help. Girl if you can handle the street, you can handle anything..... you hear me??!! I don't know what state you are in but I know my state (Illinois) has programs for low income people. Use this internet to get any job you can get with decent pay. or the local public aid office can tell you where to go to get help with that.
There is no other answer but to move away... that's a fact. Is there someone who is living a descent/good life that you can get support from (to talk to)? But, tell none of your "friends", do not tell your sister, her boyfriend, dont even think outloud about it. As Nike says, best phrase ever.... JUST DO IT!! Take care. I'll be thinking about you.
2006-10-21 16:26:20 · answer #2 · answered by Cellen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Sis can't get out of this as long as she is in a gang neighborhood. The influences are all there. You can't either. I think you could get out if you moved to a totally different area. Maybe you are scared to do this, but you're not scared to live the life that killed your parents.
Your Sis doesn't want to get out. She's only 15, so you could call Child Protective Services and they could put her in placement, but if she wants to mess up she will.
I feel so sad that you feel hopeless about getting out. Your life could change at least, but it takes courage and determination.
2006-10-21 15:24:16 · answer #3 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing to do especailly if there's no parents around is to move and start afresh.
2006-10-21 14:07:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
monkey see - monkey do
2006-10-21 14:05:09 · answer #5 · answered by tiggergoesbouncebounce 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋