I feel like hurting myself but my boyfriend won't let me.. I have no friends. Usually when I'm upset, it's because of my boyfriend, so I can't talk to him. I can't talk to my family because they just don't understand..and they hate my boyfriend anyway...
I've tried a journal...that doesn't help... When I try to exercise when I'm crying, I can't breathe, so I can't do that...
I can't try st. john's wort because that interferes with the effectiveness of my birth control...
I've tried talking to my boyfriend's family (I live with my boyfriend and his family) and they sometimes help...well, his mom does...but not enough sometimes...
I've tried talking to my boyfriend's best friend...at least he's nice to me....but my boyfriend and his family don't think it's the right thing to do...
I just don't know what to do! I just feel like hurting myself or someone or something... and I know there's something better I can do, but I just don't know what!!!
2006-10-21 13:45:01 · 21 answers · asked by abbas_n_chantel 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I tried calling a crisis hotline..they don't help much..i mean, they listen when i talk, but their advice usually sucks...
I just don't know what to do..and it's affecting my school work!!! :-(
I hate it...
I just need someone to help me..someone to tell me what to do..
Or maybe suggest a suppliment that WORKS that doesn't interfere with my birth control...
I don't know.. I just need something.. I need a friend...I HATE not having friends.. i feel so pathetic...... :'-(
2006-10-21 13:46:27 · update #1
You need to go to your physician. You could have a chemical imbalance that is causing your depression. You do not have to feel like this.
2006-10-21 13:49:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your birth control pill could be part of the problem; for some people, it can really affect their mood. I know I can't take the pill for any length of time or I get horribly depressed and irritable.
You should probably talk to your family doctor about what's happening for you; she/he may want to have you try medications that won't affect your birth control pill, help you find another form of birth control that will not affect your mood and/or refer you for counselling. If you are having trouble not hurting yourself and can't wait to see your family doctor, you can also go to ER and they can hopefully help you there.
Depending on where you live, most medium to large size centres have walk-in or other low cost counselling that you can access on your own, without a doctor's referral.
When you're feeling a bit better, can you put together a bunch of books, tactile objects, pictures, etc, that can either distract you or remind you of better times? I've made one up for myself and it has been helpful in distracting me when things are bad until I'm feeling a bit better. I only take it out when I'm not feeling good, when I'm really blue and unhappy, so it's kind of a surprise each time.
Check out the website attached; there are some ideas there about how to distract yourself when you're really upset or wanting to hurt yourself. The second page has other things to try as well; you probably would be best to start at the top and work your way down. When you're feeling a bit better, check out some of the other handouts on that page(Look to the left for the menu)-they may be able to help you over the longer term.
Above all, be gentle with yourself; you can get through this.
2006-10-21 21:18:16 · answer #2 · answered by VeryQuietGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a Hobbie! Something I find very fun and exciting is Dancing. I'm taking a social dance class and it helps me to calm down. Just last night I needed something to do and so I decided to get together with some friends who missed class and teach them how to Waltz. Dancing doesn't take very much energy it takes just enough. Learn to Waltz, Fox Trot and Cha-Cha. They are low energy. Take things easy. Take a Social Dance class for school etc. It Helps relieve stress and you and your boyfriend can do it together. Force him to do it if you have to because it will help you and him.
Here is a copy of an email i got from a friend that i found very meaningful.
You may not realize it, but this is 100% true.
1. There are at least two people in this world that you would die for.
2. At least 15 people in this world love you in some way.
3. The only reason anyone would want to hate you is because they want to be just like you.
4. A smile from you can bring happiness to anyone, even if they don't like you.
5. Every night, SOMEONE thinks about you before they go to sleep.
6. You mean the world to someone.
7. You are special and unique. (you really are)
8. Someone that you don't even know exists loves you.
9. When you make the biggest mistake ever, something good comes from it eventually.
10. When you think the world has turned its back on you take another look.
11. Always remember the compliments you recieved. Forget about the rude remarks.
And always remember......When life hands you Lemons, make lemonade and invite someone over!!
I truly hope you find your purpose in life. Remember someone is always there for you especially in your times of depression and trial just seek him out.
Good luck!!
2006-10-21 21:02:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry about how your feeling,Ive been there. Number one,go seek counseling,school counselor or a psychologist if possible. Number 2 ask yourself when it started,did it start soon after you started taking B.C...when I first started I had horrible depression spells and anger problems and when the dosage was lowered it was way better,this is the case with many females. Number 3 Try to make some friends,the best way is to find an interest that involves being around others (if ya like poetry check out a nearby cafe,some of them have poetry reading and strike up a conversation with some people,try to make friends) And if ya want a friend right now,you got one here. Please dont hurt yourself,its a permanent answer to a temporary problem. Goodluck and be safe
2006-10-21 20:55:26 · answer #4 · answered by prettybelle7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2. Drink 8 oz of water
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2006-10-21 20:49:15 · answer #5 · answered by Pegasus90 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have taken the advice from my pdoc - keep busy. As he says "an inactive mind spells trouble", and that is so very true. For me, during those horrid depressive times, I made myself get out of the house. Take a bus if you have to, and you will see how 1-2 hours that pass can make a difference.
Believe me, I have been in such a mood of black depression, and found myself dwelling over the past. If it's the past that has you stuck, just remember the past is the past and to dwell on it...it will destroy.
Hope this helps you out.
2006-10-21 21:00:27 · answer #6 · answered by been there, done that 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hon',
- Just a suggestion to consider. Try going to a decent sized, mainstream church in your area. Find one that also has a counselling center. You can generally find an excellent counsellor in a place like that that will be both expereinced and affordable. Get the counsellor's input and work together to lay out a life-plan for you ... a plan to get you from where you are emotionally to where you want to be ... AND THEN FOLLOW THE PLAN!
That's the counselling part.
Personally, you will find that you get far more out of life if you look for ways to give to others - where you expect to receive nothing in return. When you learn that your life has value to others you will learn to love and value your own life more. Happiness does not come from receiving something valuable, it comes from discovering and enjoying the contribution you make to others.
You'll succeed so long as you are willing to venture onto paths you haven't already tread.
2006-10-21 20:57:32 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
first seek help a doctor. these suicide thoughts are dangerous. go and do things group sessions, church related programs, or reading groups in a library. next i would say that your boyfriend sounds he's not meant for you. if you marry him, he's not going to change. if he upsets you now, what will become of your possible marriage. you need to go councilling with your parents if they're willing to go. what is wrong with your boyf. that they don't like him. i think you should not live with his family but a family member of yours. also if you feel like hurting also someone or something you need help.remember if you do away with your life you go to hell,and hurt someone else you'll go to jail. don't feel depressed -- you might need some kind of medication only thru a dr. not from a health food store. betty boop
2006-10-21 21:27:56 · answer #8 · answered by betty boop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to think back to the fun things you used to do when you were a kid! i think as get older and life is more 'serious', we often forget how to have fun!! we don't laugh as much, we take life way too seriously sometimes and in amongst doing so much 'stuff', we forget to look after our mental health, we eat, sleep, shower etc, which are the basics to taking care of our body, but we also need to take care of our 'minds'. when i used to feel this way, i would go out and get some colouring in books, some textas (markers) and colour pencils and sit for ages colouring in. it may seem childish, but its simple, fun, and you can start and stop when you want. how about finding a skipping rope!?? they're lots of fun, also helps you burn off the energy. do you live near water? a creek? river? go walking there, its very peaceful and gives you time to think for yourelf about how to make your life better for you. there are so many things you can do to help you feel better......just don't hurt yourself because you are angry and frustrated with life at the moment, it will get better!
2006-10-21 21:02:01 · answer #9 · answered by leolady0765 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to more people, hon. Get out and meet people or do things where there will be new people to see and talk to. That will start cheering you up a bit.
I'd say take time for yourself, coz you sound like you're a bit anxious, but you might already be taking too much time with only yourself. So get out and meet people, okay?
2006-10-21 20:48:23 · answer #10 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey? To hell with a bunch of self pity. You need an anti depressant. To hell with birth control. Is screwing boyfriend more important than hurting yourself? Make him use condoms and get yourself to a doctor. You sound severely depressed. There is help for that. Get it before you do something you cannot take back. Good luck dear. Please don't hurt yourself.
2006-10-21 20:56:34 · answer #11 · answered by sherijgriggs 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋