My daughter is in the middle of a depressive episode. I need some advice. Unfortunately, we live in a country where they don't medicate kids much but we can perhaps get her some meds when we travel to another country next month. Right now, it's either meds or my daughter kills herself, so don't tell me not to put her on meds. I would rather have her alive. She wants something that will address both. Also, any ideas of a chat group that actually helps teens struggling with depression that doesn't glorify it or get them into more negative thinking?
2006-10-21 13:35:13 · 15 answers · asked by outtahere 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Take em to Jesus! ....................................And a counselor.
2006-10-21 13:36:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly Medication isn't good for a depressed teenager (clinically proven). It can make sucidal thougts worse. I know what your daughter is going through. I am 17 and have been cutting myself for 7 long years. And through out those 7 years I have tried to committ suicide over 23 times. In my sense, nothing can be worse then Depression. If you must put her on meds, try Zoloft, or Prozac. Those are the two most common meds that children under 18 are put on. I know a website/chat forum that doesn't glorify mental dissorders and I find that It has helped me alot with my Suicidal Tendencies. Try www.chat.healthyplace.com It is a very open community that can help your daughter. She might even enjoy it. There is nice people, and it has a very good reputation for advice. Also they can give you some pointers on how to address the situation. If the situation is so bad that you can't leave her alone, Please get her hospitalized. I hope this helps!
2006-10-21 13:50:47 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Infatuated♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most importantly, if you're afraid for her life, get help immediately. A hospital may be the most appropriate place for her.
The key to your situation is that "she wants" something that will address both. That means that she is trying to understand the situation and is willing to do something positive about it.
If she isn't on any medication for ADD, that simplifies things a bit. If she is on medication for ADD, be very careful about how the medications react to each other.
There are depression medications like Zoloft or Prozac that don't impact ADD too much. There are also mood stabilizer medications like Trileptal or Depakote. These are also prescribed for epilepsy, but their mood stabilizing effects are great. But realize that the effects of any of these are not immediate. If she's in the "deep darks" right now, medication may take too long. If she's looking for a magic pill that will work right now, there isn't such a thing. It's not like taking an aspirin for a headache.
Spend as much time as you can being with her, doing things together. Be supportive but not too intrusive or overbearing (that can be a fine line). Try to get her physically active, with other people, but not necessarily competitive. "Come on, let's go for a walk," can be very helpful. But don't be surprised if she suddenly doesn't want to spend any time with you.
A chat group may not be what she needs - how about some face-to-face contact? Does her school or the community have a club or group that she might enjoy?
This period of her life can be as difficult for you as it is for her, so make sure that you also have someone to talk to. Perhaps going to counseling together may work.
~been there, done that....
2006-10-21 14:53:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
anti-depressants. you have to have a doctor perscribe them to you, he'll send you to a psyciatrist to make sure she needs them (she only needs to go for a few sessions) However, you have to look at the side affects? After she takes them and she feels better, will she become even more suicidal without the meds? the best way to stop her from having these thoughts is to lay off the medication. Meds dont do ****, it just a way of them making money, i mean she could just smoke weed or get drunk and get the same results as taking medicine. The reason why people are suicidal is because they feel like they dont have a place in this world. Was there something that changed her,like a divorse, death, change of school, ex-boyfriend? the last thing that a suicidal person needs is meds, because its just a reminder that there is something wrong with them, which will worsen the illness, what she really needs is someone who cares...you.
2006-10-21 13:43:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in your same situation. I am 14 years old, almost 15, and I am very similar. Yet I don't get perfect grades(yeah well I haven't been trying that hard recently), I do like things like computer programming and stuff. People call me a nerd sometimes, and I am shy too. I can't say girls call me weird cause I don't really even know what most girls think of me. I've wanted to commit suicide ever since sometime around your age, but I still have not done it. Now after certain things have happened in my life, I want to do it even more, but I still have not. Its like I want to, but I don't do it. I guess were just going through rough times in our lives? Sometimes you just have to find a place for yourself. Lets say your in college, or maybe older, like at a job as some sort of programmer, no one is gonna call you a nerd, or they are just making fun of themselves. And for right now, lets say people from the football team call you a nerd(just an example), well, you like programming, they like football. So they are a nerd about football. Thats all I can think of right now. Hope this kinda helps or something.
2016-05-22 08:36:03 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well speaking as a fifteen year old girl I must say your daughters not going to want to talk to a theoropist but you really might consider getting her one....and if you live in America you can probably find a doctor to supply her with some kind of medication to keep her mind off suicide and I think the best medicine for the ADD would probably be ritalin and im not sure what medicine would work for the suicidal thoughts though but im sure you'll figure something out....Good luck and if you need any help I could talk to your daughter...you could tell her to email me because I used to be the same way about the suicidal thoughts and I was a goth...but im out of that stage because I thought to myself about the decisions I was making and how I could do better with my life...I understand if you dont want me to talk to her though...but if you do she can email me at gemini_hearts_you@yahoo.com
Good luck, Stephanie DeAnn
2006-10-21 13:42:57 · answer #6 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would start with the depression. ADD is waaay overdiagnosed, and not having to contend with suicidal urges might calm her down, as well as the anti-depressant itself. Unless she's attempted suicide and you're committing her to a hospital or group home of some kind, I don't know where you could find group therapy. But going to a therapist by herself-or even better, with you-will help a lot. Talking to a doctor will help you find the best medicine to choose, although from personal experience I'd recommend not giving her Effexor XR. You wanting her to live and being there to support her are going to help so much. I never told my mom, but it was the only thing that kept me hanging on on many occasions. Keep an eye on her, because depression never disappears completely-a traumatic event or big change (like college, for me) can bring the pain rushing back. Best of luck to both of you!
2006-10-21 13:41:12 · answer #7 · answered by tye_dyedfan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Until you travel to another country try having her see a conusler. Or maybe you can talk to her doctor and tell him/her that you know that they don't really medicate kids but your daughter is having thoughts of sucide and you don't want her to die and see if they will give you meds. If not then try to find a support group in your area for teens that have suicidal thoughts. good luck. I hope your daughter feel better.
2006-10-21 13:43:13 · answer #8 · answered by Andy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For right now, she needs to be in a place where she can be observed 24/7 and put on the proper medication.
I would recommend professional intervention immediately. Don't just take her to a doctor, put her on meds, and call it good. She needs to be monitored for awhile.
2006-10-21 13:41:16 · answer #9 · answered by miyazaki75 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what ever you chose to put her on please benifit from my expearience do not put her on Effexor that is spelled wrong but a doctor will know I was in the same place when I was 16 , im 20 now but those pills made me crazy I did every thing with clouded judgement and Im full of regret now you dont want that for your daughter. try shoving her butt on a tred mil exersice has been the only thing to really help me. it sounds dumb but really works I hope she feels better soon till then KEEP HER AWAY FROM BOYS and dig through her room aften I used to hide razor blades it weird places like the corner of my closet flour. its your job to dig thriugh her stuff i would have been alot betteroff if my parents didnt trust me so much.
2006-10-21 13:47:30 · answer #10 · answered by Debrianna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what meds to recommend, however, my reading about low blood sugar seems to indicate that that condition can cause/aggravate depression and ADD.
If she has not been checked for low blood sugar, start her on a diet that is moderate protein (salmon and tuna are among the best) low glycemic carbohydrates (no to low sugar) and good fat (olive oil for cooking and almonds for snacking). It will stabilize her blood sugar, and may keep her depression from worsening.
For more info on low blood sugar, there is some at www.hufa.org.
2006-10-21 13:38:33 · answer #11 · answered by Pegasus90 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋