25 too old to still be living at home?

Question

I got a good deal at home. No bills and no student loans. Make 50k a year. Paid cash for my 2006 Si six months ago. 37K in non-retirement savings and 55k between Roth and 401k. Starting my MBA in the fall. My employer is paying for it. My parents (both 66) OWN THEIR HOUSE OUTRIGHT NO MORTGAGE (a rarity in America- I know) and say I'm no financial problem to them and the house is my inheritance...free and clear about 300k in value. But its getting to the point in which people make fun at me and girls won't even talk to me. One girl once told me that she, " rather be married to a poor man that is a man than to a spoiled 25 year-old upper middle class boy." My question is this, even with my caring parents, financial security and my upcoming MBA should I sit tight or move out because its time?

Answer 1

far be it from any of us to want to change the dynamics of your living situation, but I would think you might want to offer to give back something to your parents in the way of rent.. even if their mortgage is paid off.. you are still an expense and a freeloader.

Answer 2

You are more than financially ready to move out. Your age makes little difference if it is that you are not mentally prepared for it. I have known what it is to live at home all your life therefore you still see it beneficial to live there as you know no different.

Honestly, don't listen to other people, especially those preppy jealous women. You have a heck of a jump start in life, that is for sure. Don't flaunt that at people and they won't try and discourage you for living at home.

As far as what you should do, I would think that you would want to get a cute place of your own and see what it is like being by yourself, just for the sheer concept of it, however I am not you. Don't feel pressure from peers simply because they are not in your position.

I hope that you date atleast. You do have a social life right? Do what you are comfortable with. Maybe you will skip the whole, struggling, top ramen, sell old vhs movies for laundry quarter days... in fact you already have surpassed that, but decide what it is in life you want to do. DON"T FEEL BAD because you are taking advantage of what your parents can offer you. Do what is comfortable for you and don't give a darn what anybody else says. Just don't be snooty or stuck up when some guy that really likes you struggles with finances or things because it isn't his fault. Look for inner beauty and strength in character too.

Answer 3

If you get along then whats the fuss. Americans have this thing about living with their parents that I don't agree with. I'm an American. Other cultures in this world live together as a matter of culture. I'm not saying that get married and then bring your bride home to shack up with your family, but until that happens then whats the problem?

Answer 4

Yes, you're too old to be living at home. It would be different, if your parents were disabled and needed you, but they're not. You are an adult, and need to experience the real world before your parents die. You need to be independent, not dependent. I know you have a job, but you need to be a responsible adult. Yes, I can see where a 25 yr old living at home is a turn off. The women see it as juvenile, and that's not cool. They want a man that takes care of himself, and will be willing to take care of his wife and children, too. But they see someone who doesn't want to grow up.

Answer 5

In most cases I would say move out- but it's not like you're living off your parents- although women are not usually too attracted to a guy who still lives with his parents. If you are as financily set as you say you are, why wouldn't you rent an apartment, or even buy a house?

Answer 6

No one else has a right to pass judgment on you. I would guess, you pull your weight as far as chores go, or your parents wouldn't be happy with you living at home. It sounds like you are hard working and thrifty. If you didn't work, it would be a whole different story. If your bragging to others of about how well off you are, that would account for the derogatory comments about you living at home yet. If you spoke of how fortunate you feel for your situation it shouldn't be a problem to anyone. Your problems with others may all be in your description of your situation and how you present it to others.

Answer 7

well it depends, do u live at home and not pay your parents any money, get ur mother to do your laundry,cook for you, clean up after you............or do you pay them something every week, do your own laundry etc..are basically more like a lodger in their house where you have your independance?
if its the latter i wouldnt have a problem but if you still depend on them well then maybe id think if i went out with you , you might expect me to look after you too.
But to be honest, as long as you're happy and your parents are happy, its really no one elses business. It your life after all ;-)

Answer 8

At 25 you're pushing the boundaries, aren't you the least bit interested in having Independence and living in a home that reflects your individuality? I can see why females are put off with your living arrangements, especially when you can clearly afford something different.

Answer 9

Well, really you are too old to be living at home. However, you have the financial security you need and want. There is bound to be a girl out there who can appreciate that!! It's really up to you which is more important. Finding a girl or securing your own future?

Answer 10

Dude I came from a fairly wealthy family but my father decided to always horde it to himself and I always knew it was cus he never give two sh-ts about me or my brothers or sisters. I moved from a middle class home to a housing project to get away from them. Moneys a big worry for me I have nothing like the future you do plus girls just laugh at me, wtf. So whether your rich or poor you can still be a loser

That girl who said ur spoiled well maybe you are. But maybe thats also the kind of lady who would take advantage of a guy's low confidence. Spend a lot of time away from your parents, get your own space and take on your dreams

Answer 11

People who make fun of you are either jealous or just plain stupid. Why buy an unneccesary house when you ar living in a perfectly good home and there are so many people out in the world without their own home? There's nothing wrong, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise unless your parents start to get sick of you.