I am still not over this guy that I broke up with about two months ago. He hurt me so much, but I am still in love with him. We didn't date very long, but he brought out the best in me. I see him often, but we never speak. He ignores me, and it hurts though I pretend it doesn't. He's began talking to my friends, and it hurts because he looks at me frequently when he does it. He's a pompous *** and he;s very cruel, but I love him so much. I know that I can't have him back, and I need to get over him, but I just can't seem to. Nothing has worked, and when I saw him today I nearly had an asthsma attack. How the hell do I get over him?? And how do I heal my broken heart??
2006-10-21 13:13:00 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It all takes time. I am still very broken-hearted after the death of my fiancee back in January. Time will help things heal. When you feel comfortable, just get back into meeting someone new...don't just settle either; find someone you feel good with.
2006-10-21 13:20:59 · answer #1 · answered by Shaula 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will take time. STOP focusing on him. Focus on YOU. What do you like to do? Do it. When he's around and you don't want to be there, just make an excuse and leave. Stop giving him your energy because that is what you're doing. Again, focus on what you want. Make a list of your idea of your "perfect" mate. Then go through that list and cross out the qualities you've listed that you can live without. What should be left is a list of the qualities you require your guy to have that you won't compromise on. Then when you meet and date - pull out that list to remind you what you're looking for.
I'm sure "pompous ***" and "very cruel" are not qualities you would look for in a man. Remind yourself of this whenever you see this guy and then tell yourself how lucky you are that you are moving on!!! One day you'll wake up and realize that hurt is totally gone. That's when you'll know you're really ready for Mr. Wonderful to come into your life!
2006-10-21 20:22:12 · answer #2 · answered by nquizzitiv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting over someone takes time and you can never completely heal the scar of a broken heart. Give it time and the pain will lessen. I'm sure there is someone out there that will help you through this. Your best friend, your mom, pastor, youth group leader? Any of these is a good option, but you need to know that just because of rejection you shouldn't go chasing some other guy just to "fill in the gap." All that'll happen is another heartbreak. Stick with your friends and you'll be fine.
2006-10-21 20:18:05 · answer #3 · answered by S. Elizabeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say have a good cry and then make a firm resolve to get over him. Tell yourself there is someone out there that is right for you. Don't drown urself in sadness. Go out with friends, develop a hobby. Strive to get better grades in school. Make urself look better, dress better and smile a lot. It's a wonder how a smile brightens ur day. It may even brighten someone else's day. Help out those in need, this is a sure way to make you feel better.
I would've told you "find another heart" as a cure to a broken heart. But this may not be a good solution as you may just end up with another break in ur already broken heart. So follow what I said in the first paragraph and for sure you'll catch another heart who may be worth your while this time. Good luck.
2006-10-21 20:28:20 · answer #4 · answered by Milie88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only time will heal try going a different way to and from so you don't run into him often andit will get easyer if you find instest in something else not someone but something , let your heart heal first before stepping back in the guy thing, you can be a whole person with out a guy on your shorder find a new hobbie or get into a good book give your self time.
2006-10-21 20:21:02 · answer #5 · answered by Heart-of-Hearts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry you are going thru this - I am too but choose to stay away from the places he goes so I wont bump into him anymore. Its too painful and I need to deal with the hurt - I cant do that when every time we have anything to do with each other we only hurt each other more. I hope you feel better soon
2006-10-21 20:24:46 · answer #6 · answered by shewonderswhyitis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls Nite Out! Go have fun with your girls and try not to think about him. If that doesn't help try doing something else to occupy your thoughts and distract you from thinking about him. Also, don't freak everytime he's near (unless you literally can't help it :[) act like he's just another person in the halls. If this guy is the way he sounds try to forget about him and move on because he's not worth it. Hope that helped!
2006-10-21 20:22:02 · answer #7 · answered by music_lvr29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep busy and hang with girlfriends. With time he'll fade and you will be ready to have fun with a new guy. My heart's been broken several times now. Lived through all of them and learned from it too.
2006-10-21 20:28:33 · answer #8 · answered by sweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seeing him often probably doesn't help. if he talks to your friends, that doesn't help either. what happens if he starts to date one of your friends. is only been 2 months. the break up is fresh and takes times. as dr. phil says, "live well is the best revenge". let him see you are over him and be strong.
2006-10-21 20:18:30 · answer #9 · answered by havingfun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the only cure. There are no magic words, no magic cure.
2006-10-21 20:15:55 · answer #10 · answered by cathy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋