why do women have to lie ?

Question

i lyed to my partner today i told him i lost twenty quid but i didnt i lent it to my sister i could not tell him he would hit the roof do you think it ok to tell little white liees or do you think i should tell him

Answer 1

if it was your £20 then i dont see why you should have to report to him......it's ok to tell white lies to avoid arguments, also she's your sis...does he not like her or something? i wonder how many times he's lent money to people and not told you? you don't have to tell him anything if you know he'll hit the roof...so just keep it at that....you lost it...that's that..say no more...

Answer 2

I think as a rule, people shouldn't lie at all-even white lies....but maybe theres a reason as to why you feel as though can't tell your partner something that you should be able too. After all it is your sister who you are lending the money to, therefore there shouldn't be any reason as to why you shouldn't be able to tell him the truth, with out him hitting the roof. I think you should tell him the truth because I think there a basic things within a relationship that should be taken for granted-such as not lying and being as open as possible with one another. If I were you I would be open by saying that you have lied, and that you are sorry, but there was a reason why you felt that you couldn't be straight forward with him in the first place. Maybe you need to be able to trust eachother more, and if he has a problem with you lending your sister money then he should be able to justify why and likewise, you should be able to justify lending your sister the money; this doesn't mean that you are in wrong. Perhaps try disscussing more openly any disagreements that you may have between one another.
Melissax

Answer 3

You should not have to lie and he should not be hitting the roof...it seems you are being controlled and do not have an equal relationship in which you feel entitled to make decisions. We live in the 21st century where people should feel and be treated as equals...not so that one of a couple is controlling the thoughts, feelings and decisions of the other by 'hitting the roof'.

You need to accept your rights as an equal human being and assert yourself as such...if he cannot accept that then you need to rethink your relationship.

Answer 4

sometimes white lies are ok, but in this case you need to tell him, you know he will hit the roof, so there is a reason for this, either your sis is always borrowing and not paying back or he does not like your sis, either way, it will come back at some point and a relationship must be built on trust x

Answer 5

You should be able to lend £20 to your sister without him hitting the roof especially if you earnt it. However, if you're always bailing her out and she never pays it back then I can understand that. A white lie is ok - but better to stick up for yourself in the first place I reckon.

Answer 6

You dont have to lie, its your sis you,ve lent the money to she is your family he is not. Stand up for yourself, your just making a rod for your own back, what if he finds out with a totally innocent comment. Then he will definately not be happy that you lied. Tell him next time if he doesnt like it hard luck. You ve known her longer than you,ve known him.

Answer 7

A little white lie is not going to kill anyone but it obviously makes you very uncomfortable.

You may want to rethink your relationship if you have to lie to him or you may have to rethink your behavior if you are not responsible with money.

Caution even a white lie can turn around and bite you on the butt and embarrass you to others. Also there are many people who hate liars and feel they cannot trust them.

Answer 8

I think the bigger problem is why you feel you can't tell him about things like lending money to your sister. You should get a job and a separate bank account so that you can spend your money however you like. He sounds really controlling though, so I'm not sure you should even continue this relationship.

Answer 9

As long as she pays you back pretty sharpish, you should be OK. That's what family is all about, helping each other. However, don't let your sister treat you like her personal bank. She has to learn the value of money and she won't if you keep 'lending' her money every time she askes.

Answer 10

I think ALL FEMALES LIE. People in general lie inorder to keep someones feelings safe and some people aren't able to tell the truth. I lie to my partner just to revieve a certain reaction just like you said so WOMEN LIE so WE can avoid things and later problems.