am i going to hell?

Question

a little while back i asked a couple of questions along this line but never this direct.

6 years ago i killed the man who raped my 12 year old daughter and went to prision for 5 out of 8 years.
my problem is that i am not sorry i did it and would probally do it again if i had to do it over again.
i have asked god to help me over come this and it has been to no avail. the only thing i am sorry about is that i didn't get to see my kids grow up. so the question is 2 fold. #1 why won't god help me to forgive that man and help me to feel sorry for what i did? and #2 if i don't will i go to hell?

Answer 1

it sounds like you've already been through hell. do you think that you cannot forgive this man, partly because you cannot forgive yourself for your actions because the consequences meant missing out on your daughters life when you were trying to protect her?

Answer 2

I don't know only God knows that. I can only tell you
to ask Jesus Christ to be your Savior. He forgave the
thief on the cross and a woman taken in adultery. As
far as forgiving some one who raped your daughter
that is beyond any thing I can imagine. I knew someone
who had a son that was murdered. I don't know how that compares to your situation. She often said she just
couldn't forgive that man. She was a Christian
lady,died, and by the grace of Jesus Christ I believe
she is in heaven. Sometimes I think if we have asked God to forgive us and have asked Him to help us to forgive someone we just have to believe He will. It is very hard to separate emotion from fact. I think that is just what you have tried to do.
You may hate and you may not want to forgive,but remember
those are emotions. Jesus says if we confess our sin he is
faithful and just to forgive. I John 1:9. That includes the sin of unforgiveness. If He forgives you He is going to help
you overcome that sin. Don't trust your feelings.
Trust Him .If youdo not get help from the internet I
suggest you see a pastor of a Bible Believing church.
They are not the same. If you don't get help there try
another. Also I suggest reading the book of 1 John
over and over and seek help until you find it.
Jesus says seek and you shall find. He doesn't lie.

Personally I have had to be reminded of that myself.
I will be praying for you.To answer your question
God is helping,but the facts have not caught up with the emotions if I may put it that way. If you place your
trust in Him I can assure you, you are on your way to heaven. John 5:24.

Answer 3

#1 You have to ask yourself do you really want to forgive that guy, cause God knows you're heart and He won't help you if you don't really want Him to. If you really do want forgiveness start by reading through scripture such as Matt. 18:15-35 or Col. 3:12-17. Secondly, you have to let go of thinking that rape is worse than any other sin although I'm sure that it has a much worse effect than a lot of other sins. It won't be easy to see it as equal to lying or stealing but that's where God will step in if you truly try.

#2 Matthew 6:14-15 says that "if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive you sins."

Answer 4

I for one do not blame you. I would do the same, if I was in your position. All you have to do is ask, and you will be forgiven.
With you being here, and asking what you did, you are truly repentant. This changed your life. I'm afraid it's gonna be a while
before you feel better about it. Just keep praying and God will help you. Just remember, I think any parent would do the same thing.
My ex-husband killed our child. I still have never forgiven him. And I know I never will.I really believe, God understands this. There is a reason for everything I know. This is also a burden for me. Trust in God.
and you will be forgiven.

Answer 5

You broke the law, but I understand why you did, and I would do the same.

You paid your debt in prison. You also paid by missing time you could have spent with your children. You have been punished and should not brood on it any longer.

I don't believe in god or hell, so I really can't say what will become of your soul. If there is a god and hell, only s/he can judge what will become of you, and how you proceed is more dependent on your personal faith than anything I say. The only thing I can say is for the sake of your kids you should focus on the future and making sure you have a good relationship with them.

Answer 6

Those who do not believe in Jesus Christ as the son of God will go to hell when they die, yes. What you did was not only against the law, murder is a sin. Do I understand why you did it? You bet I do. However, setting aside our need for revenge as human beings, God's ways are higher than our ways. He says, sin and you will go to hell. Except.....if you believe in Jesus as your savior, who died on a cross to pay for your sins.

You have asked God to help you overcome your lack of remorse. Okay. But, may I be frank? If you are not willing to let go of the hatred you feel for this man, even after taking his life, God cannot force you to. To truly be a child of God, you must be willing to see that what you did is a sin. You must repent of that sin and ask God to forgive you. You must be born again by faith in the son of God. In all of these things, I ask in Jesus name that God grant you mercy.

Answer 7

Hmmm, There is a season for everything. Maybe you need counseling. Because you killed a man and that hardens your heart. I hope that all goes well with you. I also believe that milllions of people go to hell everyday, not because they were bad people, but good people also. And Well My believe on Hell is that you can escape Hell By asking Jesus into you life and asking him to change you. and I believe that, that is what you want.

Answer 8

God will help you once you help yourself. You'll need to forgive the man who raped your daughter. Realize that he was a sinner.

Obviously this is easier said than done.

We all make mistakes and continue to do so our entire lives (big mistakes and small ones too).

I'd seek counsel from your local Church to help you.

Good luck and God bless

Answer 9

Here and now is the only reality; life is yours to make of it what you will. Here and now could be heaven (or hell) if you choose to see it that way - you just have to open yourself up to that understanding about the true nature of reality. You need not ever forgive nor be forgiven except within yourself. You are the only person that you ever have to answer to, so it's best to be on good terms with youself.

Answer 10

You shouldn't feel sorry for what you did or that f-u-c-k. If god is to punish a man like you by making him suffer the same way as a rapist, he isn't a god you'd want to follow right? Don't bother with all the hypocritical religious doctrines. Just know that you did what any man who honors their child would do.