Hi...I have been reading about evolutionary biology recently and begun to wonder how it applies in the real world. Question for women--what would you think about a hypothetical good-looking, somewhat successful 50-year old man who has never been married? Would that raise red flags for you that he has never been married? What if he says he has been in long term relationships previously but did not believe in the legal requirements of marriage? Would that change your mind and put you at ease to be in a relationship with him?
Just wondering (and no, I am not a 50 year old man!!)
Please include your AGE in your response. Thanks!
2006-10-21 12:29:06 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm a 35yo married woman.
I don't think there's any red flag that should be raised over a 50yo man never being married. These days more people live together than get married. What's the big deal about a 50yo man who's never been married?
2006-10-21 12:31:35 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
67 yrs & married
When I was young, if a young woman wasn't married by the time she was 30, then "There must be something wrong with her" was the general consensus. Now it is acceptable to be single and self-supporting because more women are in the workplace.
I believe the same rule applied for men but the age expectation was relaxed into the 30's was still OK. If he weren't married, it was usually, "Momma's boy or is he gay?"
With all the failed and serial marriages, I believe that some people aren't ready for marriage -- ever. Not everyone wants the long term responsibility supporting a family.
2006-10-21 12:41:20 · answer #2 · answered by Lynda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 32.
If he told me that he didn't believe in the legal requirements for marriage I would think he was recently divorced because he found out he was gay.
If he told me that he made a ton of money and never settled down because he just hadnt met me yet and I was the perfect woman for him I would think he was a damned liar, currently married and about to be divorced because he recently found out he was gay.
If he wasn't gay which would be the only totally acceptable explanation, then I would think he was a loser who had some serious character flaws. Commitment and lack of romance not being the least of these and I would move on.
2006-10-21 12:38:43 · answer #3 · answered by luckybluebunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would for me Mostly because if i was around the same age group and was looking for a relationship to possibly lead into marriage, but you are unable to commit because you do not believe in the Legal requirements for marriage....I would not date you because you are not looking for the same thing that i would be looking for and therefore we would not be compatible for eachother. Just because you had previously been in long tem relationships, doesn't mean that you committed to them, that would explain to me why the relationship did not work out.
P.s. I'm 23
2006-10-21 12:35:15 · answer #4 · answered by Beautiful disaster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi I am 51 and yes it bothers me sometimes when a man my age says hes never been married. I would think that he is already married and lying or something may be wrong with him lol..But as long as he had long term relationships would make me feel better
2006-10-21 12:33:02 · answer #5 · answered by jojo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 53, have never beleived in the "legal requirements of marriage" although I have been married, (for convienence and finances), it was never something I found all that necessary, even when I was younger. I believe in monogomous relationships but I don't beleive one needs legal documenation on it.
2006-10-21 12:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The place i am at in my life it wouldn't bother me, but when i was younger and marriage was all i wanted i wouldn't look twice. People grow in there thoughts and ideals as they age i look at everything differently these days and i don't judge others . I just turned 39
2006-10-21 12:35:09 · answer #7 · answered by seilygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm 22. the fact that he was 50 and not married wouldn't raise flags, but the fact that he hasn't been married BECAUSE he doesn't believe in it would.
2006-10-21 12:37:26 · answer #8 · answered by jumpoutjane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
43 At first i would wonder if he were gay. Then when he explains that he just got out a of relationship and don't believe in marriage then that wouldn't bother me and yes i would go out with
2006-10-21 12:36:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
50 and no i would not question unless he told me he had kids and never married the woman yet choose to play house with her
2006-10-21 12:35:54 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋