Try to keep this short. She is a real cow. She has twin sons (me married to one of them) and they are the sweetest boys ever, aged 30. She also has a daughter aged 19. Basically she is a ponse and has borrowed £££ of of one of the boys. (not my one) & never pays it back.We went to Austria and got married and they didn't bother going and all they got him was a photo album.- no help/interest. The boys never get birthday or xmas presents. She never visits and we only live 6 mile away,never makes a cup of tea when we go round. It is not me. She treats her boys both like this. But the daughter gets everything and she lets her borrow money off of the boys as well and never pays it back - she is a real spoiled cow. The boys never say anything they are used to this treatment, but it does my head in. It was my 30th a few months ago and she never even got me a card. She is so nasty - yet she will buy pressies for people she hardly knows (it makes her look good) any ideas???
2006-10-21 12:26:01 · 35 answers · asked by Katie G 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
write her off!! I can understand how frustrating that is tell your husband how it bothers you and if he is content to let it slide then let it slide, but if she dose not acknowlage you on birthdays Xmas then dont with her I doubt she will care.
the 19 yr old brat should be removed from the brotherly withdrawl account as soon as posible though
2006-10-21 12:33:21 · answer #1 · answered by dreson k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this mother in law has some problems. However she's not the worse. I would not play down to her level, the way to make her feel shitty is by always being nice to her. Like when you see her, how are you? can I get you something? do this without importance if you know what I mean.
When she's around, get involved in your own activities into your onwn life. Never give her the impression that she's getting on your nerves. Ignore her if you have too, that way she'll understand that the world does not evolve around her and that you don't have time for her bullshit.
After all you married her son. As long as he loves you and treats you with full respect around the mom than you have a good future ahead of you.
Think about your lives and building a family. After all the old lady had hers.
Good luck
2006-10-21 12:39:58 · answer #2 · answered by uma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you'r with her son you will have her in your life. Seems like he knows what shes like would be worse if he was a big mummys boy and you had to put up with her smugly drooling all over him and in your home more than you are ( i have first hand experience of this !) There is nothing you can do about her as she has obviously getting away this for ages, before and after you ve come along. What does your hubby think? He must be annoyed at her for favouring his sister and her "people pleasing".
2006-10-21 12:36:06 · answer #3 · answered by red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to your husband about the fact that you don't like the way she behaves to him or yourself and that it affects you. If your husband doesn't see that there is a problem then of course it is hard to make him see that there one, but you can at least try talking to him about it and also if you do not feel happy in her company then simply refuse to spend any time with her, I'm sure your husband will soon get the message then! I think unless your husband can realise that there is a problem, all you can do for now is stick by what you believe, and say what you think to your husband if she does something that you don't think is right of fair.
Good Luck
2006-10-21 13:25:28 · answer #4 · answered by Seriously Though 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother in law loves the girl because she the only one. The boys got women. she may be jealous of them? Some mothers do. Best things is ignore her. Keep well away from her. How about moving away from that area. Well worth all the trouble.
My mother in law gave me a present for my wedding which looked very old and used. I ignored it and gave it a way. Before that I made sure some of her friends seen it. I never expected any thing from her. She never visited or gave me any thing for for past 27 years. It never bothered me . I moved house far off and peacefully lived.
2006-10-21 23:45:16 · answer #5 · answered by shiningstar2808 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a mother in law from hell she interferes and knows everything and no one is right..........she is a perfect mother and no women is good enough for her children
You have it lucky, least she is not in your face every minute of the day.............don't lend her money any more and as for her having favourites she isn't gonna change so its not worth even going there......
Her sons must feel awful knowing she is like that.........
I could quite happily forfeit a birthday card if she would just stay out of my face.....she phones my husband up and says hi its mumsy here ha ha I wanna puke.....
Stay clear pretend she doesn't exist
2006-10-21 12:38:11 · answer #6 · answered by xXx Orange Breezer xXx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're upset about it cos you're protective of your husband. Just accept it, there isn't really much you can do, pure favouritism on your mother-in-laws part. She may or may not have reasons for this!! Did she have her twins when she was young?? She sounds quite misguided, maybe there is a bit of resentment there and she focuses on her younger daughter because she want's things to be different for her? Just guessing.
Both my mother and father in law favour my husbands older sister, It bothers me because I know it bothers him (thought he tries not to show it). However I think it may be because both of them like to feel needed, he's always been quite sorted and mature, where his sister hasn't.
2006-10-21 12:38:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lolz you sound exactly like my sister..shes got the same problem as well...shes also got married to one of the twins and her mother-in-law treats no just her but her other 2 daughter-in-laws like sh**!!! and yeah she is a right old cow and loads more things i can say **** ********** ***** **** (it will go on and on). and also she treats her own daughters and their childern very well she spoils them alot.
i think you should have a word with your husband about his mother....have a light converstaion with him and than try talking to his mother...asking her if there is any problem....or why she is behaving like that for...etc etc.
2006-10-22 03:18:18 · answer #8 · answered by Pretty Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woah--that is rough! Sorry, I don't see her changing anytime soon. i would avoid her like the plague, but I realize your husband may want to see her now and then.
Just make sure you have very thick skin and try to take not of it personally-- you only have to deal with her once in a while, but she has to live her life being a ***** all the time.
2006-10-21 12:29:08 · answer #9 · answered by Miro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you stay out of it.
If it is not nessicary for you to get along with her and spend overly copeous amounts of time with her then don't.
If you don't want your husband lending everyone money all the time you have to discuss it with him so tha the can see where you're coming from.
It's not very likely that this is woman is going to change, and especially not for you, so I suggest you just stear clear of anything to deep and don't depend on them for anything.
2006-10-21 12:37:29 · answer #10 · answered by lovely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋