I grew up being terrified of my dad. There was verbal, emotional, and physical abuse. From the earliest times, I remember being told, that I was worthless. I was told that I would never make it on my own, because I was too stupid. The hittings, and beatings never stopped. I forgave, and forgave, and forgave. But, now, years later. My veiw of people are , I dont know, kind of hard, maybe. But, I cant trust people, I dont believe in people, but, its not that I choose to be this way. I feel I was raised to be who I am now. I dont think it's totally fair that people, seem to think I am this way, because I want to be. Will I ever get past these demons?
2006-10-21 12:25:44 · 10 answers · asked by jeraboam2004 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
Wow, I'm so sorry that you were raised and had to suffer like that. I grew up in an alchoholic violent household so I completely understand.
You are not alone, and with really good therapy you will absolutely be able to put your "demons" to rest. Finding a good therapist can sometimes be difficult, but stick to it and make the all important investmant in yourself, YOU ARE WORTH IT!!!
HUGS
2006-10-21 12:30:13 · answer #1 · answered by Joyce L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the past has to be part of who you are and who you always will be. It's true that you can't completely demolish these scars but you can go on with life as a "healthier" person if you take these demons into consideration. You can trust people, you just have to choose who. good luck =D
2006-10-21 19:38:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
each event of abuse was a mini trauma... we are born helpless into this world and rely on the persons charged with our care to do so with love and compassion... sadly, often that doesn't happen... its understandable that you don't trust
I resemble lots of your words... I too grew up in a house like that... my dad beating the crap out of us, degrading us... my mom standing by and letting it happen... back in the 50s if you were hit, it was understood that you did something to deserve it... when you are treated like that, you buy into it.... you get told often enough that you are nothing, you believe it cause the brain can't discern between truth and a lie... it absorbs and integrates and becomes our reality
I would suggest seeking help from a therapist who specializes in trauma work
we become who we are because of how we experience life but the responsibility lies with us to get past it and move on
2006-10-21 19:33:39 · answer #3 · answered by dornalune 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I to was abuse as a kid !! by my older brother hitting me kicking me. i have a hearing problem because of it, and people tell me to move on, and i can't all i asked for was for him to say I'm sorry. but until you have been abuse then you don't know what It's like, so please don't tell him to move on! some of us can maybe. right to day if I even think that someone are about to hit me I Nock the s..t out of them first. and i don't think I'll ever get over it. I feel your pain but if you can get over this then do so. Good Luck!!!!
2006-10-21 19:47:24 · answer #4 · answered by Kas-O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you will get past this if you really work on it...you have to forgive one more time and take a chance...you just have to find that right person to help you trust again...but i hope you do know that your dad was wrong and you're not worthless or stupid..maybe try counseling just to get it all and get some techniques for trusting people...
2006-10-21 19:31:15 · answer #5 · answered by lylitalianbeauty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you realize now that you are not worthless? Do you support yourself? Do you want to beat your girlfreind up? Whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger, but you really should reach out for therapy, if you find you cannot be happy.
2006-10-21 19:34:26 · answer #6 · answered by venusiaint 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry to hear that. My dad was an alcoholic. Although he didn't hit me or my siblings. He was abusive to my Mother. My parents divorced when I was nine. I hope you can change your way of thinking. God bless.
2006-10-21 19:42:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
gone through all of that too- except the one that did it to me was a preacher and his wife!. i was also adopted- yes it really does affect your outlook and takes a lot of work on your self esteem and a lot of time to heal. i have incidentally written the whole worthless *** hole family off - comes a time to not deal with the riff raff anymore. you cant stay around sickos and get well!.
2006-10-21 19:48:45 · answer #8 · answered by inquisitive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
getting past the demons is totally up to you
it is so horrible that even the best of parents tell their children they are bad when they do bad things
it is the action that is to be assessed, not the person
See it, Believe it and you can DO it
be who you want to be
best of luck
2006-10-21 19:29:38 · answer #9 · answered by pepper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as an adult, you make life the way you want it to be...you sound jaded and probobly rightfully so, however, your life is your, so take charge now. dont blame the past for what you control right now.
2006-10-21 19:29:53 · answer #10 · answered by mcharmd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋