I find it very troubling that so many women are asking questions like...How do I get a guy to notice me? What can I do to get a shy man to ask me out? He cheated should I leave?
The problem is so many women suffer from low self esteem. If a man likes a woman he'll ask her out period. There's nothing a woman can do to get a man to notice her. A man will take notice to a woman that takes care of herself. He'll notice a woman who has her own interest outside of him. Calling a man is not okay. Flirting with a man only makes a woman seem easy. Men like challenges and when a woman chases a man she is no longer a challenge.
Why ask a man out? You'll take the risk of getting rejected. Rejection doesn't feel good. Self esteem is hard to get back so hold on to your self-esteem.
2006-10-21 12:25:41 · 12 answers · asked by Real Voice 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you're right. Why are so many women so pushy when it comes to men. I think that most women think because it's the year 2006 that they have the right to go after men. I bet those women are still chasing men or are lonely.
2006-10-22 02:34:26 · answer #1 · answered by Inez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't disagree with you more...what makes you think that an adolescent male is any more secure than a girl of the same age? Neither wishes to be rejected. The fact is that someone has to have initiative in these situations...and the one asking the question here is showing a willingness to at least start the process.
By the way, boys as well as girls ask the same questions here...and they all get basically the same answer...be more confident...the person of the opposite sex is still just a person, so relate to them on that level first...and be yourself. That pretty much sums up most of the advice out here.
No where does it imply that you should give up your self esteem...or become something that you are not in order to please someone else. There should be no stigma attached to making the first move, the stereotypical days of June Cleaver are long over.
2006-10-21 12:43:57 · answer #2 · answered by Joe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wrong. Taking risks are part of life. Without risks, what makes life worth living? And there is nothing wrong with asking a man out- what if the man is shy? Its possible. I am a man, and I asked a girl out, she turned me down. Yes, it hurt, but I eventually got over it. Big deal. Plenty of fish in the sea.
So for a woman to ask a man out, does that mean shes got low self esteem? Not at all, and if she gets her man- who the hell is going to talk then?
It sounds to me like you have a somewhat narrow-minded view of all men in general, all men are not like that, you need to mature a little yourself.
2006-10-21 12:32:24 · answer #3 · answered by toko 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Rejection is a part of life, and this is the year 2006 not 1900..Women have the right to take charge of their lives and make a move on a man. Boy are you out of touch!
2006-10-21 12:29:10 · answer #4 · answered by jojo 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
its really cool when women ask you out . guess im just a really honest kinda guy and like a really honest kinda woman- i think its a real turn on to have the woman be the initiator- puts a really neat kinda flair into the situation -and if shes okay doing that theres not much that shes not willing to talk about or share with you either- communication is awesome!.
2006-10-21 12:43:17 · answer #5 · answered by inquisitive 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am thinkin right now that you decided to spew your opinion on us in hopes that someone will listen to you bull.... hunny, how do you know that that's what all guys want? have you talked it over with every man in the universe? i didn't think so. i have heard that alot of guys find it flattering when a girl asks them out, it shows that she is self assured and confident. it also helps the shy guy out because sometimes a guy won't ask a girl out if he's scared she'll reject him. I am happy that the old ways are gone and I am free to take charge of my own love life and not have to sit around waiting for someone to ask me out.
2006-10-21 12:34:44 · answer #6 · answered by abcmom 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You tell 'em, Real Voice. There are too many women obsessing over their love lives — or the lack thereof. Aren't there more important things to think about (careers, friends, families, homes)?
2006-10-21 13:19:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What year are you living in? Welcome to equal rights. As for not telling or asking someone out that you want to be with, it's just a waste of life to wait. The only challenge that I liked was unhooking her bra with one hand. Life is short, enjoy, but don't waste.
2006-10-21 12:33:27 · answer #8 · answered by Jack S. Buy more ammo! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THATS WHY IT IS CALLED SELF ESTEEM NO ONE CAN CHANGE THE WAY YOU FEEL ABOUT YOUR SELF....THERE IS A DIFFRENCE IN EASY AND FLIRTING AND SOME PEOPLE GET IT MIXED UP BUT IT IS A NEW ERA AND SOME MEN ARE SHY AND OTHERS JUST DON'T GET IT.
2006-10-21 12:31:09 · answer #9 · answered by cody 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how will you ever know if you don't ask? maby the guy u like is shy, sometimes it's the girl that has to make the first move because the guy is intimidated. yea sometimes they're whores, but sometimes it's genuine. whats wrong with aconfident woman?
2006-10-21 13:55:49 · answer #10 · answered by jt 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋