He is unmarried and we are very good friends since we were kids. We always do things together. Like movies or other leasure activities. And we enjoy each others company a lot. We both feel more attracted lately.
2006-10-21 12:21:49 · 28 answers · asked by jennifer j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let me get this strait, you want to know if it is ok for you to have a 'romantic relationship' with your uncle? NO...Thats gross and incest
2006-10-21 12:26:39 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you and your Uncle have formed a type of bond. You share so much in common, for instance, you know a lot of the same people , your families. You can talk to him and he to you freely about things in your lives.
Why? because he is your uncle.
That would be fine, except being male and female , too much time together alone , the flesh begins to imagine , what if. Those natural feelings of neice and uncle turn into something perverted. The two of you are not seeing clearly, thinking rationally, instead the body and it's lust have replaced common sense.
Let me tell you one or two natural reasons this is not a good idea. Your father will be very hurt and it could sever the relationship between him and his brother forever. Not to mention your grandparents, his parents.
Children who are born out of relationships with immediate family ties/genes, have a much higher risk of birth defects and or mental disablities.Let alone trying to explain to the child later their father is also there great uncle.
Spiritually it is a sin .
If your uncle is making advances toward you in a romantic manner, he is not your friend nor does he really care about you as a neice. It doesn't matter if you are 21 or 2 yrs old, he should be a sort of protector for you, to teach you by example right from wrong and not take advantage of you. Don't spend anymore time with him alone, my advice to you is to stop it before you make a big mistake and regret it for the rest of your life.
2006-10-21 19:50:27 · answer #2 · answered by cookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uncle is next to Father which further means he is almost worthy of being called "Father" and must be regarded as Father.
I don't see any morality in the Relationship you want to have with your uncle.
Look, your father's blood and your blood and that of you uncle's is same! I am not talking about any Blood Group! I am talking about the Blood Relation and no society of the world can ever allow such relationship! It will be Questionable and Immoral!
Now, I would like to guide you here. Though you are 21 and can think and decide what is right or wrong for you to do yet I would like to give you some moral lectures (that's what you will call them) here:
>>> Would you like to have a romantic relationship with your own brother just because you two have been good friends since you were kids?
>>> Would you like to have a romantic relationship with a person just because he is your old friend and you spend most of your time with him?
If your answer is "No" to any of the above questions then you ought to know and understand that "to have been together" for a long time doesn't mean that you should have a Romantic Relationship with that person.
The kind of relationship that you already exists between you and your uncle is that of Blood Relationship and you should look upon your uncle (irrespective of his age) as your Father or Elder Brother.
Friend, your right or wrong DECISION may make or ruin your life. Please, think 1000 times. Yes, I say again "think 1000 times" before you step forward to have any romance with your uncle. It will ruin your life and will bring you a bad name.
Remedy:
You are young and so it's natural for you to have such feelings or attraction towards somebody who is very close to you. At this stage of your life, your uncle is very close to you and he is of your age group too. But don't get blind. Control your desires and keep watch on them! When such thoughts arise in you, just close your eyes and see in him your father! Place your mind in God and if you don't believe in God then simply think of you as SOUL and not as BODY!
Confused? Well, in 1 sentence: Don't think of making any romance with your uncle and ask your parents to find you a good match or you will get 1 when your time comes!
2006-10-21 19:51:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
um..i dont think that is right...he is your uncle...you are like blood related...does your dad know about this??? if you do hook up and get married and have kids then your kids will look weird because you guys are blood related and have many of the same genes. just to let you know that information...i do not think that would be a very good idea to have a romantic relationship with your relitive
2006-10-21 19:26:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey you sound concerned so maybe its serious. If it is, then its serious. Because its serious, this is a serious situation. But I hope you not serious. Keep on having a nice relationship with your uncle. But no, its wrong to have a romantic relationship with your uncle. Did you pick that up? Its your uncle. Its not right girl. Your uncle. ewwww. But I hope you not serious and you didn't like kiss him or something like that. Please no. Its your uncle.
2006-10-21 19:39:33 · answer #5 · answered by paypaldoppie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's perfectly ok. According the the Pakistani Tribal Counsel, it is totally appropriate, and in fact encouraged to have sexual encounters with close blood relatives. You are definitely in the right here. Peace.
2006-10-21 19:27:54 · answer #6 · answered by Homam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not appropriate to have a romantic relationship with your uncle.
2006-10-21 20:08:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you must live down south. That is your uncle. If you want to keep it all in the family I guess.
2006-10-21 19:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by Sexy-n-Hot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are asking if it is okay to have an adult/dating/sexual relationship with your uncle? UM>>> NO!!! Find someone else and stay out of your own gene pool.
2006-10-21 19:24:23 · answer #9 · answered by just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this the brother of your birth father?
That's considered incest in most states north of the Mason-Dixon line. And nasty in all of the others
2006-10-21 19:25:06 · answer #10 · answered by George Curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋