I asked a question on this site last night about my friend because he had been ignoring me, the majority of the answers were to tell him where to go because he wasn't interested in me so I sent him an e-mail telling where to go, but now he's sent me another e-mail telling me where to go because I was out of order, I feel really bad now and I may have spoilt everything with him now. What should I do?
2006-10-21 12:03:31 · 59 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe talk to your friends instead of asking strangers on line.
2006-10-21 12:05:32 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes it is best in situations such as this to think things through first before you make decisions. Was your friend truly ignoring you or was he seriously in a situation that he could not communicate with you? When it comes to matters of the heart, wisdom from the Lord God who created you and knows your deepest desires is the one I would prefer an answer from rather than individuals who don't have a clue who you are or your friend. You may ask for others opinions, however, ultimately, God's opinion is the only one that matters.
Acknowledging making hasty decisions is a positive move. Forgiveness is a powerful act. Simply swallow your pride and say, hey, I was wrong by seeking the opinions of others and I really like you and want to resolve this issue between us. Would you please forgive me?
Forgive yourself and if he returns to you he should also do the same. He acted hasty in telling you that you were out of order. Clarify your relationship, encourage one another and be a blessing in each others lives. If he still wants nothing to do with you, God has someone even better for you.
2006-10-21 12:57:21 · answer #2 · answered by MannaAngel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you take other peoples advice you have to make sure that you understand what you are doing. The people on thsi site only have the information that you give them to base their answer on so they only have your side of the story to go on. You should call him up and have a serious talk with him about the way you feel and how he took what you said if they way he took your email was not the way you meant it then tell him that he took what you wrote out of context and tell him what you meant. On the other hand if you feel that the friendship is over and that nothing that you can do will fix it then you should just apologize to him and hope that he will forgive you.
2006-10-21 12:08:22 · answer #3 · answered by <<SEXY MOMMA>> 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to hear that...why did you use the advice without weighing your options? One thing I have noticed about the posters on this site...the majority of them are very young and very "me" oriented and very inexperienced...I wouldnt take their advice without getting some other views from people I know and trust! Its too bad that you now regret your decision...I didnt get a chance to see or answer your question last night, but I would guess that you are very interested in someone who is not suiting your need to reciprocate the same feeling you have...where is your confidence? Where is your self esteem? You dont need random advice from people you dont know to figure out this person, he IS only human right? if you are getting to know them...take your time and do just that. Well I dont know your situation, as I said, but I bet it can be fixed pretty easy. But if I where you...I would take most of the advice on this board with a grain of salt!
2006-10-21 12:18:12 · answer #4 · answered by tpoke24 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ya you're unfortunately starting to sound a little bit crazy.
And he probably thinks you're crazy and obsessed with him or something stupid. Some guys have the biggest ego.
He probably wasn't ignoring you, but rather was wrapped up in something, or interested in someone else. It was unintentional. Just be honest and say ya ya i'm sorry, a friend of mine told me that you were interested me and i had no idea that you were, and so i thought you may want to hang out or something, but then you were ignoring me kind of so i was confused and kind of snapped.
Actually no, that sounds lame. Just forget about it and move on. Pretend it never happened, i'm sure he's not dwelling on it.
2006-10-21 12:10:04 · answer #5 · answered by Chrissy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should probably apologize for acting hasty. Maybe he had a good reason for being distracted. Accept that you may have ruined the friendship forever. Next time sit down and at least try and talk it out and hear each other's side of things. People hide behind email because it's much easier than dealing with things face to face.
2006-10-21 12:09:19 · answer #6 · answered by FoofusPKitty 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
obviously he wasnt interested in the first place if he was ignoring you. i havent seen your q or any of the answers given but maybe you should just try to get over it and forget about him. you are the one that has the right to get upset-he started ignoring you. dont worry about it. he'll either (if he's interested in you) beg pardon and then great your friends again, or he wont, and then he's prbly not a very good friend, not one worth having anyway.....life goes on.....i know this is hard for you but i think you will feel better soon if you try not to dwell on it too much.
2006-10-21 12:08:52 · answer #7 · answered by 4theband 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Apologize to him and admit you were "out of order." Then learn from this mistake and don't rely on other people on an internet site to give you advice about your OWN life. Figure it out for yourself. Half of the people answering questions on Yahoo are imbeciles and the other half don't give a sh*t about you - they only care about points so they'll say anything. This is a site for FUN not for making life decisions based on what everyone here says.
2006-10-21 12:10:51 · answer #8 · answered by nquizzitiv 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, alotof people will give others advice on what they should do, but not often would others do those things if they were really in the position. So, on that note, follow your heart. If you want to apologize than do so. It's probably the right thing to do. Just do what you think is right and what would benifit u and him the most and that would make things happy again.
2006-10-21 12:07:40 · answer #9 · answered by le_le_06 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is finally emailing you Ask him what you can do to repair your friendship with him It can be done and tell him YOU didnt mean anything by asking the question on here YOU just wanted some advice and YES not everyone will give good advice I have found that out myself GOOD LUCK
2006-10-21 12:08:48 · answer #10 · answered by chubbycheeks012003 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi, This is how I look at it.
If a guy is interested in you ,believe me he will go after you.
In my opinion,by telling him where to go will only get him more angry. So where will that get you. Just play it cool and meet other people. If you want,send him another email and say hey listen,
sorry I was just interested,take that as a compliment.
Good luck!
2006-10-21 12:11:20 · answer #11 · answered by linguini11 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋