he wants to do it so bad, but im not sure yet.
2006-10-21 11:54:56 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is entirely a personal decision...I wouldn't do it for a very very long time. But I'm also very cautious and old fashioned. Ideally marriage is a good time to wait...at least then you know who are sleeping with and that you're in a committed relationship.
But if you can't wait that long (it really isn't that bad), I would at least wait until you two are in a good, stable relationship. Get to know each other first, otherwise you run the risk it becoming all about the sex.
And if you're still a teenager, no matter what he says...WAIT!
2006-10-21 11:58:20 · answer #1 · answered by Sativa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My answer is......You should wait as long as it takes for you to...
#1.Get tested 4 his & hers HIV status + VD checkup. (Even if you are a virgin..Some guys lie about being a virgin esp some boys. They act like your the special one to take their virginity first but really they already had sex they just playing wit ur head to get you in the bed, Becareful for these types (they might say so you wanna be my first?)
#2. It should be what you want also.
I assume your not ready and girlfriend that is just ok. Cause there are so many men out there in this world don't even listen to that dumb cliche "there is a shortage of men" cause there might be a shortage but there are millions lol different colors and sizes, heehee, take a pick. You don't have to settle for him or put up with his physcology/manipulation. If he doesn't want to wait. Don't let him pressure you. Don't let him make you feel guilty about it either ok. Not saying he will but just in case don't allow it. Anyway, lol Make sure its somthing you want to do. If you aren't ready to have sex then don't OK.Trust me plz cause once you do it thats it. You can't undo it, You can't take it back.
#3.WEED THEM OUT ...#3 should of been #1 to me. This is a trick from independent,smart, confident women/young ladies.
If you really wanna know if he RESPECTS YOU he will wait. If he doesn't respect you then he will dump your non giving up the booty and move right along cause there is someone for everyone. Right? There is a guy willing to wait 4 u. & there is a girl willing to give it up to him. Which side are you gonna be on? the side you want? or the side that he wants?
Ask yourself, What is it that you want from this guy?
Ask, What is it that this guys wants from me? Why do you want me? All the girls out there and why me?
Then, Realize it for what it really is.Don't lie to yourself no matter how much you want to keep this guy and no matter how much u really are diggin this guy
Have your standards set and your limits. Let him know them and that should help some.
Don't be gulilble/naive Be strong my sister and have a back bone.
Its not easy esp when u have friends that aren't helping the situation.
Good Luck.
2006-10-21 12:33:08 · answer #2 · answered by Thebronx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait as long as it takes until you're ready.
I was with someone for over a year and I was never ready.
I was with my new boyfriend for about 7 or 8 months before I was ready.
You may not even want to make that commitment to this guy. Thats something you will feel internally and you'll know when you want to.
2006-10-21 11:59:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If ur not sure yet, then u shouldnt do it anytime soon. You have to be positively sure ur ready, and that theres not one lil doubt in ur mind that u dont wanna do it yet.
And as for ur bf...he shouldnt be in a rush to do it if he really loves you. If he's pressuring you, then, he jus wants some. Thats it.
â¥You gotta be the one to make sure ur willing to take it to the next levelâ¥
2006-10-21 14:08:47 · answer #4 · answered by jaz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And then, some people prefer to wait until their married. There is no shame in you wanting to wait -besides, how do you know he doesn't have AIDs or herpes or some other STD?
If he loves you for YOU, he'll wait until YOUR ready. You call the shots. Tell him that your not a "easy" like other girls, and not to bring it up again, or else.
2006-10-21 11:59:45 · answer #5 · answered by toko 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all how old are you? If you're 15 than wait 4 years...
It all depends, do you want it to mean something, or do you just want to have sex. Would you rather wait until you know he "loves" you or do you just want a wild night once in a while..Its totally up to you. No one should criticize you either way.
2006-10-21 11:57:58 · answer #6 · answered by Dick Tater 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you are married, and if he cant respect that then he is not the guy for you. A lady must demand respect...for herself as well as her body. He is using your body for his own selfish pleasures...DONT LET HIM. If he cant wait...you dont need him, God will bless you for your decision. God said sex before marriage is a sin....a sin against our own body...punishable by an eternity in hell. Find you a good church and start socializing with Godly people...who will not pressure you into sinning. If he cant understand...LET HIM GO.
2006-10-21 12:03:16 · answer #7 · answered by dineyb68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell aren't you sure about, ask yourself that and there is your answer?? IS it society's standards that you are afraid to cross?? Screw what everyone says is right, you know whether or not you are being a slut.....so if it feels right, then quit waiting for no reason.
2006-10-21 12:16:22 · answer #8 · answered by raildog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If in High School 6months without breaking up. If you break up before that and get back together after 1month without breaking up. Though, an ex told me he would always love me and we broke up. I'm glad i didn't sleep with him
2006-10-21 11:57:07 · answer #9 · answered by optimistic 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how long have you two bee going out and frm ther if things are great when the time is right you will know and do it safe too the best things is not rush too into it
2006-10-21 11:57:02 · answer #10 · answered by maria b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋