I have just been asked out by one of my freinds. Although i like her as a freind, i have never had any physical attraction towards her. she is a year younger than me,(this does matter as i am in comprehenive school at the moment). i have no clue why she asked me out, and she didnt even ask in person. although i do get along with her, i just cant see me and her together. i have never been in a serious relationship, so am being pressurised by my freinds to say yes for the sake of it. Should i say yes or no?
2006-10-21 11:26:39 · 24 answers · asked by mattb77 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think it would be fair to either of you if you were to say YES... You know that you like her as a friend, but you also know you are not attracted to her in any other way. If you were to say YES, it may give this young lady the idea that you "like" her as more than a friend.
The fact that she didn't ask in person is odd, but to keep your friendship in tact, try to tell her no in a nice, tactful way. Don't just blurt it out. Explain to her that you like to hang out with her but as a friend & you are older & will be going off to school so your concentration is on school & your future right now...
Something like that....
2006-10-21 11:44:48 · answer #1 · answered by More Lies & More Smoke Screens 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 63 years old. All I can tell you from my point of view (older) is that we should experience all the things Life has to offer us, as long as it is something we accrpy, and are okay with, and it doesn't hurt someone else. This would be a one-time thing, wouldn't it? So you would only be "on" one time. I am thinking even if you were not all that focused on this particular girl, it would provide an experience which you could look back upon, and discover things about being with someone else. Here is the bottom line: if you have a gut feeling it is just not for you, then "pass" on it, but be really polite and respectful. There is no reason to hurt anyone's feelings, just because you might want to say "No, I'd rather not, but thank you for asking, anyway." All you need to do is to be honest with her and about the situation. There is nothing that says you have to do it. I am just thinking it might expose you to a few things you might never have experienced before, and you might even come away from this experience with a new friendship to enjoy with her. Sent to you with good energies from Chris in South Portland, Maine, U.S.A.
2006-10-21 12:26:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could risk losing her as a friend if it was to go wrong, I would say that you are not looking for a relationship at the moment, and who knows in time to come your friendship could develop into a relationship
2006-10-21 11:30:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well stop and think 4 a second, u met her rite knowen her 4 awhile maybe, she shows u in person she really likes u, n u like her, its about personality if u 2 get on well as friends then u should do as lovers. give it a go take her out, be 2gether 4 awhile and if you really not happy then u can always stay friends.
2006-10-21 11:35:19 · answer #4 · answered by Ben 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say no. You should only have a relationship when you feel comfortable to do so and not just coz your mates say so. Also, if you cant see the two of you together then she's only likely to get upset. Say no.
2006-10-21 11:30:20 · answer #5 · answered by MGN2006 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that you are assuming too much already. she just asked you out, she is not asking you to become his boyfriend or what. Dont you believe in friendly dates anymore? i think going out with her will do you no harm, who knows, you might even enjoy her company and see her truly for what she is. So dont jumped to conclusions first. take it one step at a time.
2006-10-21 23:18:30 · answer #6 · answered by j6shawie26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you wanted to go out with her you would not have to ask this question. say on and tell her it because you like her as your friend and if it did not work between you to you would looses her as a friend. good luck x
2006-10-21 11:36:26 · answer #7 · answered by debbie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if u feel like it could benefit u or yalls friendship then say yes. If not say no.
2006-10-21 11:31:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on say yes, time to experience life, as long as you don't do anything stupid you'll remain friends
2006-10-21 11:31:06 · answer #9 · answered by kennyboy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say yes my friend, you're only on this planet once. Shag as many as you can and spread the seed.
2006-10-21 11:52:33 · answer #10 · answered by Lewisthelab 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋