Do you ever stop and consider and worry if you perhaps came across wrong or disrespectful to another?

Question

Are you ever worried about what your chosen words may start or cause when you do not know what others lives are going through or dealing with? I do. Many times I think back later and worry that perhaps I was not positive enough, loving enough, and caring enough.
"Kind words echo long and are easy to say."
Peace Be With You,
Debra

LOL I delete those too. We are all human and sometimes lose it don't we?

Answer 1

Absolutely. As a Christian I take my responsibility as an Ambassador for Christ seriously.

I strive to remember that the message of Christ is offensive enough. I try to keep the balance of not making the message any more offensive than it has to be, but not removing the offense that is inherent in the truth claims of Christianity.

It's especially tough when people are in an environment where they strongly hold beliefs that are polar opposites from those held by others in the same forum. Some would say that to assert your own beliefs as the truth, and others as false, is arrogant, because one can't know the truth. Of course, they don't recognize the double-standard they hold - that is that they claim to know it to be true that one one cannot know the truth.

Answer 2

"Do you ever stop and consider and worry if you perhaps came across wrong or disrespectful to another?" - A few times. Once I deleted my answer.
"Are you ever worried about what your chosen words may start or cause when you do not know what others lives are going through or dealing with?" -- I try not to answer questions sounding like I know anything, because I have no formal education to really help. I usually give web sites and ask them to see a professional quickly. Talking and listening to each other is another answer I give,too.
Of course I have given a few answers trying to be funny, and not help, because the question is worded for a smart (3 letter word) responce. A few times I am actually funny!
P.S.
I wonder if WSIDR is around, I miss his/her questions, ya'know?
I like that you and Spooky are here.
Whynotaskdon is another good button pusher.
Later, and peace to you and your family...

I can't find James Darwin (or whatever Darwin you know) !?! Did he get the axe? 6:37 Pst 10/21. He was good at pushing buttons too. How Rude! Hope he's back soon. HA WSIDR is back!! Right after I said where is he, he's back.

Answer 3

I usually do my best to make sure I'm not being disrespectful or rude as I'm writing a post, because I rarely have time to go back and look over what I've written. I think I've done a pretty good job of it, though I'm sure I've made mistakes here and there. I would hope that if I was unforgivably rude in a response, the person who asked the question would be polite and mature enough to inform me of it without being equally disrespectful so that I could apologize and better explain what I meant.

Answer 4

Only once have I deleted a post (on Yahoo Answers) for this reason.

But I tend to worry about this quite a bit when posting on other message forums. I try to word my posts carefully, because I know that people reading what I write cannot hear the tone of voice associated with my message, nor can they see the facial expressions and body language. And those things are all important in communication.

Answer 5

It's important to do this but it's even more important to realize that nothing outside of us can help or hurt us. If we cling to an self-concept that sees ourselves as victims or victimizers, we neglect the real strength that is always there. We all want to be the face of innocence against a cruel and wicked world and we need to ensure that we see that for what it is: a desire for a self-concept at the expense of everything else. If we go inside and let go of the concepts of being fragile and affected by what others say or do, we'll teach both them and us that there's a force in us that is beyond any self concept we cling to. Of course, on the path to that point, it is helpful to be kind here.

Answer 6

I gave up worrying if what I type offends someone the third time I was given a violation notice when all I did was give an honest answer to a question. I didn't use profanity, or a racial slur, or tell them they were stupid, but I got a violation notice !?! Now I couldn't care less if I offend. I will Tell the truth, folks don't like it they can just get over it!

Answer 7

No I do not worry. I know that sometimes I can be a butt, even though I do not mean to be so at the end of the evening I try to ask the Lord to bring peace to anybody I have hurt and to let me be better the next day. Sometimes we can drive ourselves cookoo with worry about stuff like that and for myself I found that alot of it is just out of pride.

Answer 8

Yes, I do. It's a very hard thing to say something, then realize that you can't recall it. I made one post in particular that I wish that I could delete, but it's too late now. Discretion can never be an afterthought. That's one reason, I try to be careful about what I say late at night when I'm tired,... or grumpy.

Hoping the best for you...

Answer 9

The man who never made a mistake never made anything.

You know, sometimes the hard word is needed. There is a case for saying "Just stop snivelling and get on with it". Sometimes.

Additional
You know, I've never deleted a post. Sometimes cancelled, but never deleted. Once I've said it, I'll stand by it. It does make me stop and think occasionally.

Answer 10

With all due respect, this may be placing a little too much importance on yourself. While I understand the value of evaluating our attitudes, words, and behaviors, I believe that this process is to help us grow in faith and continue the process of working out our salvation. That is, it is good to reflect on one's shortcomings and seek God's help in doing better next time, if it be his will. But it is a dangerous trap to fall into thinking that another's entire well-being hinges on what I say or do, or don't say or don't do. This is putting way too much emphasis on my power, and too little emphasis on God and on Christ's body of believers. One of the whole "points" of the body of Christ on earth is so that some may pick up where others left off; some may begin the conversation and others may complete it; some may sow the seed and others may water it. Believing that the care of another person's soul is entirely contingent upon the quality of my input--or lack thereof--is seriously problematic.

I get what you're asking, and I am also stretching it to one of its logical conclusions.

Be ever vigilant over the importance placed on self, and ever mindful of how you treat others. Review your words and behaviors, and where you see shortcomings, ask God's strength to correct them, if it is his will. And acknowledge, daily, that all fall short of the glory of God. That is, I seek humility as an ongoing process. I don't think I'm "finished." If ever I think I do, I risk falling into the hands of God's enemy.

Get what I'm saying? Balance in all things--including one's thinking--my good woman.