2006-10-21 11:10:28 · 28 answers · asked by Kalana3 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Sorry to say, probably yes. I told my son that he was in trouble anyway, but if he lied to me, he'd be in a lot more trouble. PLEASE don't tell him he won't be in trouble if he tells you the truth, then punish him. Then YOU'RE lying and setting a bad example. I convinced my child at an early age that if he looked me in the eye, I could tell if he was lying. He is now 20 years old and STILL can't look me in the eye and lie to me! God, I love this kid!!! Be patient and consistent, teach him with love and discipline and let him know that, no matter what, you will always be his mom and will always love him. You may not approve of everything he does and you WILL get angry at him sometimes, but you will always, always love him and he can tell you ANYTHING! Good luck and God bless!
2006-10-21 12:59:47 · answer #1 · answered by olelady55 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so maybe it isn't a lie, just their version of the truth, They have a different perspective! My 5 year old does lie but he does the other as well. If you are unsure if it's a lie just ask the same question 4 times using different tones for each time. Usually by the 3rd time you have the truth and the 4th time locks that in. Also try explaining to your child about the wolf that cried fire, or whatever that story was. So to answer your question, yes they do lie but may not realize it. (ok, so i try to cut my kid some extra slack. they are 5 and learning about actions and consequences and testing everything so I do give a little wiggle room)
2006-10-21 14:51:23 · answer #2 · answered by buttons799 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and if he lies a lot then maybe you should lighten up on him or consider that you might be creating situations where he will break rules or precious items and have to lie.
I'm not a parent but I've been a manager for a long time and know that with employees I get better results when I focus on catching them doing something right rather than trying to bust them for doing something wrong.
If you praise him for telling the truth then frown or don't make too much of a big deal out of a lie for a while you will see that he will want to please you and you will have helped him modify his own behaviour.
Good Luck! It's very rewarding when you help people succeed. :)
And just so you know, 5 yr olds do feel guilt for lying so by helping him tell the truth you will be helping him build stronger self esteem which will help him be a stronger person someday.
2006-10-21 11:46:02 · answer #3 · answered by bluzmelody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any child or adult will lie to avoid getting out of trouble, if the punishment is too harsh. If your child is continously lying to you, when you confront him about something you think he did, try considering how you punish him. If you want the truth from him, try offering a no punishment law. With my children, when they tell me the truth, especially before I have found out the infraction, then the punishment is way less than it would be otherwise. This seems to work well.
2006-10-21 15:03:56 · answer #4 · answered by kari w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, my 4 and a 1/2 yr old has just started doing this. I hate it and I am really trying to encourage him to tell the truth so he won't get in as much trouble. I make sure he gets in even more trouble when i bust him lying.
2006-10-21 23:18:01 · answer #5 · answered by mountain girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes hun its human nature study shows that children under 4 lack the ability to lie because the simply dont know how to your child is about school age so no prizes for guessing where they learnt it from as long as they know the diff between a big lie and a small lie you dont have anything to worry about try asking him/her three times for the truth each one with a bit more seriousness in your tone of voice youll soon learn when they lieing and when they not hope this helps
2006-10-21 11:16:54 · answer #6 · answered by LISA P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes....they don't really understand that if they just tell the truth its not as bad as telling a lie. Eventually they figure that out and still lie so they want get into trouble.
2006-10-21 12:24:46 · answer #7 · answered by April B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet is to make the "capitol" punishment crime of your house hold lying. It may take a while but once they have realized they get in much more trouble for the lie than the offence they are lying about it will stop.
2006-10-21 11:21:42 · answer #8 · answered by Super Cleat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a 6 yr old and she still lie's to keep from getting in trouble
2006-10-22 12:23:37 · answer #9 · answered by rebelicious_angel228 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of kids lie but i think 5 year olds does i used to.
2006-10-21 12:05:49 · answer #10 · answered by ♥~aira~♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋