Be having second thoughts about getting married?? I am not sure i want to marry my fiance anymore who keeps making fun of me with his friends?we used a zip lock bag while having sex 5 weeks ago and i went to the doctors for a blood test and i am pregnant .My guy thinks this is funny saying we should nick name the child zip !How can i make him not act so immature saying we will need a whole new wing on the house because i will be so big He is driving me crazy with the jokes!He told one of his friends and now they at me and crack more jokes!He even pats my stomache and says hi zippy.!Some of his jokes have gotten really crude hen talking about our sex life. I dont want to have to be mom to him and a baby and no matter what i say he does not stop.
2006-10-21 11:01:23 · 17 answers · asked by claire d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
How old are you people???? LMAO at the ZipLoc bag!
2006-10-21 15:29:36 · answer #1 · answered by mrs.dennis.10.6.07 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've already answered your own question... you know this is not normal, nor is it right. You have already identified all the reasons why this isn't going to work.
Look, you can't make anyone act differently. This boy (and I use the word intentionally) is not mature enough to be married, much less to be a father. Consider him a sperm donor and move on.
Do you like being the subject of his jokes with his friends?
Do you think it's right that he make fun of your size as your pregnancy progresses?
Do you think he respects you by talking about your sex life with others?
Do you think he's mature enough to be responsible for a baby, a tiny little life who will be completely dependent on the adults in his or her life for everything?
Do you think he'll change when the baby is born? or maybe six weeks or months or years later?
How long are you willing to put up with this? What are you willing to put up with from him?
If he doesn't stop even when you ask him to, what do you think your future would be like with him? This little boy needs to be shown the door ... NOW.
You deserve much better than him, and so does your child. Whether you decide to raise the baby or release for adoption, he has demonstrated that he does not care about you or for the situation he has had a part in. It could well be that he is trying to get out of his responsibilities by making you hate him. Save yourself the aggravation and tell him to hit the bricks.
Good luck, sweetie!
2006-10-21 18:18:48 · answer #2 · answered by princessmeltdown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the situation is very funny! I also think that his little joke is cute, sort of like the commercial where the little kid tells the people in the elevator that her baby brother is called "our little souvenir" when coming back from their Disney vacation. Do what you will, but i think you are just feeling nervous about the wedding.
2006-10-21 23:41:57 · answer #3 · answered by Kassy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention your ages, so I don't know if either of you are ready for a committment. He obviously is not. If you used a ZipLock bag for protection, you probably aren't either. But, if you are pregnant, it is no longer just about the two of you. The welfare of a child is more important than hurt feelings. If you weren't pregnant, I'd say lose the bum ASAP.
2006-10-21 18:14:30 · answer #4 · answered by kidd 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like you may be overreacting and becoming sensitive, probably because you're pregnant. But talk to him about how it makes you feel when he jokes around. Understand that by making jokes that he's just trying to release some tension and to lighten up the mood. So just go talk to him.
2006-10-21 18:12:52 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes
2006-10-21 18:08:57 · answer #6 · answered by sweetirsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Second guessing yourself is normal, but it sounds as if this guy is kind of a jerk. You need to tell him to shape up or ship out. Sounds like he needs to mature a lot if you plan on marriage.
2006-10-21 18:47:05 · answer #7 · answered by mommy_03_06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,it's up to you to put a stop to this before you marry him. simply tell him with all the seriousness you can muster that the jokes HAVE to stop!!!!!!!!! tell him how it hurts your feeling s etc...if things don't change,tell him it's over.don't stay with him just because of the baby,you'll make the rest of yours and the baby's lives miserable if not!good luck!
2006-10-21 18:15:15 · answer #8 · answered by tinaluvsglass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that anything is wrong with having second thoughts. However, it does not mean that you should not get married. You should tell him how it makes you feel, and if he really loves you he will stop. Congrats and good luck!
2006-10-21 18:12:28 · answer #9 · answered by MISS 84 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
omfg. i so would be out. dont know how old you two are but im 28 and i would never let my other half talk to me like that. or his friends. i say run quick. if bein apart wont wake him up nothing will.
2006-10-21 19:57:29 · answer #10 · answered by honeyred32000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is.
You know, we have had enough of this story. Move on..... Just so everyone knows, this poster has been all over Answers with this before ---
2006-10-22 06:09:43 · answer #11 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋