ok if your gf was hit by a guy in the past.. how does it make you feel when it seemes like she doesnt trust you? and what would you do...is it bad that she is holding a grudge on all guys now?
2006-10-21 10:44:50 · 11 answers · asked by Ashley C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't blame her for holding a grudge, why would any guy ever hit a girl anyways... that is sick. I would be ok with her the way she is or I wouldn't be interested in the first place
2006-10-21 10:47:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all guys hit women, so yes it's bad to hold a grudge. Trust is something that is earned, not given. Some times it takes a while. The guy, if he's honest and has integrity, just has to wait. It'll come. He also needs to not show ANY signs that could even be interpreted as he's going to swing.
2006-10-21 17:48:45 · answer #2 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is bad that she is holding a grudge against "all" guys. sure, she would have a guard up against everyone after getting hit, but it doesn't mean that all guys are assholes. if she was dating me and didn't trust me, then she doesn't want to be in a relationship with me. that is what a relationship is, trust. i could understand if she held back for a week or so, but she has to warm up eventually or no guy will stick around. she would just be pushing them away. so in other words, if you cant trust your new boyfriend, then don't be in the relationship. it will never last unless you trust him
2006-10-21 17:50:29 · answer #3 · answered by cr4is2py0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could understand you may have issues with that.. But i also think you shouldn't come into every relationship thinking every guy just wants to hurt you like some a$$hole did..
Trust is a very important issue in a relationship and i know when a women shows no trust in me in a relationship, when i've never gave her a reason not to .
I honestly start considering if this is a relationship i should stay in..
I know it may be hard, but you've got to let it go. If you bring that baggage into every relationship it's not going to turn out well.
2006-10-21 17:52:15 · answer #4 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A patient guy who's really into you will understand and take things slow if that's what you need. If a guy hits you, walk away from him and the relationship immediately, no matter what commitments you have to the relationship. He must learn that this behaviour cannot be tolerated, otherwise he'll keep doing it. The same can be said for gentlemen who are hit by women.
2006-10-21 17:51:06 · answer #5 · answered by endagrogan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its okay to be a bit cautious cuz its the girl who gets beaten up, pregnant and whatever. On the other hand, wary and hostile attitude tends to get the wrong kind of attention. Women`s strength lies in their "weakness". A man is the head of a woman but the woman turns the head...;-) Be wise, you have the tools for it.
2006-10-21 18:01:56 · answer #6 · answered by Goswin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are mad at her, take her in your arms and hold her. Show that you will work things out, not abuse.
2006-10-21 17:49:44 · answer #7 · answered by Jack S. Buy more ammo! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not. just remember not all men are the same, just like not all women are, l'm sorry that some dumb, cowered, piece of sh*****it man hit you or abused you.but someday he will get his.
2006-10-21 17:49:39 · answer #8 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wouldn't be my g/f long!
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2006-10-21 17:47:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
id smack her till she trusted me
2006-10-21 17:46:41 · answer #10 · answered by J' K '06 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋