1 1/2 years ago my son was born then 3 months later i found out he wasn't mine. but my then i was already attached and i stayed in his life. ok so my BM told he his bio dad that it was his baby he said " i know. i broke the rubber on propose" he was tryin to take my girlfriend from me. he never came to see my son. when times were hard and he didnt have any milk we asked him but he wasn't tryin to help us out. now a year later this guy is tryin to be a dad. he goes to my BM house like once err 2 months and bring a bag of dipers. but he wont come if i'm there actually i never met him face to face cause if he knows that i'm there or going to be there he leaves. well he finally told his mother about about my son and now his family its tryin to some around and visit and have him come to ther house and all that. but this doesnt sit well with me AT ALL. but he is suppost to come and see him today. i'm at work but i'm thinkin of getting off early to beat his a$$. Should i
2006-10-21 10:25:10 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
well first of all let me say i really dont think you want ur son to see you fighting someone, plus u cant be there for him if you go to jail. be honest there's noway you can stop him from seeing him, if he's his.......there's alot of deadbeat dads out here and some do try to makes for the mistakes they did by not being around. i mean you are a good one for staying around. u would be wrong for denying him to see his father he has the right to know who is...i know because i went throught it with my daughter. unless u can go to court and prove his a bad influence on the child.......that's the only way you can stop him........stay at work it's not worth it......
2006-10-21 10:38:56 · answer #1 · answered by smooth sailing34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it's nice to finally meet a man who truly loves a child as he should. Good for you for still staying around even after you found out the baby is not yours.
As for whether or not you should beat his ***, I would say don't. This may only result in you not being able to see the baby any longer. If he has a biological connection to the child and you have a police record of assault from beating the guy - then he can get a restraining order against you. End result...you may not be able to see the baby any longer of he's around.
Do what's best for you and the baby. If you have been there from day #1 - then there is no replacement for you in the eyes of your little boy. They love the people who truly care for them - not some stranger who brings diapers. Even if they begin to be around more, he will love you no less. Just like my son who is in daycare, he still knows who is mommy is even if they are with him all day.
Good luck!
2006-10-21 10:54:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally see why you are angry but I wouldn't suggest beating up on this guy.
Don't give him any advantage over you. You don't want him to be able to send you away to jail.
Talk to your BM about the situation and see what her feelings are about it. If she is on your side tell her to draw the line and then you can gradually cut the other guy out of your lives.
Seeing what she thinks will give you the information you need to decide whether you are going to stay in the relationship or leave the drama behind.
Best of luck.
2006-10-21 10:36:25 · answer #3 · answered by Bowl O' Knowledge 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Not a good idea. Since he is the bio dad, if you beat him up he can have you arrested and make it so you cannot be around the child. She needs to take him to court and get an order for child support. Most states will now garnish right out of their paychecks...if they are working. If they do not garnish and they have an order for child support and don't pay they can have the courts freeze his tax returns.
2006-10-21 10:29:47 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What a sad situation to be lied to like that. The little one loves you though, right? And you love him? So don't do anything that can hurt that for the two of you..hmmm..like beating that guy and getting charged for it, possibly go to jail. It isn't worth it. His true colours showed once, they'll show again and I bet he'll be gone in no time.
2006-10-21 10:32:33 · answer #5 · answered by Zoey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't. not only could he call the cops and you would go to jail, but your BM could get mad and get the wrong impression and not allow you to see that baby. I would keep is cool. You should talk to her and tell her how you feel. You do have to remember, that is his son and she is the mother.
2006-10-21 11:23:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind what is best for the child. That is always the main priority. Good luck.
2006-10-21 10:28:49 · answer #7 · answered by mamatohaley+1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. disipline is neccesary in this case.
2006-10-21 10:33:58 · answer #8 · answered by karpflover 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if that was me i prob would....
2006-10-21 10:43:24 · answer #9 · answered by Katie Ann S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋