It's going nowhere, & I want out now!!! just can't seem to find the words to tell him GET OUT without hurting his sensitve feelings
2006-10-21 10:24:54 · 13 answers · asked by flora s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should sit down and be as honest and direct as possible. I have had not one but 2 restraining orders on men in the past because I was too afraid to hurt thier feelings. In retrospect it was my fault because I wasnt sending the right message. Once its over its over. You cant be freinds for awhile....it only gives them false hope. His feelings will be hurt much worse if you give him a wishy-washy answer to save his feelings and give him false hope. He will only concentrate on trying to get you back. Be honest - Be firm - be kind. But Be CLEAR or it can get out of hand. Hey if he gets hurt....which he will. It might save you the grief of being stalked. I learned my lessson the hard way.
2006-10-22 06:57:25 · answer #1 · answered by Hillary X 2 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
lol their no way to get out of a relationship with out getting hurt or breaking somebody elses feelings so i say just tell him that u dont wanna be with him and thats it. but first think about it n if thats what u want. i hate people that break up and then after a few months want the person back. u dont throw something in the trash and after a few minutes u jump in the trash and get dirty trying to get it back. people need to get that and dont get things twisted
2006-10-21 10:32:53 · answer #2 · answered by jose m 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you need to talk with him, don't take a while to tell him when he is right up next to you, if he tries hugging you or kissing you tell him he isn't getting it and say it again. Then walk off. You will take it back otherwise. Even if he starts crying infront of you ignore him, he is just trying to get you back.
2006-10-21 10:29:43 · answer #3 · answered by Bronco16 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The best advice I can give you is to be truthful about your feelings.It may hurt him now but in the long run he will respect you and you will feel good about yourself for being honest.
2006-10-21 10:36:30 · answer #4 · answered by joseph 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the times it is not easy to beak-up.. Thi is no different..
You must be honest and forth right and tell him the truth and then move on.
Yes, he will be upset, but at least both of you will not be wasting anymore time...
Be direct, don't try to sugarcoat it or lie....
2006-10-21 10:33:45 · answer #5 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl if its over, its over. Just have his bags packed before he comes home and tell him. "Hey look, this isn't working for me anymore. I hope we can stay friend but I think we both need to move on. We need to start by you moving out." I'm Trully Sorry.
2006-10-21 10:29:01 · answer #6 · answered by itistigger70 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
um u'll hurt his feelings either way...just be honest and say it friendly and say u enjoyed being together but ur not right 4 eachother, and that's ur final word.
2006-10-21 10:27:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is no way to break up with anyone where someone does not get hurt all you can do is be honest
2006-10-21 10:28:12 · answer #8 · answered by melthule 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just plain out tell him. But if he doesn't listen then, tell him that your pregnant with someones elses baby. Don't tell him who it is.
2006-10-21 10:34:47 · answer #9 · answered by Love's Immortal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hes sentive then he aint to man just boot his *** out like so
See hon its over get out, go back to your moms basement
2006-10-21 10:27:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋