My girlfriend and I have known each other for 2 years and have been going out for 1 year alreayd. There are light-hearted jokes of marriage and children; do you think she's serious, and should I think about proposing?
2006-10-21 10:20:25 · 32 answers · asked by Barrister Wannabe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Any sensible person would know that 1 year of dating is far too short a time to seriously consider engagement or marriage. It sounds to me like she's exchanging in a little friendly banter. True, she's probably considering the future but that doesn't mean she wants to commit or enter into anything. If you're happy there's no rush to change anything and as far as I can see it no need to propose. Trust me, I should know.
2006-10-21 10:30:21 · answer #1 · answered by koochilly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not for me lol!
but my best friend is going to get married in a couple of years.
I think the best thing for you to do is to wait a little longer until your relationship has had more time to flourish.
Marriage is a life time commitment and you both need to be 100% sure that this is what you really want to do.
My best friend turned her boyfriend down the first time that he proposed to her as it was to soon for her.
However she accepted his second proposal a few years later as she had more time to get to know him and their love blossomed.
2006-10-21 10:56:32 · answer #2 · answered by Miss D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh definitely, but why are you on here asking? You should know she is the woman you want to marry shouldn't you? It's not a good idea to propose just cos hints are being dropped so either propose or run for your life
2006-10-21 10:23:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt be asking this question on the web.
If you are not sure and are asking on the web, then dont even think about it.
Marrying means the rest of your life with someone. Even more so for children.
When I wanted to do this with someone, there was no question at all about it. I was in love with her so much.
The fact that you have to ask this question means you do not think it is a 100% excellent idea.
Dont go there until you think it is a 100% excellent idea.
Hope that helps.
2006-10-21 10:43:21 · answer #4 · answered by gemstonesr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you ready to make a life-long commitment to one girl?
Are you financially, socially, mentally, spiritually stable?
Are you ready to be pestered about half a million tiny details about your wedding ceremony and the many days before that and after as well?
Are you happy with her and will love her all your life?
Are you willing to take on her family?
Are you both serious about each other?
Do you know all her quirky bits and does she know yours?
Do you accept them and tolerate them and vice versa?
Have you guys had any rocky moments and how did you handle them? Are you prepared to sit down and discuss things through to solve your problems together?
Would you be able to handle petty arguments in the midst of stress?
Are you prepared to make the first move and apologise?
Are you ready to protect her and your family, to make time for them even during your busiest day? To be there for them when they need you?
Have you guys talked to each other seriously about what you want from this relationship?
Do you know how she feels about where this relationship is going?
Marriage is a verb, a commitment, and has a lot of expectations.
Are you ready for them all?
Rhetorical questions to reflect on.
I'm not here to sway your pre-conceived (i believe you have some idea of what you want to do) opinion on what you should or should not do.
The best thing is to work out what you really want, then from there carry it through and carry on.
All the best.
God bless.
2006-10-21 10:41:41 · answer #5 · answered by demi-kun 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well now, ask your girlfriend if she would be interested in an actual engagement. If the answer is she would like to start a family, then yes it is about time to propose.
2006-10-21 10:25:14 · answer #6 · answered by socailbutterfly2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt be popping the question unless you are sure shes the 1 dont feel pressured into it, just because its what she or other may want, its up to you in the end, its a life time commitment, dont go into it without serious thought, and dont think you have to just cause it may seem the right thing to do at the time. good luck with what ever you decide.
2006-10-21 10:25:54 · answer #7 · answered by samantha s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it she is making these "jokes" not you?
If you love her, if you think you have many things in common, if you can visualise her very well as the mother of your children, if you are sexually very compatible....I don't see what you are waiting for.
If, on the other hand, you have no desire to be married, or not to her, then be honest and tell her she is barking up the wrong tree.
2006-10-21 10:36:53 · answer #8 · answered by simon2blues 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with my husband 8 years before we got married - not saying you're thinking about it too soon but there's no rush! There's never a rush - divorce is expensive & embarrassing.
By the way - I am still happily married - if you know she's the one...go for it...
2006-10-21 10:25:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its a bit early, maybe shes trying to find out if you see a future with her, and so she might not want that just now.
i think that couples should live together for a while before they get married, if you really love her and you are sure you are ready for the commitment then go for it, but maybe try speaking to her first about where you see the relationship going and what she wants from it.
2006-10-21 10:23:59 · answer #10 · answered by strawberry delight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋