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Question

My mom and i just got done fighting because she thinks i stay on the computer too long and thats y i dont have any friends... so we were fighting and she keeps screaming at me. Im tired of fighting with her. And i told her that if she wanted me to get off the computer then she should sign me up for something and she wont. I feel like shes a bad parent and I cant stand living with her. To top it off im on Lexapro and im diognosed with major depression and adhd... And evrey time i try to talk to her about something it allways turns into her screaming at me... so i cant talk to herbaout it.. HELP!!! thanks what should i do??????

Answer 1

She thinks that you should socialize more. But the part I don't get is why she won't she sign you up for any activities if she wants you to make friends? Tell her how you feel.

Answer 2

Is there anyone else you can talk to? A brother, an uncle, a grandfather?
First of all, I think kids are on the computer too much. My kids are. And I think that kids don't get enough exercise these days. You say that your mom should sign you up for something? Do you have a bike, a scooter or skateboard? Take a ride, a walk or a run around the neighborhood! You'll feel better afterwards.
Yes, as you can tell, I'm a mom. Do you know why your mom is mad? I think you are leaving out some info about your home life. Try a little understanding and see what happens.

Answer 3

well maybe you do spend way too much time on the computer.......i think if you went out and signed your self up for a sport/club/ volunteer work it would help with your depression because you will be keeping busy, you can't use depression as an excuse to not do anything or go out and make friends, if you stay at home all the time not doing anything it is just going to bore you and get you way more depressed than you already are. Also if you got involved in something it would give you something to focus on to keep your mind stimulated enough, and put your ADHD at ease. Your mom loves you and is tired of you just sitting around feeling sorry for yourself. I think if you did a sport you will find that you don't have to take your meds as much, and maybe eventually go completly off them.

Answer 4

I think you both should take it easy and try to understand each other. Your mother is right from one point of view that, if you are very long (don't know how long though) on the computer then, you do think that you have friends but actually you don't. You should make real life friends, with whom you can share emotions and thinking. That will certainly effect your depression part positive way.
You should not call or judge your parents as a bad parents. Because you can only understand what it takes to be a parent, when you yourself become a parent. There should be love and respect for each other and not negative attitude.

Answer 5

Well dear, for starters, you should not be fighting with your mother because its not right. You should always respect your mother no matter what. I understand what you are saying and feeling about the screaming because I've dealt with that before. The bible says that children should obey their parents and honor their parents. The bible also says that parents should not provoke their children. But still again I say that it is not right to fight with your mother. Try and find a peaceable time to sit down with your mother and just explain to her how you feel. Sometimes parents and children just have a lack of communication the reason things get so tensed between them. I wouldn't say that your mother is a bad parent because she screams at you, maybe she just doesn't know how to deal with certain issues. I'm quite sure your mother loves you with all her heart. Another thing I'd like to say, if you can't get your mother to listen to you, pray for your mother and you. I promise you God will help the both of you. Even when you don't agree with what your mother is telling you, just say yes maam and go on about your business. Learn to be humble toward your mother and maybe this will help change her. I know all to well how it is when a child argues with the parent it only makes the parent more upset. Whenever the child is just quiet and humble whenever the parent tells them something then things tends to go over smoothly. So just try not to argue with your mother and accept what she is saying and see how that works out. Just say yes maam and no maam. I promise you if you there will be a difference in her. I hope this advice helps.

Answer 6

Instead of feeling depressed and sorry for yourself and blaming it on your mom, do something... Take it one step at a time. Find the time to go to a library one day and just go out, or go to the mall by yourself and walk around, go out jogging. You should find an activity other than staying home and being on the computer all day. It's not healthy. Instead of yelling and fighting with your mom, tell her that you're trying your best and that you need her help and advice on what you can do. I know you always feel the need to rebel against her, but in order for you to talk to her, you need to control yourself and speak in a calm tone. If you allow your emotions to get in the way, you'll lose control and you'll just end up being angry at her. Hope this help. Good luck.

Answer 7

Well, it's true it takes two to fight. Consider how much time you are spending on the computer. What about reading, or after school free activities. How about getting involved with volunteer work at a hospital or nursing home?! Or get involved in a church youth program. There is soo much more to do than sit in front of the computer. I try to set a time limit for myself. Say maybe an hour a day.

Answer 8

Maybe split up your computer time, help mom out and take time out from the computer to be with the family, make friends at school...

It's OK to be a little depressed because you are going through changes and growing but being on depression medication is not good and to add in the ADHD may have some explanation to your staying shut in so much, take walks, go to the mall, make friends at school, join a school function....there are lots of ways to have a good time, I agree with mom in a way but she needs to be more compassionate too...Good Luck

Answer 9

It depends.
I'm assuming you are under age. If you are any younger than 18, you may need to consider having an intervention with your mother. You may need to live with another close, loving family member who understands. It is possible that your mother may need help understanding you. Consider counselling, for the two of you. Have another family member or school counselor encourage it. If you are home schooled, have another trust worthy adult do this ( if you are not close with your family). This situation is definately going to take some outside help. If you are over 18, strongly consider moving out and on with your life. Your mother NEEDs help dealing with you if you are depressed, sometimes parents dont understand depression in their children.
If you are a christian, I suggest you pray on it. Prayer works in these situations, trust me. Everything will be okay though, just keep your head up and focus on what you do and your future. Everything will be okay, I PROMISE!!!

Answer 10

do you attend therapy? if you have been diagnosed with major depression, you need to be going. it gives you a place to vent your frustrations and, even, talk to your mom about them in a less threatening place (meaning, with a (professional) third person present there isn't going to be any yelling and screaming from either of you).

your mom is probably frustrated because she sees you spending more time on the computer than she thinks is healthy. and, from what you have said - i'm betting she is right. your mom CARES. she's worried about you. and while, this isn't the best way for her to express it - that is what she is doing. I would strongly suggest that your mother decide what is an appropriate computer time for you each day. it sounds like she needs to make up a poster board with your rules and expectations along with any disciplinary actions when those are broken. that way, things will be clear for her, and for you, thus eliminating alot of the arguing.

yes, you feel like your mother is a bad parent and you feel like you cannot live with her. my daughter felt the same way about me until she was 18 and had lived on her own for several months. and now she is filled with apologies and regrets over her behavior as a child and a teen. my daughter struggled with some issues similar to yours. but there are good choices and bad choices and as much as you want to blame your mother right now - i'm here to tell you that you are as responsible for YOUR actions as she is for hers. you cannot fight with someone unless you are right there with them. learn to walk away yourself. she is not going to listen to somene who is screaming back at her anymore than you are going to listen to her when she is yelling.

as far as joining up with something. you need to figure out what it is that you would like to become involved in and, then, discuss it with your mother. it might be a matter of money that concerns her. sometimes there simply isn't enough to go around for everything everyone would like to do in the family. HOWEVER, there usually is something similar in the community that is very inexpensive or even free. sometimes there are scholarships available... you won't know until you ask. and your mother will be the best person to help you find out. start trying to get her involved in your life instead of pushing her further away. you really do need her... and i hear you admitting to that with your words. your fighting against her while your screaming for her.

good luck, honey. i wish you much happiness.

Answer 11

Are you in thearpy for your depression? Medication wont help cure you, it only takes away the symptoms. Go to your thearpist and ask them for a sestion with your mom. explain to them how you feel and what happens when you 2 argue. That way you will have a medeator there for you when you try to talk to your Mom. Good luck.