Can any one out there help me.Known this guy as a friend for 6 months.He is one of the kindest hearted people ive ever met.We are just friends and are very close we keep in contact every day and he always initiates it.We have become v close,nothing physical.He is not gay,married or doesnt have anyone else.But i want more he says he is not in love and feels he should be.How we r friends only?He flirts with me ,So confusing.He was hurt badly in a relationship a few years ago & is still holding on.He cant close himself off .He says he is terrified of making a big mistake with me but he needs to sort out his head .Do you think i should give him time -as do care about him.When i said i couldnt be friends -he said so is this goodbye and was quite upset.But he has been quiet for last few days -do men go into thier caves when they cant cope.-will he figure it out and how long does it take.
2006-10-21 09:52:04 · 28 answers · asked by shakira 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he doesn't feel it for you now, there is a good chance he won't for a long time. However, this past relationship poses a difference. If you can help him let go of his past relationship, not only will his heart be accessible to you, but he will feel grateful toward you for your efforts. It's a win/win situation.
2006-10-21 09:57:25 · answer #1 · answered by Charles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you have written he is obviously a very cautious guy who doesn't just get into any relationship with a girl without carefully considering the consequences, his and the girl's feelings. This is a great start, he is a decent guy! (of course you have to make sure he is indeed interested, not just saying those things to avoid having to tell you he doesn't want a girlfriend or you're not right). Guys are as sensitive as girls, most don't tend to show their emotions/feelings as much as girls as it's not seen to be quite 'cool' or 'manly' enough. Perhaps ask him if he is looking for a long term/short tem relationship, if he is, then consider if it's what you're looking for too. When you know you both want the same thing, ask if he is considering you as his girlfriend and remind him 'love' has no guarantee, no one can say whether one's decision is right or wrong before even it has started! Trust one's instinct and if it turns out right then great, if not, a lesson learnt and deal with it. Life is exciting only cos it's so unpredictable, risky! xx
2006-10-21 10:26:43 · answer #2 · answered by Helloyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes men do get hurt, and it takes them quite a while to recover. I have seen this before. Give him space and in time he may come around. You are aware it is very hard for a male to stay as friends with a female if the male is attracted to the female. See Ladder Theory on Google. So hang in there.
2006-10-21 10:02:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes we do. You see I have a very simular situation with this girl. It's been 3 years and we are inseperable. I can finish her sentences and know what she is thinking, and I love her to death, the problem is she doesn't want to take the relationship further. It is hard but You have to deal with it if you have feelings for the person just stay as friends and if your lucky they will come around.
2006-10-21 09:59:43 · answer #4 · answered by lucky 13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he certainly sounds like he's got feelings and sounds like a very nice guy. he's obviously got strong feelings for you to be in touch every single day. if you think that much of him and think he's worth waiting for give him some time and make sure he knows how you feel when he is ready. its really hard to trust when youve been badly hurt in a previous relationship. he probably just needs some time to get his head round things. good luck hope it all works out for you.x
2006-10-21 10:15:29 · answer #5 · answered by angelalways 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men do have feelings and some do find it hard to talk about them, i think you should give him time and be there as a freind for him, in time he will come round but for the moment you should forget about him as anything more and if it is meant to happen it will.
2006-10-21 14:14:31 · answer #6 · answered by hunybuny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probley wants 2 go out with u but if u guys break up it could make things wired between u 2 so maybe he likes u soo much that he donst ruin ur friendship and men do get confused with there feelings lol
2006-10-21 09:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by silly_beachblondie99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes we do. Well at least us men who are in touch with our emotions.
It sounds like you have read him well.Don't break your friendship you will know when he is ready to move on from his previous relationship. It took me 3 years before I opened up to relationships that are more then friendship. It sounds like he needs real friends at the moment.
2006-10-21 10:08:45 · answer #8 · answered by John T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its clear that he likes you but for some reason doesnt think that you two to date talk to him and ask why he is holding back and what he is terrified of doing. then you two can hopefully sort it out but everything happens for a reason so just wait and see
2006-10-21 10:02:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds a bit of a mixed up kid to me,i think we should concentrate on you now.stop hanging around for this guy get your backside out and about you will soon find someone who ticks all the right boxes,
that mixed up guy sounds a real liability to me.good luck.
2006-10-21 10:11:49 · answer #10 · answered by Cool Dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋