The mother of his child came to his house, he wasn't there and I was...All she wanted was for him to watch the baby for the weekend but I told her that he would be working full time this whole weekend and he couldn't. But after she left and he came home, for some reason the whole of idea of her coming over bothered me, because up until now I was under the impression that they ceased all communication and it was his mother who arranged visitations for him. The reality that there will always be another woman in our lives just hit me. I wanted to say something but it's the mother of his child...what do I do?
2006-10-21 09:27:47 · 6 answers · asked by Cathy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you want to be with this guy then you will have to except these interrupted moments as the child gets older they will become more frequent, but let the father do his own talking that way you aren;t gonna be caught in the middle .make sure he gets his messages tho if you are the one shes speaking to.i would just tell her to come back later or call when hes home .
2006-10-21 09:41:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of this one, now!
You are a successful woman with her own needs and priorities. Be proud that you did not succomb to being the other woman dropping off another daddy's baby!
You want your own family someday, with your own children. Don't be a mommy for someone else. He is a father because he made a mistake, not because he reveled in the needs of fatherhood.
Here's a hint. Any indication of how he takes care of his child is a direct indication of how HE WILL TAKE CARE OF YOU! If he were a real man, he would be married to the mother of his child and not have his baby mama dropping by, talking to you in the door stoop.
I respect what you see in this man, but i respect more the fact you aren't the other woman on the other side of the door.
Be strong, be proud and be a true woman who stands up for her convictions.
Wish you luck!
2006-10-21 16:33:57 · answer #2 · answered by diagofaldi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you said, but if you will permit me to comment..
normally the mother would not have intruded like that. As you noted, visitation is arranged.
did she have an urgent need?
Sorry, I just felt concern for her situation.
And yes, nothing will be the same.
2006-10-21 16:37:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is up to you. Here are 2 questions for you to think about. Are you willing to put up with the ex stopping by when she feels like it? Are you ready to be in a relationship with a guy and his children and his ex?
Food for thought. Good luck with your situation. You my dear are going to need it unless your boyfriend sets up rules and boundries with the ex.....
2006-10-21 16:34:15 · answer #4 · answered by Ms.Deb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you answered your own question,there will always be her and if hes not being honest and open with you then you will always have her in the back of your mind.Find someone with no kids thats always a plus
2006-10-21 16:31:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him about it and see wat he does
2006-10-21 16:30:57 · answer #6 · answered by pretty_hot105 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋