My dog died 8 months ago. He was my baby and i had him for 8years. My dad got rid of him to a rescue centre (even though i could have taken him), he lied to me saying he was rehomed with a lovely family! I knew he was lying so a month later i rang over 80 rescue centres. But no look! 8 months later i couldnt take it no more and my mums bf rang my dad and he told me what rescue centre! When i rang my dog had been there for 1week when he took ill of a gastric twist the rescue centre operated but he was so depressed and didnt pick up he was put down 10 days later. I was devestated. Arnie hated kennels and i missed so many holidays because i couldnt put him in them. Im having nightmares about it and cant let it go! I know longer speak to my dad. I have a new dog but hes just not the same! I love him but theres somethink missing!
How can i get over it. Ive grieved for so long when he went and then 8 months later when i found out he had died!
Thanks kim
2006-10-21 09:27:12 · 10 answers · asked by kimlovesbarney 3 in Pets ➔ Dogs
It takes time, my dear, sometimes a lot of time. What's making this so hard is that your father did this - there has to be anger about that too, and that's making it hard to come to terms with this. I don't blame you for not talking to your father. He lied to you and took away your companion for no reason. It's OK to be angry about that. It sounds like your mom and her boyfriend are understanding, especially since the BF made your dad admit what he had done, and got you a new dog. Perhaps if you could go to one of them and tell them you need to talk. If that doesn't work, go to someone, maybe a counselor at school, and ask to talk.
And remember, your new dog needs love too - it's not his fault that this happened. Spend some time with him every day - you can tell him your troubles too.
I hope things get better for you soon, and they will - you have to let them, so you can be at peace with this.
Good luck, dear.
2006-10-21 09:43:55 · answer #1 · answered by Nightlight 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know getting over a loved pet ,like a dog, is really hard. Just try not to remember that he/she is gone and remember the good times that u had. Or the most simple way is just to get a new dog..I know U will not have the same feelings about the new dog ,but as time passes u will grow to love and care for that dog as you did for your past dog.
2006-10-21 09:34:04 · answer #2 · answered by Cruser 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is any way of ever getting over your dogs death. There is moving on and trying not to feel sad every day...putting the hurt feelings aside and looking towards the future with your new dog. My two bullmastiffs died last year of terrible cancers...One had his leg removed and was treated with chemotherapy while the other suffered with a horrible stomach cancer. I had to put them down at different times right after the other and now have their ashes. BUT... I too have two new dogs and they are nothing like my old bullies and I have come to understand that they will never be like my bullies because each is so different from the other and have unique personalities. like different children. Although I love my new dogs dearly, I still miss my bullies and know now that I always will.. but, everyday remember the good things about them and still cry because I miss the way my girl use to look at me or the way my boy would drop down for belly rubs...so, I think they will always be with us no matter what and it will always hurt when we think about them but we are blessed for having these forever soulmates and friends who will never leave our side and who will be waiting for us on the other side of the rainbow bridge forever! I am so sorry for your loss and feel very much for your hurting! Try to go on with your new dog and know he/she will be a different pal... but always remember your blessed friend and keep your dog forever in your heart for they would do the same for us and try to Smile when you think of him/her!
2006-10-21 09:45:44 · answer #3 · answered by Gift-Shop-Dogs.Com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. My dog died last year I had her since kindergarten and my mom got her from the pound. She got ran over and all I did that day was curl up in her blanket she slept in that night and watched TV. I was so sad but what you need to do is just think how happy she might be right now. it helped me.
2006-10-21 09:32:25 · answer #4 · answered by HyperHammie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well why didnt you take him in? Just make a scrap book with your dogs memorie and get a new puppy. Similar thing happened to me and im still working on getting over it. My parents got divorced and my step father kept our dog only to be given away to some stranger. I feel so bad because he didnt even give me the option to take my dog in. :( Try to take your mind of it.
2006-10-21 12:31:44 · answer #5 · answered by Spiritual_Soul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time alone can heal. My dog died 7 1/2 months ago and I still get misty thinking of him. But it does hurt less today than it did then. Give it time.
2006-10-21 09:31:30 · answer #6 · answered by Reverend Black Grape 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you, it is devastating. I lost My Min Pin, he was an escape artist and got out one to many times, tried to cross a busy road and didn't make it, it took about a year before I even considered getting another dog, but now I have 5.
2006-10-21 09:30:12 · answer #7 · answered by Axe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to realize that death is a part of life. When something dies, it is replaced by another. By knowing death is a part of life, I never morne over the death of a loved one.
2006-10-21 09:37:08 · answer #8 · answered by darksam3 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he's in a better place than her ever will be! Think about it this way, He's with God, and that's all that matters!
2006-10-21 09:49:35 · answer #9 · answered by purple_gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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get a new dog
2006-10-21 09:32:08 · answer #10 · answered by tannngo(: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋