My boyfriend and I are in our twenties and have been dating for the past year and a half. He treats me well, and I love him very much. However, there's just something I can't put my finger on that makes me not want to be with him. I've tried to figure out what it is so I can fix it, but I can't. He's a great guy and deserves to be with someone amazing. I'm just not sure if I can give him all he deserves. Yet at the same time, I'd feel bad about ending something that's been so wonderful over a problem I can't even define. This is a really confusing situation for me (and one that's hard for me to convey in 1000 characters), but any help you can give would be very much appreciated.
2006-10-21 09:24:35 · 7 answers · asked by Lu 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know what you mean. I went through that same thing. Easy answer: Break it off and don't look back, he is NOT your soul-mate. Although easy answers are not always easy to execute, right ?
2006-10-21 09:28:30 · answer #1 · answered by Richard J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ending a long relationship i svery hard!! because U remember the good things and u are affraid not having someone like him ever.
My thought is that that U should talk to him even if U dont know whats the problem maybe he will help U!! Because if he loves U he will try to make things better and he will help U find out what the ussue is!!!
U should look closley at him while he is sleeping and imagine that U would want to be with him after 5 years too!!! Whats the very first idea that comes to U that should U do!!!
2006-10-21 09:32:16 · answer #2 · answered by L...A... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your relationship have good chemistry? I just got divorced from my best friend, we loved each other a ton, but just didn't have the passion to make it work long-term. If the chemistry is there, you should really try to figure out what it is about him that you don't like. But you should never stay in a relationship with someone just because they're a "great guy", no matter how great he is, if you don't feel the same way, you're heading down a long hard road. You won't be fulfilled, and he'll resent you for not feeling the same way about him, in spite of how great he is.
2006-10-21 09:34:28 · answer #3 · answered by Wally Five-O 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! What a delimma you have Lu. One the one hand he is a great guy! Not a lot of them out there, it seems. On the other, honey, you can't stay with him if IT isn't there. It is not fair to him for you to be thinking elsewhere. I wish for you the best. Please don't drag this out and hurt him more than he will be. Be honest. I'd rather be hurt by the truth than decieved, wouldn't you? Good Luck Lu and you have my thoughts. Nana
2006-10-21 09:29:28 · answer #4 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always go with your gut instincts. You may know what the deal is now, but later on you may find out and you'll be glad you ended it. There is a reason you're feeling this way. A woman's gut intuition never fails.
2006-10-21 09:27:06 · answer #5 · answered by blueeyeskenai 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should try talking to him and let him know that there is something missing so you two can talk about it together. Otherwise you may leave him find out what it was and regret what you gave up on.
2006-10-21 09:46:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just got to do what you feel. If you do break it off, let him know just how wonderful he is. Take some time though to make sure what it is you want to do.
GOOD LUCK
2006-10-21 09:30:18 · answer #7 · answered by the one who knows 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋