In my 11 hour shift I make time to call my boyfriend at least once but he always tells me "there wasn't a moment to call you honey, work was busy" Would you be angry? How do I get him to show more interest? He just asked me to marry him sans ring but I still want him to show interest, he used to call 4 or 5 times a day
2006-10-21 09:15:43 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
that`s to much calling~you call him, or YOU go to "work" with him one day!
2006-10-21 09:18:52 · answer #1 · answered by girly_girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you have been dating for quite some time and that the infatuation is beginning to wane on his side. This doesn't mean that he doesn't love you, it simply means that his love had cooled off a bit and he is considering you in a more intellectual way. This is natural so don't worry if he is "busy" at work. My wife calls me once or twice a day just "because." Girls like to talk and stay in touch while guys can be disconnected until the current task is done. The secret to a long-term relationship is keeping it fresh with romantic dinners, cruises, vacations, and such. I also advise that you hold off on the kids for at least a couple of years to give your marriage a chance to mature and that you may see the world. You will be glad that you waited!!!
Take care and have a wonderful life with the man you love.
Mr. M on "is this fair?"
2006-10-21 16:26:09 · answer #2 · answered by Humberto M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't smother him. I would prefer it if my man did what was comfortable for him. I wouldn't want to make him do things or feel like he "has" to do things. If he wants he will call. If he doesn't call as much as he used to maybe he is happy with the way things are now. You know how things are when you first meet someone, things are exciting and new than you get used to it and you get more settled into being comfortable and happy with that person and you don't do things so much. I am sure he still loves you though.
I think I feel like talking or something because this is a long answer.
2006-10-21 16:21:18 · answer #3 · answered by sharpy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's not interest that you need out of him. Do you want him to call more often? In this case, perhaps you should ask him to call you more often in a nice, but not needing way. Maybe: "You know, honey, it'd be nice to hear your voice at work every day. It makes the work day so much better."
He may be right, though. Work may just be too hectic for him to think to take the time out of it to call you. Or perhaps he got in trouble for calling you when he's supposed to be working and just didn't want to tell you and make you feel badly? Try to look it from his point-of-veiw, too.
2006-10-21 16:19:48 · answer #4 · answered by Zombie Squee.™ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe you guys are getting to the point of the relationship where you dont call each other every minute. but once a day is a must! it is unfair that he can't find time but maybe... he REALLY can't find time, right?
Tell him how you feel and that you want your relationship to stay the way it started because that is why you are with him. Don't get mad or frustrated, it'll scare him. Just be sweet and calm and he'll automtically want to call you himself.
2006-10-21 16:19:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he used to call you 4 to 5 times a day and now hes not , then he is losing intrest, i dont think i would marry this person until i was sure about the relationship.
2006-10-21 16:20:20 · answer #6 · answered by belfiglioval 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long have you known him, how is his character? marriage is not a one day phenomenone it's a life time commitment.
again making flimsy excuses for not always calling you is enough reason for you to delay his proposal don't rush in so that you don't rush out with a broken heart.
he might end up making flimsy excuses for not being with you when you need him most after the marriage. love is reciprocal and i can assure you of one thing the little thing that is done that count alot.
2006-10-21 16:23:53 · answer #7 · answered by COKO- E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I know for sure that you and I wouldn't be compatible. I don't get enough time to take my breaks, phone calls are out of the question.
2006-10-21 16:20:22 · answer #8 · answered by 42ITUS™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get very busy in my job too hun. Don't assume he's not interested or not thinking about you. Work just interferes way too much
2006-10-21 16:20:04 · answer #9 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop calling him. He might be saving money and not calling because he knows you are going to call anyway.
Anyway, why would he call when you have called and you too have spoken to each other
2006-10-21 16:19:59 · answer #10 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋