i really like this guy but he lives like 9 hours away. do long distance relationships really work?
2006-10-21 09:03:32 · 18 answers · asked by xothelittlemermaidox 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NOPE!
2006-10-21 09:04:35 · answer #1 · answered by Ree J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you both want. It helps if the relationship began with you two nearby each other. And also helps if you two want to be together for a long time in the future. I was in 2 long distance relationships of over a year and the first one didn't last because we couldn't keep in touch well so communication is important and you two are willing to do what it takes to keep things close and open. The second relationship however lasted because we both wanted to be together for a long time and were serious about each other. I'd talk to the guy and see you both want the same things for the future and if he's willing to try extra hard to stay in touch. Remember you're worth someone giving you what you need in a relationship.
2006-10-21 16:10:11 · answer #2 · answered by MissMo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine has. Two years and counting. I'm in the US, he's in Canada. As long as you trust each other and stay in contact every day, being in a long distance relationship can be very rewarding. You have no idea how nice it is to see each other after a few months.
Now, there are a few obstacles you'll have to get by.
1. No guy will take "I'm seeing someone" seriously if they know he's not in the same town.
2. You really really really have to trust yourself and your partner. THERE IS NO WAY TO PROVE IF THEY ARE CHEATING.
3. It gets hard only talking to him once a day. some days you'll want to talk longer. some days you won't have much to say.
But, remember, Distance makes the heart grow fonder.
2006-10-21 16:09:52 · answer #3 · answered by cyber_music 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They can do, but you both have to want to put the effort in.
Its a good test of the relationship. - It can be really hard at times - not even with being tempted by other guys but missing the emotional support of a boyfriend but all relationships have hard ships.
You need to communicate every day really by phone, text, email or letter - so that they are a part of your daily life.
Make plans to see each other even if its a while off.
You also have to decide fairly quick how much you like someone and how serious you are - you can't have a casual relationship with someone who it takes so much time and effort to see - it cuts out a lot of the crap and messing about.
Whilst i wouldn't say its the easiest solution it has brought me and my boyfriend closer together as we work through the difficulties. - and looking forward to the times we will see each other. Temptations have been there for both of us, but both of us agree that we want to be with eachother more than anyone else and if that situation changed we would talk to each other about it. It would be pointless to put in the effort to go out if our hearts weren't in it.
My boyfriend is flying over from the states to england for christmas and it will be the first time i have seen him in six months.
I think you should give it a go - good luck
2006-10-21 16:08:31 · answer #4 · answered by Bebe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly they don't
unless you have your own place and some good funds
that way you can travel to see each other often and your own place to have eachother come over when ever and do whatever.
Talking on the phone alot and seeing echother once a month or even longer wont cut it
and he might even end up cheating on you with a girl who lives closer to him.
Im just being honest, stay away from that situation
unless youre grown and can do whatever you want when you want as I mentioned up top.
2006-10-21 16:12:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've known each other in person before. Then it can work if both of you are committed to it. You could also give it a try if you two plan to meet in the near future, and continue meeting regularly meeting up no matter what the frequency of the meetings. But make sure to meet.
But if this is just some guy you met over the internet, then I wouldn't advise it. You may just end up heart broken.
Good luck!!
2006-10-21 16:13:13 · answer #6 · answered by Stavi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am seeing all though of people saying no... But I am going to say YES they do work I'm sorry all you negative NO people but they do. The key is really communication. If you dont have that you will pretty much have nothing in a LD relationship. I am here in the states and my boyfriend lives in London England how is that for a LD relationship? I am going over to London in December to see him. Im getting off track here. You also have to think of our troops that are over seas in Iraq as well. most of them are holding on to a LD relationship even a long distant marrige as well. And most of the time it manages to work out. You just need to follow your heart and let it guide you, dont listen to your mind listen to your heart. I hope it works out for you in the end.
2006-10-25 00:15:18 · answer #7 · answered by karebear81x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had 3-NO NO NO
2006-10-21 16:05:33 · answer #8 · answered by ellasmomma1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am in a long distance relationship, we have been together nearly 2 years, so in my opinion it can work, but only if you are both willing to work on it.
2006-10-21 16:06:24 · answer #9 · answered by amethyst2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how you both want to make it work. It always takes two to make relationships work regardless if you live together or far apart.
2006-10-21 16:06:24 · answer #10 · answered by simplyjaxxs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just want to say good luck girl, bless you and hope it all works out for you.
Go for it <3
2006-10-21 16:05:38 · answer #11 · answered by vintageprincess72 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋