Well, if you've read the other relationship related questions I've aked, you'll know what this is all about. This is the next installment. On Thurs night. He texts, lots, telling me how wonderful I am,how I make him smile, and how he's upset if I am. The night before however I had posted a letter to him. Basically, the letter said how I'm glad he just wants to be friends, (See previous), that I'm sorry for pushing it, how he must think I'm big headed for thinking he'd be intrested in me that way. How I shouldn't assume I'd be top of his list when he is ready. Wnating more than friendship was me being greedy. Also that it's a relief to know he just wants to be friends, how he's no hidden agendas, and he wants me for me and not my 36DD. How many men lose intrest when I say no to sex. And that's what most men want from me at the mo. I said it's exactly what I need, a friend.
Now he hasn't texted, phoned, called round nothing for four days. Which is HIGHLY unusual! Please help. In detail
2006-10-21 08:59:58 · 11 answers · asked by flumoxed 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've texted him, no reply.
2006-10-21 09:00:23 · update #1
I really feel like texting saying, I've really missed you these past few days, but this is probably wrong.Is it?
2006-10-21 09:02:43 · update #2
He's the one who said first that he wanted to be friends. I've been wanting to sleep with HIM for ages. He knows this.
2006-10-21 09:18:38 · update #3
You USA (americans) in a relations you talks to much about it with your pair (nope) the relation you suppose to live to about other thing in life, dreams, the future, family, etc, not about call me, why you didn't call. give each other space and time for other things including to think.
2006-10-21 09:15:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh, you've got it real bad here… but you're riding the fence more than Tom Sawyer right now!
You want him in your life as more than a friend, and that's commendable. But, here's the bad honesty, sex is a part of a intimate relationship. If you don't want to sleep with the dude, then you really aren't interested in him, just his ability to constantly listen to your endless diatribe. And to be honest, most guys would have told you to kiss off by now in that regard.
If you want his love in your life, you want all his love. If you just want a friend, you want a friend. Friends don't owe you their whole life, only a small bit; and your credit is all used up on this one.
A 36DD, huh? I don't really know about that one. Men in the 21st century are looking for the Abercromie girls with B cups and below, so not much of a selling feature there. If your question is any indication of your personality, i would say strike 2.
Maybe all he wanted was a friend, and the pressure you applied in bringing up the sex and relationship talk may have scared him away. If that's the case, here's what you do…
1) Tell him you are sorry for placing him in a delicate spot, offer to make amends to his ego (men have fragile egos), and take him out somewhere to show gratitude for all the time he put into listening to you!
2) If you do have strong feelings for him, now is the time to sleep with him. Personally, i know you have slept with men with and for much less. Give this nice guy a chance now for something new and beautiful.
3) If you do not want this guy around in a romantic way, please let him know gently and remove yourself from his life. He needs his own chance to be happy, and not mitigating your life for your sake.
I apologize for being to brunt, but really, treat a nice guy how you wish to be treated… nice.
Hope it helps!
2006-10-21 09:13:54 · answer #2 · answered by diagofaldi 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Seems to me you are not giving him space like he has given you,you seem to be all over him like a cheap suit,when all he really wants to do at the moment is recover from a divorce with some non-pushy friends around.If this guy is worth waiting for,then wait.You are correct,you are being a tad greedy,and more than a tad pushy-let him sort his mindset out in his own way at his own pace before coming onto him with the force of a fcukin freight train.He let you recover,so you let him.Just tone the pushiness down-it'll be worthwhile in the end,you see-slowly slowly catchee monkey:-)
2006-10-22 01:03:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
That just proves the point that men are after 1 thing. I wouldn't bother with him any more if he was telling the truth then he'd be with you now listening to what evers on you mind
2006-10-21 09:09:31 · answer #4 · answered by football mad 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dont know how to access your other questions but i'd suggest going round if its possible, maybe he's confused cos it sounds like mixed messages. if you want him properly then let him know. face to face. talking about stuff like this over the phone and even in letters is risky business. people can take things the wrong way and interpret differently to what you actually ment. time to talk properly.
2006-10-21 09:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you did the right thing. i don't think you should give in to those sweet talk that would end up making you sad. they don't come in handy when you are impregnated by him or when he dump you. atleast you now know his motive wasn't the love he professed.
2006-10-21 09:11:53 · answer #6 · answered by COKO- E 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dont stress yourself about it..if he calls the next time...good..if he doesnt...well then maybe he really is just one of those guys..if he was really interested..he wouldnt wait for four days...he would call you everyday
2006-10-21 09:03:14 · answer #7 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh, just leave the poor boy alone already.
2006-10-21 09:02:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Move on.
2006-10-21 09:04:51 · answer #9 · answered by Jack1234 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him to **** off
2006-10-21 09:09:15 · answer #10 · answered by voluptuous 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋