I broke up with my girlfriend 4 months ago. I totally broke her heart, but I was upfront and honest with her in that I didn't want to get married, and she did. We were together 2 years.
We talked afterwards for a few weeks and said we could try to be friends, but it's been 3 months with no contact from her whatsoever. I didn't want to push it, in case she was hurt or whatever, and just give her space.
It's her birthday soon, and I'm wondering if I should just send an email saying hi, wishing her a happy birthday, etc. I do not want to hook up or anything, I just want to wish her a happy birthday and hope that things are going well with her.
Is this a bad idea?
2006-10-21 08:42:10 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hmmm... I don't think you should, soley because you haven't talked in 3 months. Why send her a message now? You might just stir things up by doing so.
I'd hate to be getting over someone and doing great and then they send me a message or something... it'd confuse me a bit. But that's just me.
To keep it short: I don't think you should.
2006-10-21 08:45:37 · answer #1 · answered by PrettyProblem 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-18 17:04:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that's a bad idea. If you contact her that could give her a idea that you might want her back. She probably will get a mix signal. If you want to call her on her birthday you should tell her straight out just friends, because if you don't she will still have hope for you hooking back up. Also it's not a good idea to have a ex for a friend unless you have a child together. This could effect your next mate.
2016-05-22 08:09:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ... I think it would be nice if you send her a birthday e-card. Just be careful what you pick out for her so she doesn't get her hopes up of you two getting together again. You already broke her heart once. If you care for her at all, even as a friend, you should not break her heart again.
2006-10-21 08:46:39 · answer #4 · answered by xv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-25 23:15:31 · answer #5 · answered by lan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i don't think that it would be a bad idea to contact her on her b-day!!!!
she probably would love to hear from you, but let her know a head of time that you don't want to hook up are anything, that it is strictly friendly.
2006-10-21 08:49:24 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. Helpful 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad idea! Don't ruin her birthday.. You broke her heart you are the last person she wants to hear from on her birthday..
2006-10-21 08:45:15 · answer #7 · answered by Hot Mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's a horrible idea. Don't do it. Just let it go. It's been three months. She's probably with another guy now, and you don't want to hear about that.
Just let it go.
2006-10-21 08:44:18 · answer #8 · answered by stevejensen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
part of me says whats its going to hurt but then part of me says no dont. she hasnt made contact with you and myabe hearing from you might make her upset depending if shes moved on or not.
Maybe you could call and say ,HI its ______. Just callling to say Happy Birthday. Share some small talk and just end it with, "well hope its a good one" (birthday), so your not sending other messages that "Talk to you later" or "See you around/later" might.
2006-10-21 08:48:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be tricky, some girls would interpret that as you trying to keep them holding on to you...but if you keep it short and simple maybe she'll be wise enough to get that it's just a good wish and nothing more.
2006-10-21 08:45:13 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ ms. @ ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋