She was hanging out with them the other night and they pressured her to hook up with like 2 of the guys and she did. i was extreamly mad and we talked about it. she told me that we should take a break cuz she cant take it when i get mad all the time when she hangs out with other guys. i cant really blame myself for getting mad but now it feels like i lost some 1 really close to me. we have been best friends since the 3rd grade and together since ninth. she still says how in the love of her life and she doesnt like them she just wants to have fun. I need some help. Plz help!
2006-10-21 08:34:58 · 10 answers · asked by RJ J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
shes a whore, find a new girl because this girl cant make you happy.
2006-10-21 08:36:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would tend to be somewhat suspicous of her for such behaviour. Assuming ofcourse that she is going out with them very often and not just a 1 or 2 times a month.
Assuming this the case, you are pretty justified in your anger. I myself would have a problem with this.
Often times someone who 'just wants to have fun' is not the very loyal or devoted type. The major question being, why cant she 'just have fun' going out with you, rather than out guys all the time.
It seems almost as though she is using you for affection and the pretenses of being in a relationship, while seeking out other people to amuse her.
In any case, she is hardly what one might call mature. And clearly, is not ready for the responsbility and commitment of a real relationship.
3 things you can do as far as i see it
1. Talk to her about it, tell her you cannot accept this behavior, if she is a reasonable person and actually cares for you, perhaps you can work something out and compromise.
2. Outright dump her because it is very likely she will not change
3. Continue in a relationship where you are constantly jealous and upset, and the relationship will slowly deteriorate, and if she hasnt already, you will push he away and she will cheat on you.
2006-10-21 16:21:50 · answer #2 · answered by erature 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she thinks its okay that she can "hook up" with other guys but still have a boyfriend isnt very much of a loyal person. You have the right to be mad if you guys talked about it and she blamed it on you for the reason that you guys were going to take a break. If you really truly still love her then maybe take her on a really fun date where she can realize that she dosent have to go see other guys to have fun. Also talk to her about how you think its wrong that she hooked up with the other guys. Talk to her about how she can still hang out with them as friends but how you think its not right that she has to go see them to have fun, show her that you care, and are some what protective. (dont be over-protective though, and ban her from talking to other guys)
2006-10-21 15:41:58 · answer #3 · answered by blahblah10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well tell her if u keep hanging out with these guys I'm going 2 break up with u.
2006-10-21 15:43:54 · answer #4 · answered by Timolin 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
go along with her and her friends.
or maybe take her to a theme park...if she's just into the "fun" thing.
but maybe it's more then that.
maybe she doesn't like being held down to someone...and still imagens her life as "free" and loveable. talk to her about it. maybe give her some space to think⥠just don't pressure her. good luck.
2006-10-21 15:38:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating get easier everytime it's done. it's only hard the first time.
2006-10-21 15:43:25 · answer #6 · answered by sunbunnie72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she will eventually sleep with these guys if she isn't already. put her to the test, ask her to go with her and her"friends." if she gives you a lot of BS answers why you cant go...dump her skanky ***!!!
2006-10-21 15:39:53 · answer #7 · answered by ree ree 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over it, she had friends before you and that little green monster you carry on your shoulder will just PISS her off...
2006-10-21 15:37:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she hooks up with other dude? dump her and move on.
2006-10-21 15:38:47 · answer #9 · answered by dontdoit! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is willing to... do it with her
2006-10-21 15:45:05 · answer #10 · answered by Victor G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋