He has created many drinking related problems....and he seems to be a different person when high..He will fall into depression and keep complaining that his job suxs..(i mean who realli enjoy their work? If they do then probably the company might need to collect entry charge at the entrance)
2006-10-21 08:05:40 · 9 answers · asked by Sweetie C 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
video tape him the next time he starts doing this kind of behavior, secretly, if possible........then, the next time you can, leave the tape laying there, with a note that says 'play me', and leave the house, so he can be alone to see what he is like for himself....
2006-10-21 08:16:58 · answer #1 · answered by melissa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You straight out tell him. Your drinking is a problem.
If after that, he goes into denial, you should probably put the relationship on hold, take a break from it or even end it, for your own sake.
Do not attempt to "save" him or "reform" him. You can't -- he needs professional help. You are not qualified, no matter how much you may love him. I don't believe he's ready to accept help yet. He might have to hit bottom before he finds his way back up to the top. I hope not.
Your boyfriend has issues and the drinking is not the fundamental problem. I would also not want you to be in, say, his car with him after he's been drinking.
It's important to protect yourself even if you cannot protect him. Tell him and leave him. This may not be what you want to hear but then neither does your boyfriend want to hear about his drinking. Think about that.
FYI: I LOVE my career!! No need to be insulting after you've asked for other people's help.
2006-10-21 08:20:21 · answer #2 · answered by TweetyBird 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If as you say he is egotistical, there's not much one person can do. Can you organize an intervention of several friends to talk to him and maybe get him some help? If he's in denial though you probably won't get far.
I'm more concerned about *you*--do you need the emotional and perhaps eventual physical trauma this relationship will eventually cause in your life? You can't "rescue" him, esp. if he doesn't want to be rescued. Think about moving on to greener, safer pastures. You deserve better.
2006-10-21 08:12:08 · answer #3 · answered by anna 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm telling you... right here and now... that you can't change anyone. If you try to change someone, they'll fight you every step of the way. You cannot change anyone, and certainly cannot change your b/f.
The best words you can use to change him are something like:
"I love you, and will always love you. When you stop getting high and getting drunk, give me a call and we'll talk. It is simply too painful for me to be your girlfriend, and it's not healthy for you to have me as your girlfriend, and I love both of us too much to keep this going."
After you break up with the guy, YOU (not him) need to go to therapy and find out why you got into a relationship with this guy, why you stayed in, and what makes you very likely to find another guy just like him for the next b/f.
2006-10-21 08:16:18 · answer #4 · answered by geek49203 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he's an alcoholic. He'll deny. Provide some examples where alcohol complicated his life. He'll deny. Dare him to go three days without a drink if he's not an alcoholic he should be able to. After failing the dare, insist that he receive treatment or go to AA or you're leaving. If no, leave or live with it.
2006-10-21 08:10:32 · answer #5 · answered by jack w 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think that you cannot tolerate his alcoholic habit then leave him for a better man. Otherwise, live with it and don't complaint because there is no solution to it. Alcoholic, smoker and drug addict are hard core habits that are very, very difficult to quit.
2006-10-21 17:48:44 · answer #6 · answered by James Louis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say this, but do you really want to be with someone like that? Is he worth it? My guess is no...
2006-10-21 08:13:24 · answer #7 · answered by abbas_n_chantel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will always fall on deaf ears until he himself realizes that he has a problem... There is nothing that you can do to make him listen................
2006-10-21 08:15:01 · answer #8 · answered by mysticideas 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you just did, show him the question
2006-10-21 08:14:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋